Author	Thread: False Confidence vs. True Confidence
Admin	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 8 Nov, 2013 02:39 PM I was thinking about this on my way home from work today, about how when dispensing dating advice people will often say how important being confident is, therefore just be confident and then they just leave it at that. As a result, a lot of people are going around with the misguided notion that if they are confident in the belief that they are awesome or amazing or whatever it is they think the opposite sex wants, that they will be more likely to be seen as attractive, but I don't think that's the case. I think there is a false confidence and a true confidence and the following are examples of what I think some of the differences are between the two: False confidence is proving to yourself you're a nice (or any other desirable attribute) guy/gal, while real confidence is proving to them you're a nice guy/gal. True confidence is being eager and looking for a way to demonstrate the positive characteristics about yourself during the course of the interaction vs. being more passive, holding back, and not looking for a way to demonstrate this, and then putting it on them for not trying hard enough to break through your shell and do their part to see what a great guy/gal you really are. True confidence is knowing that just because you are not disrespectful does not automatically mean you are respectful. Does that make sense? What's your take on these? Any other ideas or ways of putting it? Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 8 Nov, 2013 05:13 PM Ummmmmmmm....false confidence vs. true confidence.....well my friend, I can imagine the quandary this poses for you and many! I myself always wondered why some people I've met over my lifetime, tried sooooo hard to impress others by being virtually "over-confident", which pretty much equates, to me, false confidence. False confidence, in my opinion, comes from misplaced insecurity. The need to be someone your not, overrides you just being yourself! The fear of letting someone think that you have accomplished or succeeded in something that you haven't....well that never turns out good(smile)! The truth will eventually prevail! True confidence....well that takes on a whole different premise! Again only in my opinion, true confidence needs no introduction.....you'll know it when you see it(smile)! When you know who and what you are.....knowing Whom you belong to, you never have to put on false airs.....your confidence, or better yet assurance of your person and purpose, will attract those with the same qualities or interest! Now that's not to say that you'll attract some who you may, on a whole, not purposely seek an acquaintance or relationship with, but well who knows, God has His way of placing folks in your life that could ultimately bring honor and glory to Him and His Kingdom.....one never knows does one(smile)!!!! I hope my brother this helps a little....be blessed! Post Reply
View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 10 Nov, 2013 10:11 PM How 'bout this? False confidence cries for help in its behavior. True confidence cries to help in its behavior. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 11 Nov, 2013 06:13 AM This is why i love being in these forums,they keep me thinking after reading some posts,and also sharpens my mind. Am already thinking where i belong. One thing am sure of is false confidence cries for help.False confidence will always want to prove a point.While true confidence will never care what others see or think.True confidence brings out the real person. Post Reply
View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 12 Nov, 2013 10:29 PM Another one: True confidence embraces reality. False confidence denies it. Post Reply
View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 14 Nov, 2013 12:26 AM To barrow from what the great Chip Kelly says: True confidence plays with emotion. False confidence lets emotions play with them. Post Reply
View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 14 Nov, 2013 06:01 AM I think it is more the difference of being self-confident and being confident in HIM. Being confident in our own abilities is useless because those can change and our flesh is weak. Knowing that you are what God wants you to be and that He is in control of your life is true confidence. When you are pleasing to God, it doesn't matter what others think of you. Post Reply
View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 16 Nov, 2013 12:50 AM I think self-confidence is perfectly fine as long as it is used to glorify God and does not necessarily equate to false confidence. As long as you acknowledge God is the source of your abilities and you use them to love others, and to love and glorify and grow closer to Him. I think when our abilities are used for purposes other than that is when it becomes false confidence because we are denying the true source, purpose, and meaning of those abilities. I don't think having self-confidence and confidence in God are necessarily directly opposed to each other. Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 24 Nov, 2013 09:29 PM I believe self confidence is of varying intensity as we go through life. I think I was more confident when I was younger. And for me, to portray the difference of false and true confidence is� if someone say something bad about a person and that person tend to dispute it verbally, that is false confidence. True confidence is to never mind the accusation and just prove them wrong by actions. Politicians now tend to have false confidence blah blah blah and doing the opposite and people tend to stop thinking and politicians get away with it. Where am I? lol! Post Reply
View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 24 Nov, 2013 09:59 PM I believe that too. It's like which is tougher: The guy in the bar pounding his chest saying "Come at me, bro!" or the one being still because nothing can shake or bother him? Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	False Confidence vs. True Confidence Posted : 24 Nov, 2013 10:29 PM True, the still one is tougher at first glance. I think true confidence is a combination of physical, emotional, spiritual confidences and these three varies at different stages of life greatly influenced by our experiences. Blessed are those who are in a nurturing environment. I believe also that it is never too late to ask God to also be blessed and favored. Post Reply