Why is there such a sense of doubtfulness with divorced fellows?
I'm often told by my friends/work mates that i'm difficult, at the end i'm gonna end up with a divorced person for the sake of pressure with time frame (aging)
If that would be the case, which only God knows. Isn't there anything good they might have taken with from their previous relationship, weither they were the cause of divorce or not?
Why at all is there an energy of resistance with divorced guys (with both ladies and man?)
I do keep in mind this could be a sensitive subject.... I'm asking as a well meant question dear ones, hoping for a healthy and helpful conversation.
it's hard to date divorced guys, they have been hurt and it's a really sensitive situation. you must have a lot of patience, you are the one who must give him confidence again. you must help him to trust again. it takes time but in the end it's worth it.
Definitely there must be tolerance and understanding in any relationships. You know we must remove this ideal thing which is love out of our minds. We must not take it for granted but we have to fight for it. we'll get the reward afterwards. You'll feel inside of you if it's meant to be or not. Just be open for anything.
When talking about keeping a sober mind while inlove.
The heart gives pressure when inlove since it's often influenced by certain emotions. At times could be driven by an emotion of compassion now that you're attached to that person due to times spend together. Emotion of fear in facing reality that you should just let go inspite of how well you could be relating with that person. Thoughts of emptyness when he's no longer around, while your system has adapted to he's calls, emails, text massages, he's voice and so on
Letting go threatens at times when already inlove
Versus your mind clicking facts of reality to be faced, delt with or closure from that relationship if issues faced cannot be resolve for whatever reason.
Which leads to onother question dear:
Why are our emotions to be surpresed often times when dealing with issues?
I'm always told not be react out of emotions.... Why dear, do you know?
i red something very interesting concerning the three types of love. Philos, which is friendship, Eros, which is the attraction, the physical thing and finally Agape, unconditional love. it means the three dimensions of man: physical, mental and spiritual. If those three matches with someone then it's your perfect match but if there's a lack in one them then it's not meant to be. Hope it helps. kiss you and i give you a big big hug.
I always associate God with divorce looking at what happened in gadern of Eden through the fall of men. He still gave a benefit of a double through Christ as 2nd Adam whom we are reconciled to God through Him.
(I haven really considered settling down with a divorced fellow i'm only researching cause I know very little about them, and again if I should find myself marrying one in years to come, i'll need all the possible help I can ever get in understanding where they coming from. I personally think i'm the easiest person to please, i'm only cautious of many things that I feel can be prevented if one is to rely on God's wisdom with serious issues to be faced beforehand, than being in hurry to jump into to marriege turning a blind eye on warnings to be taken to heart. I am load of work too from where i'm coming from with family. The idea of starting one threatens me big time, which is a lifetime assignment to deal with and overcome)
If God gave a benefit of a doubt on a helpless situation (giving us a 2nd chance through Christ so we have a relationship with Him yet sinners by birth) then what does it say about the next person even if divorced?
What if their experience shaped them for the better? (keeping in mind that challenges could be twice as much with us, than any other couple since there's now a step parent 'maybe me' to be considered, who may always be compared with the real mother whom I cannot ever be since i'm myself with much to discover about 'self' through that situation)
Have you ever thought of God being the very first one to be rejected in that form?
Hense Christ came to teach more about marriege so we understand this how well it relates with our relationship with God. There's parables were Christ relates He's 2nd return as a wedding to take place. Though that's onother subject all together
So dating anyone is challenging...divorced, never married, widowed, one who had an engagement called off, etc.
If considering dating someone who is divorced, you should always ask the reason for the divorce...and what was learned from the experience. These questions should also be asked of someone who broke up a long relationship.
Every experience we have with another person helps us in some way prepare for a future relationship. We learn more about ourselves and interacting with others.
A divorced person may have additional financial responsibilities which will impact a new marriage, kids from a previous marriage will affect the relationship...making time for the kids, expenses, interaction with the ex, etc.
Any relationship should be entered with much prayer and patience...which should continue throughout the relationship. Include lots of communication!
I make a lot of research on the net, that's how I discovered a lot concerning love. i opened my eyes about a lot of things.
According to the bible, if someone divorced without cheating he doesn't have the right to marry again. Any other separation or divorce is not valid to the eyes of God.
God will never put you in situations that you can't handle. you can easily fall in love with someone who never got married at all and if it happens, you should be praying a lot for strength, love and patience.
that's true, through relationships we can understand how God feels :)
