Author	Thread: What are the signs of a healthy argument?
sisygirl View Profile History	What are the signs of a healthy argument? Posted : 19 May, 2013 03:05 PM Hello friends! Just wanna ask: What are the signs of a healthy argument in a relationship? Reason i'm asking, i've obseved that guys often pull out during an argument, inspite of how gentle is the lady's tone. At times you find that the matter that is being argued about is important enough to somehow affect the relationship either in a positive or negetive way, depending on the outcome of the argument. How does one know if the relationship is strong enough to continue after the argument, since the intentions are to build not to destroy, when bringing the subject forth for discussion that eventually turns out to be an argument? Post Reply
View Profile History	What are the signs of a healthy argument? Posted : 20 May, 2013 03:53 AM First of all if a boy and girl argue to often they are not right for eachother. Two people who argue often think in opposing ways and this will never lead to unity unless one always gives up their rights. For a individual to always give up their rights in a relationship and the other make all the decisions this is not healthy. My feincee and I are extreemly stuburn individuals but we get along very well because we agree on most things. We experience unity over most of lifes issues. When we dissagree it is my responsibility to learn where our unity lies. We do this by waiting on the Lord and not making any decisions and allow the emotions to reside. Once our emotions reside we then can listen to the Spirit of God and learn what His path is for our lives. Not every life decision is in the bible soma decisions are made by listening and understanding eachothers feelings on matters. In relationship both people are to work for the common mutual benifit of the unit and not for self. When one individual only thinks of self then their becomes a skism and relational tension. ( fighting) God has called us men to lead by example and our first duty in marriage is to maintain peace through unity. This is our role as head. A womans role in submission is to express all that is on her mind bringing her thoughts and feelings to her husband. Then toghter, side by side the husband leads and the wife follows because she is confident in her husbands leadership, why? Because they are in agreement. Why are they in agreement? Because they listen to God together. I had just expeirenced some anger in my life and anger is a divider of loved ones. Anger comes out of hurt. Anger causes us to want or need to protect out hearts. Anger also divides us from love. It is in a mans and womans responsibility to know how to manage their own anger that they can extend forgiveness and move foward in love. Love comes from being vualunerable. Vualunerability is what often goes first and then the divorce of ones heart. Arguing if performed properly will.....I say will create a deeper love and attraction to the other but if done wrong will destroy. Arguing will build intimacy if performed properly but if done wrong will bring isolation. Being a stuburn individual is good and every sruburn individual wants another stuburn individual because stuburness has it good and bad sides. I am stuburn and prod to say because my stuburness will benifit my wife through great commitment through every lifes issues. Beware of wishy washy people they are the death. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	What are the signs of a healthy argument? Posted : 21 May, 2013 01:35 AM How profound & deep is your reply, was pondering on it all day yesterday & this morning. Thank you so much ! Post Reply