Okay, I might sound annoying or being too fussy writing about this, and I do not know how many people will read it anyway, but I will just write it to vent.
It is really hard indeed to even just find a friend in this website, let alone finding the right guy.
One of the biggest problem is there are not that many Australian guys on this website that actually live in the same city as I do (or maybe there are, but they are just not interested in me?). Most guys who messaged me are from overseas, which is fine for me to be friends with, but to be a potential partner? Unlikely.
And somehow it is hard for people to start an interesting conversation, even after many times they messaged me, I have difficulty remembering who they are because I guess there is not much or nothing from that person that leave a strong impression for me. I know this is nobody's fault and I cannot blame anyone, and I know it is hard to chase someone. Maybe they are just like me, messaging so many people at the same time that they barely remember who they message (lol).
However, one thing that I found so many guys do in this website, is too quickly saying I love you, saying that I am the one to marry...after just 2 messages of 'how are you?'. Just because I am polite and nice to you, it does not mean we are meant to be. What about knowing each other well and truly before deciding such thing? What about listening and following to real God's plan? Right, I do not know whether these guys are serious anyway when they said these things (obviously not real 'I love you' anyway), maybe I take things too seriously and got annoyed too easily with what people say. I guess I just want it to be proper, starting friendship slowly, and genuinely wanting to get to know each other, rather than quickly saying things that are supposed to be said a year later.
And asking for email, yahoo messenger or skype are also should be done down the track when you are sure we both are attracted to each other. The same with phone number. Well, for me anyway.
You can think of me as being too difficult, that is fine, I just want to pour my heart out here.
If other ladies feel the same, please let me know.
Modern 'western' society doesn't seem to value patience as much as it once did, so not only are people expecting their burger and fries within 2 minutes, relationships also need to be moving at light speed. Of course, after a while most find they aren't compatible with the their new spouse so it's a rush on again to get divorced, back in the dating pool, etc.
Jesus was never in a hurry to go anywhere or do anything; perhaps we can learn from that?
I agree, I think the idea of falling in love, that you have someone that belongs to you is what motivates most people in this website to quickly say things like 'I love you'.
It is very lonely at times to be by yourself, but I have been there - in a relationship just because I was impatient, and yes, I broke up and that really hurt :( and will never be in relationship again for the sake not being alone.
I guess Jesus knows that His Father is really kind, that everything will happen at the right time. While we, human, although we know God is kind, we still doubt whether we will ever find our soulmate. So yeah, faith is not easy when it comes to practice....
I just wish many guys are mature enough to start a relationship..for the right reason...
I can totally relate to what you are saying, Chocpudding!
I am having a similar problem. Every guy who has even just viewed my profile can't message me because I set up filters for smokers, drinkers, and foreigners, as well as an age range.
Basically, they're all from overseas, and I'm American. The Americans who view me are either way to young or too old, or they smoke/drink.
On a dating site where I cannot set up such filters, I get messages from men who are--again--not matches for one reason or another; They don't even read my profile or pay attention to the details that indicate they should not message me.
This is very frustrating! I feel your pain, sister!
