Author	Thread: Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this?
Admin	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 7 May, 2013 04:04 PM Okay so my LDR Boyfriend apparently booked a flight to come and see me on thursday. He is moving to a new city for his new firefighter job this weekend and said he didnt want to have to wait to finally meet me. Problem is..im trying to tell my parents. I'll only get a few hours with him so im hoping theyll understand. But I honestly had no idea he was going to do this so Im hoping they dont blame me. How can I feel happy that hes coming without being scared of my parents reaction? :( Please help me! Hes already got everything booked so either way hes coming. He wants to meet me and my parents and do this the right way. Post Reply
View Profile History	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 8 May, 2013 10:58 AM Has your mum warmed to the idea of your LDR yet? If not, then this won't be painless. It's probably also likely to annoy your dad a little since he won't have had the time to make arrangements for the first meeting. Having said that, you're 23, not 13, and you have to be free to make your own choices even if they don't match up with your parents' wishes. Personally I'd arrange to meet your LDR somewhere public and have a few hours getting to know each other before adding your parents into the mix - it may turn out he's horrid in real life and after meeting you don't want to pursue things any further. I assume you can get into town for a few hours by yourself without needing to explain yourself to your parents? Of course, you should still be careful as you would meeting any other stranger because he's still firmly in that category. If he still fits the bill after meeting, then you can make serious arrangements with him and your parents to meet properly and at his place. Post Reply
View Profile History	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 8 May, 2013 12:10 PM It varies from culture to culture. I'm Hispanic and my ex was from the Philippines. Apparently we both strongly believe in the family unit is important so our families were informed of each other. I was super close with her, especially her father. In this case, not to sure about how serious is your relationship with your boyfriend; i would agree with dkj. Meeting him in a public place when he comes to town before him meeting your family is a good idea. Once the relationship becomes stronger, then the time is right to introduce him to your parents. Much luck! Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 9 May, 2013 03:22 AM I agree with dk. Meet him in a public place for a few hours,get to know him,see how it goes then later introduce him to your parents. Post Reply
View Profile History	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 9 May, 2013 04:27 AM To be honest. I see a big red flag waving over your post. Think about it for a minute. If he is coming and he has not considered your feelings and consulted with you over his visiting how does this make you feel? Afraid right? It is his responsibility to make you feel safe and he has done the opposite. The other thing this shows me is he doesnt respect your parents role in your life. This too is problem matic. You have a deep bond with your parents and at some point he might want you to choose. Can you do such a thing? His agressiveness in visiting without any approval on your part is a big no no. I would take extreme caution! Post Reply
View Profile History	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 9 May, 2013 09:38 AM Good point letthis :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 11 May, 2013 08:30 AM I can only say that I would not like it if he made specific plans to come see me without discussing it with me first. It should be a mutual decision and he made it without you. Im with the previous poster: use extreme caution. :stop: Post Reply
View Profile History	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 11 May, 2013 02:49 PM And yet in another post, the point was made and argued for that men should pursue the women, now we've gone back and warned her off someone doing exactly that? The mind boggles... Post Reply
View Profile History	Help me..my LDR is coming to meet me and I didnt know he was going to do this? Posted : 12 May, 2013 05:14 AM Persuit without honor and respect is what leads to abuse. Persuit with leadership, honor and respect wins the day. :applause: A couple who would walk the path of marriage needs to learn the roles of being unified with eachother. Honor and respect are always first on the list over any other. Persuing a woman is a relational thing and it requires communication for it to be right and effective. What this fellow did is not persuing her. What he did was to think only for his own needs and children do this not men. I believe he is well meaning but his actions are still wiithout honor. Post Reply