Author	Thread: How did or do you parents react to meeting someone online?
Admin	How did or do you parents react to meeting someone online? Posted : 1 Apr, 2013 07:00 AM How would one go about convincing their parents that the person they met online is a genuine person and that they can make the relationship work? I'm afraid that when the time comes, my parents are going to be old fashioned about it because my mom still thinks there are creeps out there and I need a way to convince her otherwise. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How did or do you parents react to meeting someone online? Posted : 1 Apr, 2013 08:27 PM Well... To start with, I made the mistake of NOT telling my mom that I was on a dating site. She and I are close, but I didn't know how she'd react, I knew she'd worry about me, and quite honestly I didn't know HOW to tell her that I was turning to the internet to find a guy. About a month after joining CDFF, I started talking to a guy who lived 800+ miles away. After exchanging a few on-site messages, we managed to connect via the chat feature, and chatted for about 2 hours one Sunday afternoon. My mom wanted to know what I was doing on the computer for so long, and I just kinda blurted out "I joined a dating site a while back, and I've been talking to a guy from Missouri for a while now." She didn't say anything, just got really quiet and then left the room. My sister told me that my mom went to another room and cried. I felt terrible. Later that day, I asked her what was wrong, and asked her to forgive me for hurting her. She said that she didn't mind me being on a dating site, but was hurt that I hadn't felt like I could tell her about it. She told me to be careful, and told me that I should always feel free to talk to her about that sort of thing. (By the way, I got to be really good online friends with that guy, and even though we've never dated and never will, I'm glad I got to know him. We met in person a year after we met online, and a year after that, he stayed in my town for a few days and my family got to meet him. I also got to meet his parents. We still stay in touch, though it's unlikely that we'll be able to meet again.) After that first time, I've kept my mom informed about who I was talking to online. It's not that she is particularly nosy about it. Instead, she just wants to know what is going on in my life; if I had met a guy in "real life" I'd tell her about it, so it's no different when I meet a guy online. Granted, I've only had a handful of communications that led to phone calls in the three and a half years that I've been on dating sites, and only two (not counting that first one I described above) led to actual meetings and relationships (both of which were short-lived). Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How did or do you parents react to meeting someone online? Posted : 1 Apr, 2013 08:33 PM Oh yeah, and there ARE creeps out there. And some of the people you meet online are NOT who they claim to be. But as long as you use discernment, and as long as you don't give out personal info, you'll probably be OK. When I've met guys in person for the first time, I made sure that we set the meeting for a public location where I felt safe and secure. I also made sure that the guy knew that he would have to face my family pretty early on in the relationship. My mom always felt better after she met the guy herself. Post Reply