Author	Thread: Dating divorced people
onetrustinghim View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 16 Jan, 2013 10:29 AM Some say its ok to date people who are divorced. I'm not sure. What are your thoughts and where can I read in the bible on that? I'm concerned about dating a man who is divorced. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 16 Jan, 2013 11:07 AM If they were divorced on the grounds of sexual immorality or fornication, then I can say for sure that it would be ok to date the the one that may have been faithful, but with the one that wasn't(who knows, maybe it was both), I'd say it would be "ok", but obviously a little dangerous. Obviously, look to whether or not they have truly repented, and of course, forgiveness should play a role, but beeeee careful. If they were divorced for any other reason, then I would say that the bible doesn't really recognize "divorce" like a court might. When two people become one flesh, a "biblical divorce" is more like what we would consider "separation". They are still "married" unless one commits adultery or fornication. Humans are supposed to pair up for life. Matthew 19 "The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. **And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.** His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it." :peace::peace: Post Reply
onetrustinghim View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 16 Jan, 2013 11:52 AM Thank you brother. I pray I am discern full in seeing the truth. Peace & blessings! Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 16 Jan, 2013 03:45 PM Their is more to it then that. What about a wife who commits adultry and then would latter repent but you get in the way of her repenting and returning to her husband. Do you want to get in the way of that possibility? Do you want to get in the way of reconcilliation? If even if the husband tells you their is no way that would ever happen. Does he know what God might do? Do you? Post Reply
onetrustinghim View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 17 Jan, 2013 05:19 AM I would not want to be involved with him if they haven't tried to reconcile . I would pray he is honest about his situation. I prefer that they are not newly divorced. Has it been two months or twenty years? My first thought is not to consider divorced men, but if he tried should he not have an opportunity to be married. though I've never been through a divorce a long term relationship can feel Ike one. I'd have to understand whether there is a transitional phase, change adjustment grieving and those thing should be gone through before I agree to begin to be friends. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 17 Jan, 2013 05:05 PM I think on a topic as critical as this one, every individual should do their due dilligence in study. Studying Gods word for their selves on divorce and remarriage. I would highly discourage you from listening to anyone on this topic especially biblical leaders of america to understand Gods will on this topic. You have the mind, spirit and scripture to understand for your self this topic. The question is will you? Post Reply
lovehope3 View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 7 Feb, 2013 03:06 PM 1st Corinthians 7 and Matt 19 Post Reply
YourSong View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 22 Feb, 2013 04:06 AM I totally agree with what you've said and the verses you have given. Thank you, it is strengthening. It clears my doubts on agreeing to date a divorcee. I always have in mind that divorced people are still married in the eyes of God because the two had become one, unless one of the couple died, then the one left become single again. God bless us all. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 22 Feb, 2013 04:43 AM Why did Jesus say because of the hardness of your hearts moses permitted divorce. Who is the ( your)? It is the reader is it not? Do you expect the one commiting adultry to be reading the bible? Their is a greater violation of Gods word then adultry and that is a hardened heart. God can do something with a adulturer but He can do nothing with a hard hearted individual. When Jesus tells the reader if they marry a divorced person and the person marrying a divorce person is commiting adultry what does that make those? Adulturer's also. If you really think and read the words in a personal basis you will find that it is not that simple to marry one who is divorced. Do we not vow to love , honor and cherish eachother till death do we part in sickness and health in rich and poor. Who is one that is comiting adultry? are they not sick and poor? So even if you havent commited adultry you are equally guilty of breaking the covenent you made before God. Their is simply no way around it. But we justify our actions and decisions from our feelings not through truth. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 16 May, 2015 08:45 PM What about the issue of what exactly is defined as the point of marriage by God? Is a person who had sexual relations without a legal marriage, married to that person in God's eyes? [This is a very sensitive topic & I personally haven't come to a solid decision about it so I like to ask questions from all sides. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating divorced people Posted : 15 Jun, 2015 07:13 PM rhet: No. God calls it sexual immorality. Sex out of marriage is fornication. We have to consider laws of the land. God tells us to obey the laws and the governments. Romans 13 1-2 �Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.� There was a time in biblical days that when a man took the woman and lay with her they were married. But they didnt have marriage licenses then. That was a different time ie dispensation. The law did not require a ceremony beforehand. Also, 1 Corinthians 7:2 indicates that sex before marriage is immorality. If sexual intercourse causes a couple to become married, it could not be considered immoral, as the couple would be considered married the moment they engaged in sexual intercourse. There is absolutely no biblical basis for an unmarried couple to have sex and then declare themselves to be married, thereby declaring all future sexual relations to be moral and God-honoring. Some may want to take the scriptures: >Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5; Ephesians 5:31<, and decide that sex without a ceremony is okay but we simply cant take just SOME of scripture to come to a wise decision . Its the SUM of scripture and not SOME in which we base our decisions. :yay:Scripture explains scripture. God intends our sex life with our spouse to be sacred. If we are not obedient, we lend what is meant to be sanctified over to the enemy. Do you want satan in your bedroom? As reborn again children of God; our opinion should always be that of Gods word. Ask the Holy Spirit to teach you. 2 Tim 2:15 I hope this helps. Gods grace to you Post Reply

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