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CuriousGeorge View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 1 Dec, 2012 10:19 AM Seriously, there is no evidence of this statement being true anywhere in the Bible or anything. It seems more like a naive clich� used to comfort single people. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 1 Dec, 2012 12:06 PM Yes, and while we're on the subject, what is a soul mate? Seriously, is there any Biblical evidence for such a thing? Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 5 Dec, 2012 02:19 AM I had gone through pages of the scriptures, the term soul mate is yet to be found. Whilst human uses this as referencing term to mean a person you feel a clinging affection for/to, the dictionary definition of soul mate is "One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity" and "someone for whom you expect to surrender your remaining natural life to in sharing! Although "soul mate" is yet to be found in Bible, it does have it planar originating from injunction that God intend you to live with someone whom you find consistency and completeness with. Be aware that God is interested in your rest! Isaiah 30:15 says, �In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.� Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 5 Dec, 2012 04:12 AM Thank you Philipian. Like you, I have never found "soul mate" anywhere in scripture but like the connotation of the term. Post Reply
View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 5 Dec, 2012 05:19 AM The first time God states that something is not good is when he created man and realised he was alone. ( it is not good that man should be alone) I can not say but maybe the phrase " there is someone for everyone" came from there. Either way we all reconise the need for connection and intimacy with fellow human beings. Concerning soul mates. Scripture tells us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. The equal yoking of soul, spirit and after marriage body build a single bond between two individuals making them one. Fulfilling the need to not be alone that God states is not good. If God so states being alone is not good and that he made a helper for Adam does it not make sense He will for every man? The problem is in us not God. We are two quick to jump into a relationship that is not according to Gods will and we end up in deeper aloneness for it. Wait on the Lord and seek first the Kingdom of God. Then all of these things will be added unto you. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 5 Dec, 2012 07:29 AM ltm2 "If God so states being alone is not good and that he made a helper for Adam does it not make sense He will for every man?" makes sense yes but it's still just an assumption Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 5 Dec, 2012 10:24 AM Thanks as well Sister NRSV1953. Like you hinted, its connoted in the scriptures. In truth, we desire God and we know that he has someone somewhere (among so many he has in all places) that He knows will perfectly catalyze His Glory and Grace in our lives if we are to live with such a person is often my understanding of "soulmate". Its not exactly that its only that ONE PERSON or no other one at all! God is not straitjacketed. But among thousand, it designate just one for you, and that one can be any among the packs he has in his control....And thats why we all are beautiful creations of God, meant to add value to each other, regardless of where we are! Once again Sister NRSV1953 thanks. Post Reply
View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 6 Dec, 2012 05:40 AM I believe the main hurdle in our finding someone is us....... Not that their arent people out there that would make great partners for us but that we really dont know our selves enough to choose a person equal to our maturity and lifes values. When we are able to make a honest assement of our lives and choose acording to who we are not what we want to be then we can find that person who can love and accept us just as we are. I believe studying the Word of God and meditating on the scriptures concerning marriage relationships, divorce, family life , etc is a must for us as singles. Dont just read them once make them a part of your life ingrain them in your mind and learn their meanings. Learn how they practically apply in our lives. Many of us are old and single for a reason. Until we learn why and take responsibility for that we will continue down the same path we always have. Love you all, Michael Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 9 Dec, 2012 12:25 PM I don't think that this applies in every case, but there is one example where it was God's plan that two people married, and using this one, the same can be said of every marriage that took place to bring Jesus into the world. I don't think it's God's will that fornication happens at any point in that process, even though it did, but He knows what we're going to do before we do it. Genesis 24 14 And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master. 15 And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder. 40 And he said unto me, The Lord, before whom I walk, will send his angel with thee, and prosper thy way; and thou shalt take a wife for my son of my kindred, and of my father's house: 41 Then shalt thou be clear from this my oath, when thou comest to my kindred; and if they give not thee one, thou shalt be clear from my oath. 48 And I bowed down my head, and worshipped the Lord, and blessed the Lord God of my master Abraham, which had led me in the right way to take my master's brother's daughter unto his son. 56 And he said unto them, Hinder me not, seeing the Lord hath prospered my way; send me away that I may go to my master. 57 And they said, We will call the damsel, and enquire at her mouth. 58 And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go. 1 Corinthians 7 1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 6But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. 7For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 9But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 25Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. 32But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. I think God has a plan for everyone, it could be that we're never to be married, it could be that God has brought us to the point where we could love anyone like a soul mate, and it could be that He has a specific person in mind. We just have to focus on becoming what God wants us to be, stay on the path. God will bless us accordingly and give us the strength to do his will, whatever it is. It is probably my longest held desire to be married, to be with someone I can trust completely with everything, but I think it's important to overcome the "need" or "obsession" with anything this world has to offer and learn to say "not my will, but thy will be done". :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	why do people always say "there is someone for everyone" Posted : 10 Dec, 2012 04:52 AM George, God also tells us that He is not willing that any should perish but all come to the knowledge of salvation. Gods desire for man is not always mans desire for himself. Just as we seek to share the gospel that those who hear would have salvation we too have motives that either line up with the motives of God or our selfish motives. Learning to decern our motives before God and oneanother is a crucial exercise to bring growth. If we fail to do this we then are left to believe everyone else needs to change and we are left in a rut of failure due to our ignorance of self. Post Reply