Author	Thread: Is this normal on CDFF?
BeautyFromAshes View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 08:36 PM Hey Men and Ladies, For some reason when I make the attempt to contact someone I am interested in I would ask them things about there profile and be very polite. The person would than read the message and never respond? This has happened 9 times so far... and not one response and the person comes on everyday so says CDFF. Is it something on my profile?? Or is just these people I message seem to be extremely rude? I can post a transcript from 3 diff messages that never got responded to show that I am not some creep or saying anything wrong. So what do you think is going on? Frankly all of the non responses on this website make me want to quit CDFF Take care & God bless A Brother in Christ Post Reply
maverick11 View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 17 Oct, 2012 09:35 PM Hey, Yeah, it's frustrating when no one responds. But persistence is key, lol! I know I make a point to send a reply to all messages that are more then a simple hello. Even most of the "hellos" I try to reply to. So anyway, I'm not sure, but non responses probably mean that the girl viewed your profile and found it to be noncompatible with her for some reason. As I've said, I usually give a guy a chance and communicate if he's shown initiative. But some girls simply don't feel comfortable talking to a guy that they are not interested in because they either don't want to lead him on, hurt his feelings, or yes, they might just be rude. I use the CDFF auto "sorry we don't make a good match response" for those random guys who I think are either suspicious or definitely not what I'm looking for. But many girls might feel like this is rude and will hurt his feelings. I know, not responding is even ruder, but girls might simply not think about that. Anyway, I am definitely not one to defend females, as some of us can be very rude, but it's just a thought. I would stress to not give up. Don't be a stalker or anything, but sending another message if you don't get a response might help the girl know that you are truly interested. Another thing that helps is to ask open-ended, long answer questions. I don't really like it when a guy just asks how I am doing. That's a pretty short answer. For example, I like comics. If a guy emailed me with a question about my favorite writers, characters, etc., I would give a LONG response. That being said, two emails is enough. If you don't get a response after the second, I wouldn't bother. Anyway, this is all just my speculation and opinion. Hope it helps at least a bit! If not, sue me. :laugh: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 18 Oct, 2012 08:19 AM I've got a couple ideas, but let me see a message or two that you sent first before I say anything. Post Reply
BeautyFromAshes View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 18 Oct, 2012 12:46 PM Hi Tulip89, Yes, here is 3 transcripts. I've erased names for privacy purposes. -- TRANSCRIPT [1] Hi Ms.[Insert name here], My name is Austin, I stumbled upon your profile and found it interesting and would like to know more about you if possible? Look forward to hearing from you soon. Take Care & God Bless A Brother in Christ -Austin -- TRANSCRIPT [2] Hi Ms.[Insert name here], I just wanted to say I am also interested in Photography. Do you have any sample photographs I could see that you have taken? :-) Look forward to your response soon! Take Care & God Bless A Brother in Christ -Austin --- TRANSCRIPT [3] Hi Ms.[Insert name here], My name is Austin, I was intrigued by your profile and would like to learn more about your interests or about you? if I may. :-) I look forward to your response! Take Care & God Bless A Brother in Christ -Austin ---- that is 3 transcripts that i've taken from previous messages that I have sent that never received a reply. sometimes, most of the people I message do not fill out there profile with much about themselves or there interests so it gives me a question to ask when i first message them. I also do read there profiles before messaging some of them I have made very personalized due to there interests and mine. --------------------- Hey Maverick11, I understand :-) it just hurts a bit when people do not respond when you type out a long personalized message instead of just saying "Hi" type of thing. as I think that is kinda inpersonal that some guys do. I have sent some of them a message as to why they did not respond and those were not answered either. I guess one good thing it shows there immaturity and maybe a good thing as it shows that maybe that person is not ready for a relationship. especially past a friendship. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 18 Oct, 2012 09:18 PM Even better, if you could call it that, is when they're like "Don't be shy if there's more you want to know just ask. I'm an open book." Post Reply
View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 18 Oct, 2012 10:49 PM But I've found that the best way to deal with that and maintain balance is to count my blessings and focus on what I do have rather than obsessing over what I don't have. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 19 Oct, 2012 01:45 PM Well, sometimes you're not going to get a response because they're just not attracted to you, and they think it's nicer to ignore you. "You seem nice, but looking at you makes me want to vomit," isn't exactly good for the ole self esteem. It happens. Be glad. Your messages themselves are fairly short and boring though. There's no hook in there to get them to really want to message you back. Plus, they're fairly standard. When a girl has an inbox full of 50 of the same messages, she's probably not going to be interested in any of them. The more different, fun, and interesting you can be, the better. After all, the first message is about getting her to message you back more than it is to introduce yourself or learn about her. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 16 Nov, 2012 10:23 PM Actually, I wouldn't insert the "look forward to hearing from you soon" or anything indicating the anticipation you have for their response. It may be perceived as your being desperate or even too demanding of their time. Post Reply
SarahDaSilva View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 23 Dec, 2012 06:39 PM :stop: Hey guy! The only valid reason that we girls don�t respond is very simple: Have no atraction toward what we see or sometimes what we read. Sorry but it is the truth! . Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 24 Dec, 2012 08:26 AM We guys have to remember, the ladies get way more messages/winks/etc than we do. Simple time problems can be the reason you're not being responded to, on top of attraction, age, height, location, denomination, drinking/smoking habits, whatever. These poor girls get bombarded with all kinds of messages, ranging from the simple/innocent, to flat out proposals. I met someone on here, and we stuck around on the forums for a good year after we "entered into a relationship", and she would tell me about some of the messages she was STILL getting, even though it was clearly stated she was NOT single. I can't imagine what a single female goes through on here, but from what I've heard, it seems like it would get annoying after a while. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is this normal on CDFF? Posted : 30 Dec, 2012 10:08 AM I wish women were more courteous if that's the case, SarahDiSilva. When there's no attraction, I think it'd be better to state that in a message and not leave anyone hanging. I had to do it myself, and although it can be very difficult, I still feel that honesty is the best policy. Post Reply

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