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Relationship, Love and Marriage. Read and Be Blessed!
Posted : 8 Oct, 2012 05:00 PM
Hello brothers and sisters. This is Olivia saying hi to you all. Permit me to share this thought with you here. I hope it helps someone somewhere someday. Amen.
The main things to have in mind before marriage are;
1. Getting the right person.
Its very important to get the right person. There is a saying that no matter how you dress up � pig, its still � pig. Its just like trying to use one padlock key to open another padlock. They do not fit. Same way, ensure that you get involved with the right person for you. The person that fits you. Understanding is also important. It doesn't mean struggling to understand the other person. Understanding here means knowledge. You need to understand who you are and where you are going to so that you can know who fits in your journey and who doesnt. Also note, after marriage you must learn to cleave to one another. Cleaving entails considering and having in mind the other person's characters and preferences. 1cor 7:25-28. 1pet3:7; Also, always remember this; Be with someone that brings out the best in you, not someone that puts your down emotionally or drains your joy.
2. Seeking good counsel;
People that matter to you are mainly your pastor, your mom, dad and family members. If the guy claims to be in love with you but doesn't respect or acknowledge the important people in your life, then you shouldnt marry him.
Proverbs 1:5(KJV) says '� man of understanding shall attain to wise counsel.' You should involve people you respects and elders in church before making such an important decision as choosing a life partner. The main key is to follow the leadings of the Holy Spirit, but please Don't say you hear only from the Holy spirit. The bible says that in the multitude of counsel there is safety. Don't think you hear God too much so you can't hear man. Consult with spiritual leaders. Note that they don't have any reason to be baised. That man of God is your spiritual leader and must have seen potentials in you over the years of pastoring you. Someone that truly knows you and cares for you will not want you to marry someone that will thwart your destiny or limit your potentials. No matter the counsel you seek, ensure that it is good counsel. By that i mean, a counsel that is based on the Word of God, not manipulative or evil counsel.
3. Let the Word of God (Bible) be your Basis;
Apart from all these, always, again i say, always consult the Bible for yourself. Thats the guideline foe every believer. John 1:1-3. The Will of God concerning a matter can be found in His Word.
This one goes out to the ladies; Please ladies, lets not base our decision on physical or material things, feelings, his skin colour, charm or looks. Base it on the Word of God. Any relationship not based on the Word is wrong and doomed to fail. Also Gen 2:18; "the Lord GOD said its not good for � man to be alone...." Meaning that even before the union of adam and eve, GOD's word came first. John 2:1-5. Relationship/Marriage works when you base the union on the Word of God. On the other hand, Relationship/Marriage disintegrates when you ignore/abandon the Word of God and get lost in the world.
Finally my dear brothers and sisters, know who you are and know your destiny. Dont look around in several places confused. Look along the line of your destiny and search for someone that is going the same way as you. Do not be desperate to get hooked up so you dont fall into the wrong hands. Rather, Focus on God. believe in God and in His Grace that has been made available for you. He has said that no good thing will He withhold from you. Marital bliss is a good thing, so it wont be withheld from you. The Good Lord will surely send the right partner your way. Amen. I believe that so i will wait for him. I advise you do the same too lady.:hearts: And if you are a guy reading this, i pray that you find your one and only 'her' soon in Jesus Name. Amen. Shalom!:glow:
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