Author	Thread: Attraction vs. Compatibility
Him4Her View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 5 Oct, 2012 10:01 AM While researching the much-vaunted concept of compatibility in relationships, I came across the following article in oprah.com and wanted to share with all of us: Which component in a romantic relationship is more important: attraction or compatibility? While many would argue in favor of compatibility, Rabbi Shmuley says it is attraction that is the lifeblood of a healthy, long-lasting and loving relationship. He talks about the true meaning of attraction and why it is at the heart of every great romantic partnership. In today's society, Rabbi Shmuley says attraction is misunderstood and has been reduced to mean physical attraction, which is ultimately a fleeting force based on novelty. But real attraction, he argues, is much more. "Attraction is the inexplicable, mysterious, magnetic pull of polar opposites�of the feminine to the masculine, the masculine to the feminine," he says. When a man is attracted to a woman, Rabbi Shmuley says there are five things that should constitute his attraction: Her scent, sound, mind, heart and, finally, her body. Compatibility takes precedence over attraction when these five senses are not fully explored and engaged, he says. "We've so reduced attraction to something so monolithic that it's lost its power, so we've had to fall back on compatibility," he says. Attraction may create or lead to compatibility, but compatibility alone is not enough to keep a man and woman together for the long haul, Rabbi Shmuley says. Compatibility means having things in common�it means friendship, he says, and couples who embark on a lifelong commitment to one another based solely on the merits of friendship are bound to fail. "The insistence on compatibility as opposed to attraction is what's making relationships so weak these days," Rabbi Shmuley says. "They are so easily torn asunder because the force that binds them is actually a weak one." Today's Shmuleyism "In a relationship, common goals are much more important than a common origin. Where you are going to is much more important than where you are coming from." Read more: http://www.oprah.com/oprahradio/Attraction-or-Compatibility#ixzz28RdQ73XE Post Reply
View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 5 Oct, 2012 11:16 AM Shmuley is a terrible man, and knows very little about God, relationships or righteousness and you post his trash here. Anyone want to know anything about this man he references? Look up direct quotes from him. Post Reply
View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 5 Oct, 2012 02:05 PM I saw Oprah and stopped reading. Well not really but I should have... Post Reply
View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 5 Oct, 2012 02:54 PM Yes, I should have too. Post Reply
View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 5 Oct, 2012 03:30 PM Glad to see you standing up for what you believe in MsMarvel. By the way, I don't like Oprah because of some of the things that she stands for. I had a bad feeling as soon as I saw the part about "oprah.com". I don't know anything about the man that was mentioned, but the information seems worldly. Post Reply
View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 6 Oct, 2012 12:09 PM Yea she's into all that new age mystical stuff. For years she has taught that Jesus isn't the only way. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 6 Oct, 2012 12:34 PM Thats the biggest load of horse droppings Ive ever read. Now, there's 2 minutes of my life I'll never get back. Post Reply
View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 6 Oct, 2012 01:06 PM This Article sounds like worldly advice. Should a Christian man really follow this advice!! Post Reply
Him4Her View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 6 Oct, 2012 06:45 PM I highly respect everyone's views as freely expressed regarding the author of the article. However, name calling and spiteful vitriol against others whose views we disagree with are not distinguishing characteristics of Bible-believing people. And, of course, no one is under compulsion to read an article he/she doesn't agree with. Lastly, discussing substantively is more educative than name calling!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 6 Oct, 2012 09:41 PM If you care to address anything I posted, feel free Post Reply
View Profile History	Attraction vs. Compatibility Posted : 6 Oct, 2012 10:56 PM Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Post Reply

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