Author	Thread: Why is it so hard to find someone?
Admin	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 11 Aug, 2012 02:16 PM Since I'm doing something new and joining a dating site I thought I'd just go all the way and write something too. This isn't a rhetorical question...I really would like someone to answer it for me. I finding it VERY difficult to find a nice christian man. Yes, I go to church. The single guys in my church are either too old or too young. The guys my age...too married. So where does a girl go to find a guy? I tried bars when I was young...I'm getting divorced now, so you can see how well that went. I'm a single mom of 3 kids, so I don't have extra money to join the big online sites that let you browse, but not talk to anyone unless you pay to upgrade. I tried a big free site, but it's not easy to find a christian guy on there. The ones that list themselves as christian, don't seem to be. From my experience...if someone isn't a christian when you start dating, they either will lie about it to keep you, or you'll accept it as a minor thing and eventually realize it really is important. It's not just about attending church. Being a christian influences decisions you make and how you love each other. So this is the only site I've found that is actually free to communicate with other people (I think...I haven't had a conversation with anyone, so I could be wrong) Post Reply
share1033 View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 11 Aug, 2012 07:10 PM You're right it is free to communicate on here. As for finding a good christian man, I think at your age you could find one on here. A girl just has to be careful and communicate a lot before she risks her heart. However having said that you will find some that try to get you to go to your own email with them. Don't do it. They are usually cons and scammers. Post Reply
SunshineloverIL View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 11 Aug, 2012 07:26 PM I agree with you, :applause: I have had a couple of people send a note but it seems impossible to get someone to hold a conversation with you from this site. I would like to find someone within 50 miles of where I live so just in case we click, we could have coffee or lunch. Anyone else having that problem? Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 11 Aug, 2012 08:10 PM I tried find someone local, but most of them were "Sunday Christians". I found a few that were decent women, but were...a bit strange. I went out with with a couple of ladies that were nice devout Christians, didnt drink, were still young enough to have children, etc. Unfortunately, I found out that we were distant relatives. :stop: That can be a problem when your family has lived in the same area for 250+ years. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 12 Aug, 2012 06:39 AM I have talked to several guys on here for a short time and a couple for at least a week. However, the men that contacted me were not really into what I want in a Christian man. I have seeking marriage. And, I am a older lady and serious and do not have time for games. So, I move on and it is flustrating at times, but I know my Mate maynot even be on here. I've had actually dates; but not from this Site. Nothing in the line of true Romance though. lol It is possible to meet a true Christian man here or online you just have to keep praying. I live in a small city and attend a small church and men in my age group or married. And the other are too too young. lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 12 Aug, 2012 05:21 PM Your question is where does a girl go to find a guy. I have been known to misplace my keys from time to time. I tend to lose them when I have something going on that is incredibly important. I would looked every where for them and I had to resort to using my spare key (I won't tell you where I keep it because you guys will rob me... jk). I don't like using the spare key because then I get paranoid I'll LOSE that key and then I'll really be in trouble. ANYWAYS, after I stopped searching high and low, after I did whatever I needed to do, I was obviously still aware I didn't have my main key. In every occasion, I ended up finding the key when I wasn't even trying to look for it. However, I was always aware that I needed to find it. Likewise, I think sometimes we focus too much on finding that special someone on OUR time and not on God's time. It's great to have an eye open but it's when we relax and take a deep breath, that I believe God grants us our righteous desires. Timing is everything. Post Reply
share1033 View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 13 Aug, 2012 02:37 PM Thank you Crayola. Right on again. You have too much wisdom for your young age. LOL Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 13 Aug, 2012 06:51 PM Bahahah Share1033, you are incredibly sweet! Thank you! :hug: Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 13 Aug, 2012 07:17 PM Dont everyone die from shock, but I agree with Crayola on this one. lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 13 Aug, 2012 07:21 PM I like what Crayola had to say. Before God created Eve, what were the odds of Adam finding her? Maybe those are the same odds we face when hoping for a mate, it's just that we don't realize it. Something else to consider, WHEN was it that God provided Adam with his helper? It was when Adam was involved with the work God had called him to do. Maybe that is the case today as well. Maybe it's when we're involved with the work God has called us to do that He is willing to provide the "helper" needed to get it done. If we're not actively involved with furthering the Kingdom of God, then what reason does God have to provide us with any help at all? Sincerely, ACB Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is it so hard to find someone? Posted : 14 Aug, 2012 02:09 PM Apostelle: You and Crayola found common ground! He sent share1033 a hug...where's one for you? Wmd0672: Try expanding the age range on your profile Post Reply

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