Most everyone is searching for something more on this site. That being said, how many of us are really impatient with our current relationship status vs being proactive and searching what God wants from us?
Take me for example... I know I'm ready for something real and I feel like the longer I am single, the more time I'm waiting. On the other hand, I know if I don't put myself out there and pursue something myself, I could be letting valuable possibilities pass me by.
I have been ready for a serious relationship for 5 years now, however, date sites is not always the best place to meet
men, so many are talking to too many women. I get discourage not meeting the "Right" guy for me. And, I have met inperson from Christian Mingle..not off here.
I am Older, not getting any Younger, so I about gave up hope. :laugh:
I heard to pray as if it all depends on God (it does) but work as if it all depends on you.
Mr or Ms right most likely won't just drop in on you. Yes, they may show up at your church, school, etc, but you need to be looking to see him/her.
It's frustrating to wait...we're generally not good at that. Use the experience on here or other sites or in singles groups to learn about yourself, how to interact ith others (that part never stops), and the qualities that matter.
Hmm glad to see this is not something I alone think about and dare say worry about lol.
I am only 26 but i feel like I have been waiting a lifetime for that special someone. I am somewhat confused I must admit, because while putting yourself out there seems to be part of the equation I always have this niggling feeling if I do I may be going outside of God's will. I don't expect Mr. Right to drop into my life but I tend to shy away from relationships too because I don't want to lead guys on and I don't want to be in a relationship with doubts as to what if Mr. Right does come along do I break someone's heart or hurt their feelings for my gain? See the confusion, I see friends of mine moving on and they are not the go out and find a guy and date them type but they seem to meet them anyway. The guys I do meet tend to be into me and when I let my guard down they are no longer interested. This doesn't inspire much confidence but I am still hoping. Any advice sisters? I am shy by no means and I am friendly and courteous but alas... no dice lol.
I think it's all about putting God first in your life and trusting in His provision, even in relationships.
I personally think that I'm ready for a relationship- I have the means to provide for a wife and eventually a family, and I certainly have the desire too.
However, God has revealed to me that I need to be complete and satisfied in Him first before getting into a relationship. Reliance on a mate to find 'completeness' is unfortunately false hope in the larger scheme of things, especially for all of us who truly believe in the Lord of Hosts and His Son.
Putting our Spiritual Walks aside for a second, I do believe that online dating does have advantages in that there are really no pretensions as to what our aims are when interacting with other folks here of the opposite sex. Even more so, our profiles, when filled out, give potential mates a glimpse into who we are, and gives them a better idea as to the level of compatibility we may have- which then leads to interactions that should go further in depth of such things. CDFF may not be the best of places to immediately determine compatibilities, but it does encourage users to take the initial steps to ascertain them for themselves, I think.
And, coming back to the original poster, I believe keeping a door open like this does give us better chances to find whomever God has in store for us; for He very well may reveal our future spouses through this site, or at the very least allow us to use the site for experiences that strengthen our characters and development within the romantic realm to be able to contend with what we are to face when things really get serious.
