Author	Thread: Should we stay?
Admin	Should we stay? Posted : 16 Apr, 2012 06:12 PM Should we stay in a relationship that the man says wants to be married and hits, hurts yuo or your child or pet and says he is saved and yet hurts you and then is nice? I feel like a yo-yo, hurt and confused. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should we stay? Posted : 16 Apr, 2012 07:22 PM Of course not. That is abuse. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should we stay? Posted : 17 Apr, 2012 05:49 AM I say one should not use the words always or never in conversation. This is an exception. There should NEVER be an excuse to hit or abuse a woman or child. If you are in a relationship now, not married to a guy that either threatens to hurt you (emotional abuse), or hits you (physical abuse), it can only get worse. While he states one thing (professes faith in Christ), his actions are completely against the teachings of Christ. In my opinion, that man is not a Christian. If you are not married to him, I would recommend you talk to a counselor and also bring a friend with you when you talk to this man to end this relationship. You should not risk your safety of the safety of your child over a relationship like this one. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should we stay? Posted : 19 Apr, 2012 03:57 AM This guy is abusing YOUR child and you are wondering if you should stay!? Post Reply
View Profile History	Should we stay? Posted : 19 Apr, 2012 04:17 AM I agree with iheartdogs. While he clearly needs help for his cycle of lack-of-control/repentance/lack-of-control, you AND YOUR CHILD should also get councelling to heal from, learn to recognize early and how to walk away from allowing abusive people in your lives. Your child is learning this behaviour (either victim or abuser).This is the opposite of what value Christ sees in you. While you may have emotions, even sympathy, for him (especially when he is in the repentance part of his cycle), do not mistake this for love. Do not be drawn in by the drama ... pray for God to help you cultivate and defend the right to have peace in your life and household. I personally know how hard it is to walk away from someone who says one thing but acts opposite to that. At first it is difficult. They can be very smooth when they are 'soft' and repentant... you remember what attracted you to them at those moments. But as you start to see your value, that Christ consistantly loved you so much He did everything possible to bring you to His safe-place, it will be easier to pray for the man from afar and let God do the wrestling with him. :yay: Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Should we stay? Posted : 4 May, 2012 08:26 PM Get out! The bible says that we men our to love our wives as Christ loves the church. Christ was about building up the church, not destroying it. He served His disciples and while He rebuked from time to time, it was in words and generally with a parable to open their eyes for understanding. My assumption is that this man is not truly saved. He does not have the love of the Lord within him...be careful.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Should we stay? Posted : 15 May, 2012 09:35 AM I know some people have strong opinions that there is only one or two reasons for divorce. I agree with those reasons, however, it doesn't say don't get a divorce if your bf/spouse is beating the daylights out of your or your family. The Bible says the Lord has not given us the spirit of fear, but of a sound mind!! You are living with fear. I say get your runnin shoes on, but still pray for his soul. We never want anyone to miss Heaven. Post Reply