Author	Thread: What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim?
shin7scarlet1 View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 08:34 PM -on my previous question...i begin to accept his baby slowly in my life but now another problem came up and it's a religion and we all know that religion is always MAJOR thing to decide.- this is really a hard situation for me... i am against it. even my bf is against it too and his having hard time making a decision. i really love my bf and he loves me too. and his mom is forcing him against his will what should i do? please help! :( pleaseeeeeeee im am so desperate for help. Post Reply
shin7scarlet1 View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 09:24 PM when my parents knew that..they started screaming in my ear and said i will have a one HELLISH marraige life if married muslim man. they even threat me for it :( Post Reply
View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 11:41 PM I don't know your situtation, but to me this just "screams" get out of the relationship, unless your boyfriend is going to go against his mother's wishes. I don't know where your Christian walk is, but if you want to continue in your Christian walk and your boyfriend becomes a Muslim, then I would recommend getting out of that relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 22 Oct, 2011 07:00 AM Things to think about: How well do you know this man? What is his ethnic background (Not race!)? Is he from an area or a family that is predominantly Muslim? Is he the only one that is a Christian? He is the only one that can make that decision. God does not force anyone to be a believer and follower in Christ. You can talk to him about it and pray for and with him on this decision. Hypothetical: If he were to convert to Muslim, and you were to marry, and his heritage is from another country, and he wanted to move there, and the treatment of women is different from the American standard, would you prepared to be a Christian and a minority? Advice: The easy thing to say is leave. It sounds reasonable. I would say, don't be ruled by your heart and feelings. Inquire of the Lord to make His will clear in your life. And also ask for the strength to follow His will, even if you do not like the answer. Post Reply
View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 22 Oct, 2011 12:25 PM Why is your bf being Ruled by is mom? When two people marry they are not longer two but one. Sounds like he needs help from the Lord. Pray for him and then Run.....:waving: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 22 Oct, 2011 04:56 PM This makes two strikes against this bf. First the baby baggage, then the muslim mom. Why wait for the third strike before he's out? You can get out right now. Making a decision about someone with a different religion is a no-brainer...if you are not BOTH Christians, you don't need to be in a relationship with each other. Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 23 Oct, 2011 12:12 PM I read your other forum post -- that along with this one reads to me as if you're trying to put a square peg into a round hole and it's not working for you. You are struggling with wanting a relationship with a man that may or may not be the ideal choice for you and rather than to let the relationship go you are struggling with huge issues that could impact your life forever should you continue on your present course. I think you need to really think and pray about what it is you want out of life and the type of relationship you want and the type of man you want to devote your entire life to. If life with this man is not everything you want or is forcing you to compromise other areas of your life important to you, like your religious walk--is this something you can truly give up for any one man--would you really be happy doing so long term and forever? Could you be happy with a Muslim--Would he be accepting of you as a non-Muslim or would you need to convert as well. Could you be happy denying the very faith that defines you as a daughter of God? Could you be happy helping raise a child not your own--are you willing to put behind you any jealousies and work to the greater good of bring that child up properly--and are you willing to put yourself in a position whereby you will have to deal with that child's mother either directly or indirectly for years to come. Also, are you strong enough to deal with her impact and that of her child on your relationship and or eventual marriage with they guy? Lastly - his mother obviously has a lot of influence over him still. If you marry this guy--will she take a back seat to your place beside your husband or will she still try to steer your life from the back seat? Is this man strong enough to stand up to her or anyone else for that matter that would seek to influence him regarding the choices in life he makes-- As forum responders we should not seek to direct you as to what to do--what choices to make. That alone is your decision. I would strongly suggest you think long and hard about the direction your life will take should you continue to see this man and eventually marry him. Ask yourself if your love for him is strong enough to to withstand the changes YOU will need to make to become one with him. I see all the concessions on your part and very little on his. The confusion you are now dealing with--is your own way of letting you know that maybe this isn't something you should be pursuing because it's not making you entirely happy and is causing you to second guess what it is you want. Otherwise you wouldn't be posting your dilemma here in the forums--if you were entirely happy with this man or the situation you have found yourself in this wouldn't be an issue for you. That alone should tell you, you need to listen to your inner voice. You might find if you really sit and ask yourself some of the questions posed above that this relationship isn't something you really want-- or you may find it is and thinking about it clearly will give you the validation you seek. Keep in mind you are only 22 years old. Stop a moment and think about what it is you want out of a relationship that leads to marriage and what you are willing to be accepting of -- unconditionally. God places us in situations to challenge and teach us if we are open to allowing him to work in our lives. Best of luck to you. Post Reply
shin7scarlet1 View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 25 Oct, 2011 05:18 AM Thank you guys for your replies. my bf and i did talk and pray about it and had decided he is still staying as christian. he did have though about it that there would be a lot of consequences if he did. he said he did messed up on his xgirlfriend and on top of that there was a baby. he said he was happy to meet someone like me because most women that he met always turn him down when it's time to talk about the " baby" where all he wanted is a love and security from a woman. Post Reply
shin7scarlet1 View Profile History	What should i do, my bf's mom wants him to convert to muslim? Posted : 25 Oct, 2011 05:27 AM @statie very little on his side? i think he showed a lot of his side. the good and bad side. ( i only type very few that's why) ...and i think the problem here is me because i am being hesitant and didn't ask God's help before. Post Reply