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Admin	Messages Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 11:18 AM Saw this online today on another site. Thought I would share or the benefit of all interested in reading. Regarding writing messages: 1. Make sure your expectations aren't sky high. Others will notice and might be deterred. 2. Don't focus on "the goal", but relax and enjoy "the tool". 3. Don't sit and wait for others to run to you. 4. Don't come on too strong in your first few mails or chat sessions with somebody. Be lighthearted and natural. 5. Check your spelling and grammar before sending a message. It shows you're neat and punctual, and you put effort in writing your message. On the other hand, major spelling or grammar mistakes makes your message less enjoyable to read. 6.Personalize your messages. Make sure every mail you send is different and based on the recipient. You could for example highlight something from his/her profile. Also, be specific; don't just say you like his/her profile, but say what you like about his/her profile. This shows your genuine interest, and shows you invest in your contacts. 7. Involve the Lord in your quest to meet new people and find your soul mate. Read your Bible or a devotional regularly. Pray often so the Holy Spirit has the opportunity to reveal God's perfect plan for your life and future relationships. 8. Remember you're Christian. We are representatives of Christ. That's an important responsibility � towards each other and ourselves. Therefore mind your manners and language while you're dating and contacting others. Stay friendly and polite, treat each other with respect. Through the Lord we're all brothers and sisters. 9. There's no room on for stalking, lying, cheating, gossiping, talking about sex in a vulgar way, spam, (sexual) harassment. Actually, there shouldn't be room for those things in the life of a Christian at all. Post Reply
View Profile History	Messages Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 01:46 PM Great information, thanks for sharing. Now if only everyone on here would take a look at this Post and adhere to it. :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Messages Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 05:18 PM I was actually surprised that number 7 was not listed as number 1. I agree that if we all did these things, we might have a better experience. Post Reply
View Profile History	Messages Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 05:28 PM Yes, it should be and that is probably why the people on CDFF are not successful in finding what they Need. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Messages Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 08:12 PM I disagree with #6. Whether I send a personalized message or a generic one, my odds of getting a response are the same. (Actually I've gotten more responses with a generic message) Writing a personalized message is a waste of time. Post Reply
View Profile History	Messages Posted : 22 Oct, 2011 06:42 AM Rainbowman, I do send winks, so that is my way of sending something general. It is also a way to discern interest. if the guy winks back at me, then I would proceed with a short personalized message. For me, personalizing the message says "I would like to get to know you and I am spending time writing this message because this is important to me". Post Reply