Author	Thread: bf has an extra baggage? need help:(
shin7scarlet1 View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 18 Oct, 2011 09:28 AM How hard is it to handle when your bf has an extra baggage? extra baggage = a baby from a his ex girlfriend. he didn't have the baby with him but both of them have their turns in spending time with the baby. i don't know what to do and i have never been in this kind of relationship..please help ;( Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 18 Oct, 2011 11:36 AM I'm a older lady, so I want a man with grown children. There are many on Christian sites that have children and are seeking a mate. If you consider his Child as baggage, then maybe this guy is not for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 18 Oct, 2011 11:51 PM I would consider a woman with children a blessing, assuming she is willing to traIN THEM IN THE WAY THEY SHOULD GO. CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING FROM THE LORD NOT BAGGAGE Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 19 Oct, 2011 06:28 AM I think you should re-read your subject line: "bf has an extra baggage? need help :( While I do think that children are a blessing from the Lord, I also think that it is perfectly ok for you to be hesitant to enter a relationship that comes ready-made with children. If you do not really want to date/marry a guy who already has a child, that's OK. Your hesitations may be God's way of letting you know that this is not the right relationship for you. I know that personally, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that comes with a child already in the picture. I'm just not interested in dealing with that situation, and (until He shows me differently) that's not what I feel God wants for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 19 Oct, 2011 09:35 AM I agree with bcpianogal 100% Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 19 Oct, 2011 07:44 PM I really had an interest for a man whose profile said he was a single parent. Then when I got to talking with this man, he had 7 children ages 7-17. He thought I was not a nice person because I couldn't except raising any children at my age and he was 59. :excited: Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 03:14 PM If you loved him, you'd not make a comment like this, first of all, and secondly, is this your doings or the Lord's..? Sounds as if you were at first "wanting", and now you are "not wanting". a wise man Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 03:19 PM Everybody is shopping some kind of program, and pretending that "this is the will of God". Then they turn right around, when it is not to their liking, and let their clutch out, again proclaiming "this is the will of God".. a wise man Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 05:34 PM This is a site to develope friendships. To get to know a person you have to talk to him. And, to want to talk to someone you have to have an Interest in them. That doesnt mean the person is for your spouse. I had an interest, I didnt say God told me he was for me. I don't know that. I had Chemistry Online just meeting. But you do not believe in Chemistry Right !:laugh: Blessings..... Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 22 Oct, 2011 12:49 AM In all honesty hon, being you consider the baby" baggage" says that your not ready to be in a relationship with a man who has a child. And if you really love him and want to stay with him, then I would embrace both of them with love and consider it a blessing instead of inconvience. Post Reply
View Profile History	bf has an extra baggage? need help:( Posted : 22 Oct, 2011 06:52 AM OP, Questions only you can think about and answer to yourself about this situation. In fact, you do not need to answer these in this form: 1. Did you know he had a child when you first met him? That is a big deal kind of news to me. I wonder if you might have overlooked it before, but it came to be an issue for you after you met them. 2. Is your hesitation because of the mother of the child and the dynamics of the relationship between the guy and her? 3. Do you want children? If you do not, did you communicate that clearly to him when you met. I am not bashing/hating in any way. Advice: I have not been in your position. I do not know how that feels. I can only say that if the child already present in the man's life is a deal breaker for you, be prepared to walk out. I will also say, consult the Lord in this circumstance and ask for His guidance and discernment to make the right decision. Post Reply