Author	Thread: Taking a Break: what does it mean?
Admin	Taking a Break: what does it mean? Posted : 12 Jan, 2009 09:51 PM hello, my name is David, and as you probably guess my girlfriend and I are "taking a break". the problem is, this term was never well defined by either of us. we're not "broken up" with no possibility of getting back together again, but at the same time we've severed most connections and are essentially free from each other's influence. the problem with all this is mostly me, i think. i do not know whether to move on and try the dating life again, or if i should hang on there in the hopes that after our current situations change that we can get back together. meanwhile we're supposed to continue being friends. the problem with this is again a loss of connection. i feel like i've lost one of my best friends and there is now a wall in place. where before we could talk about anything and i could get advice and hear a point of view i had not thought of, now we have short abrupt conversations, if we even bother to talk at all. so my first question is, what is is her head? are we still friends, and she just needs a substantial amount of separation right now? or is something else going on that i'm not seeing? and secondly, what should i be doing about it? i know is should be talking about this stuff with her, but that's part of the problem, we're not talking. after sharing so much together there's very little if any communication going on. Post Reply
chozen2b View Profile History	Taking a Break: what does it mean? Posted : 15 Jan, 2009 06:36 PM I'm no expert but sounds like your girl has decided to explore other options, whether that be with other males or she just needs some time to figure out what she really wants. Post Reply
View Profile History	Taking a Break: what does it mean? Posted : 15 Jan, 2009 08:26 PM Maybe you should suprize her do something spontanous. A candle-lit dinner maybe....at a nice quiet resteraunt.She might open up and talk then. When a guy does something special for the woman he cares about and she sees that he is doing all he can to try to keep the lines of communication open....who knows, she might open up and talk to you. And if not , maybe she feels like it's time to move on. Not a good thing to think about I know . But if you are doing all the talking and she's not listening there has to be a reason why. Godbless, Arlena Post Reply
ephesians522 View Profile History	Taking a Break: what does it mean? Posted : 21 Jan, 2009 11:25 PM Brother Riggs, Let them go....if they come back then it was meant to be. Devote the time to being a son of God. Make yourself a blessing, if not for her, for someone else. Meditate in the Word and do volunteer work. Maybe God's will involves a different plan for your life and a relocation is in store. This might be a preparation for a different path. Post Reply
eric198375 View Profile History	Taking a Break: what does it mean? Posted : 5 Aug, 2009 11:50 PM Its an ambiguous term that is a pretty good indicator of the end of the relationship. I think its a stupid idea and anyone who suggests it should be ashamed of themselves. Why? Because its ambiguous, which in turn, is bad communication. If decisions like "taking a break" are expressed using bad communication, then what kind of a relationship is it? My advice: don't expect to continue your relationship. I'm no expert but do couples really need time away from each other? Maybe, like I said, I'm no expert. But from personal experience I should have left the relationship long before she said, "lets take a break. Post Reply
View Profile History	Taking a Break: what does it mean? Posted : 27 Aug, 2009 12:50 AM I am no expert. Well, I think the girl sometimes gets blamed for it and well maybe she truly does want to be with the guy...but she doesn't understand why he wants a break....why he wants to not date her. And she is scared that if is she continues on she will hurt more....That's my advice....maybe you just don't understand her...Maybe she doesn't want a break, but if you want to date other people maybe she is letting you go, so maybe you will come back someday. It is true if you let something go it will come back if it is meant to be.... Post Reply