Author	Thread: Lonely? this is why.
delighted_laughter View Profile History	Lonely? this is why. Posted : 11 Aug, 2011 08:35 PM This is what loneliness is: A pit of internal stagnation... that comes from fear of engaging the world the way one feels created to. This is why it doesn't matter how many people are around you; or what degree you are socially active. It's not a matter of how many people and how much they appreciate you. It's a matter of purpose in how you engage others. Many convince themselves that all they need is another person to love and adore them; but that is why said people repeatedly find their selves heart-broken. The truth is they seek to down their loneliness with romance; but the result is they drown their companions with their loneliness. Find your purpose - and sacrifice your self to it - or your life will be nothing but a slow death.. and thus you will invariably subconsciously seek to distract your self from the resultant meaningless with one noisome distraction after another. (the most common distraction is the stimulus of romance: to hold and be held for the sake of it... and drama) Such is the state of being of the vast majority. Such is why so many relationships implode. We keep falling asleep in the moment... because said meaninglessness in present reality is too intimidating. Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Lonely? this is why. Posted : 13 Aug, 2011 07:20 PM I disagree...I have many purposes in life that fill much of my time. Involvement in ministries through church, work that more than fills my days with meaningful purpose, and family that I stay involved with. Even with all that there are still times I feel lonely. There is a void that work, church, family cannot fill...and it's not the void that Christ filled when I accepted Him as my Savior. God designed us for companionship...He saw man alone and said it wasn't good. He made a female to help him. Just as a man needs a woman as a helpmeet, a woman needs a man to provide that help to. Without that missing partner, life does not feel complete. Does a spouse solve all loneliness? No, but the amount of loneliness will be less frequent. Having someone to share life's daily challenges and rewards reduces loneliness. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Lonely? this is why. Posted : 15 Aug, 2011 02:34 AM I have to agree with Teach... I do agree that people can be co dependant, which the personality traits I am hearing, but lonliness can also be a situtional factor and I also agree that we are built for relationships..... Post Reply
View Profile History	Lonely? this is why. Posted : 19 Aug, 2011 11:01 PM "delightedlaughter", It almost sounds as if you're suggesting that loneliness has to do with not being busy doing something. Maybe I'm wrong about that, but that's kinda the impression that I got from what was said. Just being honest, I find life itself meaningless without a wife to share it with. And also, I look at it this way...God said that it isn't good for man to be alone. And so, He made a helper suited to his needs. Now here's my point, God created the woman even though Adam was in a world that was unmarred by sin. So, that says to me that something was missing from Adam's life even though he was living in "paradise" so to speak. So I believe loneliness has quite a bit to do with not having someone to share life with. Anyway, that's all I had to say for now. It's just a thought...and I felt like I should share it. Post Reply
delighted_laughter View Profile History	Lonely? this is why. Posted : 31 Oct, 2011 10:56 PM "if you're suggesting that loneliness has to do with not being busy doing something." not at all. I'm simply referring to the state of 'quiet desperation' that emerson speaks of. The vast majority of people have a deep sense of meaninglessness in their souls, that they then seek to distract themselves from; via various stimuli. For some this is romance. Romance is fine; and beautiful; but if you enter it from a place of lonely desperation... if there's no reason for that person to be in your life other than you "feel lost without them"... then the foundations of your relationship are frankly that of anxiety. Which is why so many people have so many problems in relationships. Post Reply