Author	Thread: Is it OK
Admin	Is it OK Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 01:42 PM Many people are unemployed. Is it Ok for You to have a relationship with a unemployed person? Would you even be willing to have a committment. Many say that Money does not matter, if you love someone. :glow: What's your comments? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Is it OK Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 01:59 PM For me, it would completely depend on the particular situation. I can definitely see starting a relationship with someone who is unemployed while he is in college furthering his education so that he can get a better job. But see, the intent there is to actually GET a job. If a guy is just sitting on his rear doing nothing to get a job, content to live on welfare, and has no skills with which to get a job, I would have a major problem with that. And granted, I would hope that any unemployed guy would find a job before we actually got married. But it really would depend on the situation. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it OK Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 03:17 PM Of course it's OK. you did set some boundaries for him as well as yourself right? Like you do not pay for dinner, he does not ask you for money, stuff like that. There is a tendency for both men and women sometimes to take in a stray, men like to help a fallen woman, women like control over a man..like tame him...it's not good, you know... bless, michael chudzinski Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it OK Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 05:52 PM bcpianogal :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it OK Posted : 27 Jul, 2011 02:48 PM bcpianogal I think you hit the nail on the head, it's not so much the status of unemployed as there are many people out of jobs that are trying hard to find stable work. I think when that becomes an issue is when a guy isn't even trying to find a job, and is just content to let others carry him whether it's family, the government (us taxpayers) etc. The Bible is clear on this that God does not approve of the lazy man and if a man will not work he should not eat. I think the same goes for a relationship it should be a ginormous red flag if the guy refuses to work. As far as starting a relationship while the guy unemployed and needing to have a job before getting married. That really should go without saying a responsible man shouldn't even be proposing marriage if he has no job and can't support a family. I think that is irresponsible. But again I'd say it's ok to start a relationship if the guy is unemployed only if he is actually trying to get employment if not I'd say no, not smart. Post Reply
jesusgirl_4ever View Profile History	Is it OK Posted : 30 Jul, 2011 11:38 PM If the man is not employed, then he should not be pursuing a lady. He's not ready. A man should seek for a mate with the intention of marriage only. Before that, a strong friendship should be built, but you know that if he's a true Christian, and he's your friend he's gonna be honest with you and let you know that he's not ready for more due to until he gets a job. Men are called to be head of their wifes and providers. Nobody wants to be unemployed, but it happens. So he should wait before pursuing a lady for marriage. And the girl should wait too. Now, if you or he only want to "date" (which is not a Godly thing) then he may be interested in getting some seasonal entertainment while unemployed but not a relationship. If that's what you want, well, go for it! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it OK Posted : 31 Jul, 2011 05:15 AM This is just a question, Please note that everything I post does not Always apply to me it is just a general question. I agree that a man is not ready for marriage, if he is unemployed and he should wait, until he is employed. Myself, I would not marry any man that is unemployed. Unfortunately, there are Christian people out there that maybe would for whatever reason. :angel: Post Reply