Author	Thread: Distance
Admin	Distance Posted : 31 Dec, 2008 09:37 PM Is distance a deal breaker for you??? Post Reply
jezcie View Profile History	Distance Posted : 8 Jan, 2009 09:16 AM For me, it's a bit challenging having relationship with someone who is far away from his/her partner. If we have strong relationship and trust each other and always pray to God to pour His love into our relationship and also to protect the relationship, I think we will be able to manage the relationship. But I think only few couples can be succeed with this distance relationship. But nothing is impossible for God... :peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Distance Posted : 8 Jan, 2009 11:57 AM I think when you start a LDR, the money issue is brought front and center. Traveling can get expensive. I think you should ask yourself a few questions before you start. Does he have enough money to come visit you several times? Does he have a job that will allow him to pay his own bills and do this at the same time? Didn't I see you post somewhere that you live in Alaska? That is an even more expensive trip. At your age, it may be hard to find someone who can afford it. If he is careful, he could make the round trip for around $1,500. But that is a very bare bones trip. For someone young, that can be quite a lot of money to have lying around extra. I do believe it is possible, but not easy. Love and peace, Leon Post Reply
MissJoy View Profile History	Distance Posted : 9 Jan, 2009 03:40 PM LDRs can have advantages and disadvantages. What Leon wrote rings so true, though. It can get costly. If God can move mountains then He can also allow a way for people miles apart to be brought together. Post Reply
View Profile History	Distance Posted : 9 Jan, 2009 05:56 PM No. For me personally distance is not a deal breaker. If it is something that is meant to be God will provide a way. Case in point, a good friend of mine is in a long distance relationship with a woman in England, he lives here in Indiana. They have yet to meet in person, but have grown so strongly together that I can not see them apart. He is going over to see her in Feb. So, if there is a will there is a way, and if it's God's will there is a solid way. Post Reply
View Profile History	Distance Posted : 10 Jan, 2009 07:38 AM About 10 years ago I met people from California ~ Oregon ~ Indiana ~ and Canada. (I live in Texas). Of those, the first 2 paid for me to fly there for a visit, the latter 2 came here. I know Leon will cringe at my use of the word ~ but can't think of any more appropriate term than 'chemistry'. You really don't know if there's going to be any until you meet the person. Take the Canadian for example ~ he came the furthest distance, and much as I liked him ~ there was just no spark. I did feel terrible about that ~ but it is what it is. Fortunately we continued to be great 'friends', and after my marraige, he came here twice more. The first time to vacation with my family, the second to introduce his new wife. He also ended up being 'godfather' to my daughter when she was baptized. So, did that or any of the other people I met turn out as hoped? No. But none of them were what I'd call a bad experience either. It's when someone gets there hopes up too much that they may be 'set up' for a huge disappointment. For now I'd much prefer to have any potential relationships be much closer to home ~ just knowing the probabilities of these things working out. But should there be someone who seems particularly suitable with me ~ and who also wishes to 'see where it might go' ~ I wouldn't automatically discount him. Would just take the 'relationship' with a healthy grain of salt. Oh well, that's just me. I'm sure others may have very different experiences to share. Post Reply
View Profile History	Distance Posted : 12 Jan, 2009 03:40 AM Best thing about LDR's is the lack of physical temptation. Worst thing is that it's a LDR :glow: . Post Reply
View Profile History	Distance Posted : 12 Jan, 2009 09:32 PM it depends on the situation. my ex and i did the whole long distance relationship for about 9 months. we started dating my senior year in high school and she is a year younger than me, so i went off to college first. we managed to make it through that time and we had a stronger relationship because of it. however that was not something she was willing to do again. so when i decided i needed to take a semester off college to raise the rest of the money needed to finish school, that among other reasons caused her to want to take a break. Post Reply
View Profile History	Distance Posted : 18 Jan, 2009 12:10 PM True. And it's more reasonable if one or both of them have already being open to the idea of relocation aside from dating. Post Reply
View Profile History	Distance Posted : 29 Jan, 2009 03:07 PM Well, for me it's not a deal breaker. Then again, I'm willing to relocate for the right guy. I'm originally from Belgium but have been living in Bahrain for over 4 years now. Strangely enough Belgium never felt like home, not even now that I don't live there anymore. And Bahrain is not a place where I would spend the rest of my life and want to bring up my future kids. I guess with everything else there are advantages and disadvantages. For me personally, I love the advantage of getting to know the person and without temptation, no pressure. The disadvantage is the tickets. I'm lucky that I work for an airline and I can travel with a lovely discount. But discount or not, it doesn't make it easier in finding a guy who wants to get to know you better, start as friends and then maybe more. Post Reply