Author	Thread: Will I ever find a husband?
Admin	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 01:04 PM I'm 20 years old, and I have wanted to be a wife and mother for years. I've been praying to God to help me find a Christian husband, who I can grow old with, have a family with and to take care of each other. I know deep in my heart, that God wants me to be a foster parent and possibly adopt. I always thought I'd be married with a child by the time I'm 22, but I'm not sure if that's what God has planned. My heart aches everyday because i so badly want to be a wife and mother. I adore children, and it makes me sad and angry that it may never happen :( Post Reply
View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 01:33 PM Can I make a suggestion? Don�t focus on the part of being a mother and raising children. I�m not saying that wanting those things is wrong, you will just give the guys the wrong idea. One of the worst nightmares for a guy is a woman who only wants him so that she can have children and for financial support. While those are very important things in a marriage, that is not a man�s priority. What a guy wants is someone who will his best friend for the rest of his life, someone who will hang out with him and do things with him. A guy wants a woman who will make love to him because she enjoys it, not simply because she wants to get pregnant. The last thing a guy wants to have a wife who spends all her time with the children, won�t have sex with him because she is done having children, and keeps him so busy either making money at work, or doing chores around the house, that he has no time to enjoy himself. None of that may be true, but that is the impression that you are giving. At your age you also need to be a little realistic. Most people your age are still getting a degree and trying to get a job. Most guys are having a hard enough time trying to make enough money to pay basic bills, much less support a family. You may need to push your goals back a bit. My suggestion would be to remove the sentence about wanting to become a wife and mother, and just leave the �Want Children� in the profile. I would also not bring up the topic of having children until you have dated a little while. Your desires are God given, and they are right, but you just need to put them in the right priority. Focus on being his friend and lover (within Biblical boundaries) and he will gladly give you what you want. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 04:00 PM I can understand how you feel. I, too, want to be a wife and mother, and have wanted that for many years. Each year that goes by just makes me realize that my dream may never come true, that perhaps God wants me to stay single and never have children. I assumed that I would do what my friends did, and get married before I turned 21 or 22. That didn't happen, though. Now I'm 28, and wondering if it will ever happen. But anyway, all that said...here comes the cliche advice. You are still very young, and you have plenty of time to get married and have kids. Most people are not married by the time they are 20. Have patience! Post Reply
View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 05:37 PM I would agree with Cobbler on this one,It is natural for a woman to want to be a mother,and a Christian woman even more so,but men would like to feel that they are more than just sperm donars(excuse my crude reference,but its to make a point)When I hear a woman talk about this nonstop,it can be a little scary.Like once she has all her kids,my services are no longer required,except for financial support.And sadly enough,this is often the case in our society today.Many women put all there energy into there kids,and neglect there husband.You are so young.Concentrate on growing in Christ and dont force the issue of marraige yet.Itll all work out. In Christ Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 05:45 PM ManofGod, I wasn�t quite going to put it that way, but that�s what I was driving at. Adrianna, I�m not trying to say that ALL you want a husband for is for the children, it�s just that if you start off by telling guys that, they will think that you are just looking for a paycheck. I understand your desire to be married. I want more than anything to be there for someone special, to share the moments together, to help her when she falls down, to be a shoulder to cry on. But, I tend to come across a little too strong sometimes about wanting to be married, that they think I am willing to marry anyone with a pulse just so I can have a wife. Nothing could be further from the truth. Post Reply
EVANGELISTCLEMSY View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 26 Jun, 2011 01:59 AM My dear...{Ecclesiasticus 3:1-8} says that ''there is time for everything''. my brothers-in-Christ have already answered some part of what i want to say to you...but permit me to add here that...what i think you should is to ''SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS AND EVERYTHING WILL BE ADDED TO YOU''...You NEED God's direction in your life right now...Marriage though an important factor in our life is not the solution to all our problems...What have you achieved as an individual?...The WORD of God said that we as women are'' HELP MEET'' to our spouse...Do you know what it is to be a ''HELP MEET''?? If you get married to today,how do you intend to support your husband in your own little way?...what will be your contribution to the family?...Have you thought about this? That every man wants a woman who is hard working-read{ Proverbs 31:10-31}(that sure is a hard-working woman-(A VIRTUOUS WIFE)...and who can support him in a little way..A companion, not just for raising kids but to live and grow old with...Remember ''Two cannot work together unless they agree''..They should be able to speak the same spiritual language and have some things ,interest or likes in common...My love, ask God to direct your path...Read{ Psalm-25}...and meditate on it and...The Lord will guide you and will not let your foot to slip Amen...There's so much in store for you...if only you can put your TRUST in the Lord...God bless you..Amen Post Reply
tuesdayof88 View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 26 Jun, 2011 04:48 AM Darlin' you're only 20 - take it from a man who at 18 wanted to be married by the time I was 23....I'm glad I'm not, I have had SO much growing up to do in those 5 years, and you will too. There is no rush to get married, you have plenty of time. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 26 Jun, 2011 06:49 PM 1. I echo the whole "You're only 20" sentiment. You've still got years and years ahead of you. 2. It's possible that you're going to scare guys off by making them feel like you just want a sperm donor. 3. More importantly though, it sounds to me like you don't feel like you'll be satisfied until you're married and have children. Whether you feel that's your calling or not, you need to get to a place where you're ok with having neither. God needs to be our satisfaction, not things of this world. Marriage and children are good things, but when you get down to it, if you try to turn them into ultimate things, you will only be disappointed because you'll be missing out on the one ultimate thing: God. God designed us to only be able to be truly happy when we are delighting in Him. Everything else is supposed to just point us to Him even more. 4. Have you ever considered that your husband just needs more time to be shaped into the man God has for you? What if he's just 17 right now and you two aren't even going to meet until he's graduated university? Find your contentment in Christ now, and you'll be all the more appealing to him when you finally meet. Post Reply
View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 27 Jun, 2011 04:19 AM well my dear,i myself ask the same question.....bt i believe that God in his infinite mercy will give us the desires of our heart...take time n seek Gods face n let him guide you.My self i wld love kids but b4 that i need a man who would make me laugh,who will stand by me despite all,who would love me for me n accept me the way i am,a man i would grow old with n our love will never cease......so wait on God he is able to do exceedingly abundantly above what we ask can imagine. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 04:00 AM I think it's nobel what you want, but as mentioned before can you handle the burden of being a wife and mother. Marriage by God's standards is a life of sacrafice and service. Im sure it doesn't help take the desire away. Keep in mind that the more we let go of our ideas and preferences to God the more we will be transformed, the more we press into hiim the more like him we become. Post Reply
uniquecrystalheart74 View Profile History	Will I ever find a husband? Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 04:35 PM I agree with all of them, you are still young to worry too much about why you are not a wife yet nor a mother. There is a right and perfect time for everything. In GOD's perfect time for you, it will happen. Just keep praying, live your faith, and live your life to the fullest. My first relationship was at 27, 10 years after, I am still single(^_^) Just have faith in this: Delight yourself in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass. ~ Psalm 37:4,5 :peace: Post Reply

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