Author	Thread: Need some advice please
SocialButterfly210 View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 23 Jun, 2011 12:12 AM i just started dating this guy i met off of here, hes a truck driver, he just recently got this job, he said all of the texas partners are already taken, his partner lives in Mississippi, and he has to get a residence there because he has to be where his partner lives and since he didnt really have a place to call home, except my address, but he asked me if i would move to Mississippi to be at his house for when hes on the road, i have to wait till i graduate but thats only until december and when i go to state boards. i just recently started dating him, and already he asked me to move not only with him, but out of the state and away from my family to live in his house where i will be alone, what should i do. i want to be with him, i dont want to loose him because i dont want to leave my family but if i dont move to Mississippi i will hardly ever see him. What should i do, im so confused i dont want to hurt him because i cant make up my mind. HELP ME PLEASE Post Reply
View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 23 Jun, 2011 06:14 AM Don�t go ANYWHERE until the two of you are married. Do NOT sign any lease or rental agreement. Do NOT get any credit cards with him. Do NOT do ANY legally binding agreements with him until you are married. You already know him, so there is no reason why you can�t work out a long distance relationship. If he really wants you to go, he should ask you to marry him, not just watch his house for him. If he is not willing to marry you, but he wants you to move in with him, dump him. He is not willing to commit. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 23 Jun, 2011 06:47 AM Cobbler's right. Be very cautious of ANYONE who wants you to move in with him this early on in the relationship, and especially who wants you to move far away from friends and family "to watch his house for him." If he wants you to move and move in with him, he needs to marry you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 23 Jun, 2011 01:58 PM ::RED ALERT RED ALERT:: either he doesn't want commitment or in someway is a scammer for his own benefit... I agree wholeheartedly with Cobbler... Someone who asked me to move away from my family to do what he wants (watch his house) move in with him (shacking up) and no marriage, only what HE wants... My theme song would be: Na na na na... na na na na... Hey Hey Hey... Goodbye... You're worth is much more then that hon... don't lower it for some dude. Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 24 Jun, 2011 12:23 PM Great advice all of you's! Also there are so many guys out there. Don't make the mistake of thinking you have to do what ever it takes to keep him. Make the man have to work for you a bit. If he is serous then he will come to you. He will do what it takes to secure you as his. But some guy that asks you to look after his place? To leave your family? If you don't give into his demands and cater to him you'll soon find out if he is true or not. Then if not there will be others. Just respect your self and don't allow any one to treat you with less then you deserve. Post Reply
EVANGELISTCLEMSY View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 26 Jun, 2011 01:11 AM You are God's own treasure my dear and not a piece of furniture for any man. Be wise and listen to the inner voice of your heart that gave you the courage to seek counsel in this forum...that heart was troubled..so when you are down cast and confused what do u do? You seek God in everything that you do even in decision making... Do not be deceived,many of us don't like to face the truth...as Christians are we suppose to live with a man that is not yet our husband? Is that what Apostle Paul taught us?? We cry that we want a God-fearing life partner and we want to have a Godly family and be happy...but the way we live our life contrary to what we say... The word of God says that we Shula ''FLEE FROM TEMPTATION'' ie, RUN...will living with a man you barely know in another state and without the reach of your family,a good christian conduct? My dear you have to ask yourself some questions and be truthful...because only the TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE...Bless u..Amen Post Reply
SocialButterfly210 View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 11:13 PM he doesnt want to get married again, and i dont mind that breakups are hard to go through on their own, i cant imagine to get married again. well now i dont know what he wants i hardly ever talk to him. i know hes busy trying to get back into his driving routines, i didnt know how hard it was going to be. thank you for your post :) Post Reply
SocialButterfly210 View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 11:15 PM i know all relationships take work, but why do they have to harder than they already are. thank you for the post i really have to decide what i am going to do. Post Reply
SocialButterfly210 View Profile History	Need some advice please Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 11:18 PM thank you so much for that last comment, that was really sweet of you to say that. i would love to try to start over in a new place, but i just recently lost my uncle i was so close to, i lost a really good friend of mine, because of a tornado and now im so close to loosing my mom. i dont want to leave and come home to find out the only family i have left i can actually count. Post Reply