Author	Thread: Long Distance Relationships?
Asher_Aurelius View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 16 Jun, 2011 07:30 PM Hey, I have been slowly getting to know some amazing ladies here, however I'm a kiwi which is literally about as close to the ends of the earth as you can get. Would really appreciate peoples wisdom and insight :) Cheers! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 16 Jun, 2011 08:29 PM When I first joined a couple dating sites, I didn't pay much attention to where people were located, as long as they were within the USA. I figured that long-distance relationships were probably very common among online daters. After a while, though, I realized that long distance relationships just aren't all that practical. Two people can get to be great friends, but if they can't meet in person, there is little chance of getting to know each other well enough to really have a romantic relationship. I suppose that if two people were very serious about trying out a relationship, and were willing to do a lot of regular traveling to see each other, it could work. I've made a good long distance friend, and we've met in person twice. However, the distance is great enough (about 800 miles) that it's not easy to travel to see each other. We probably will never be able to date because of that...he's very much a face-to-face type of guy. A slightly different take on long distance relationships, though, would be the long distance relationship that begins as a local relationship. For example, two people meet, start dating, and then one has to move away. It would be easier to continue that relationship because it began on solid ground. Also, if two people meet in a town other than "home", they spend some time together, and then they return to their respective towns a week or so later, that kind of long distance relationship could work...both people felt the connection first, which makes it worth pursuing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 07:11 AM Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. No matter what corner of the earth you're in, it's more interesting and worthwhile to invest your time and energy living in that than a long distance relationship, which is a fantasy/not reality/time you won't get back. No matter how good the intentions are and carefully it's done, it just doesn't work. Sorry if I'm killing a dream, but it's better than learning the hard way by trying it over and over and over thinking it'll be different and turning into a hermit. :/ Post Reply
View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 08:20 AM I think it all depends on what you are looking for in a relationship, and how well you are able to deal with the distance. I have known several couples who have had a long distance relationship and are married. My cousin was introduced to a guy in California through mutual friends, and they got to know each other through emails and phone calls. She never met him in person until after they were engaged. For her, she was more concerned about being married and not being alone than about the romantic side of the relationship. Another couple I know of met each other at church in New Hampshire and spent the day together. He went back to England where he was in the Air Force, and she went back to Romania as a missionary. They spent a lot of time calling each other and visiting each other several times and eventually got married. For me, I think I would do a lot better in person. I do a lot better with relationships if I can do something together instead of just talking all the time. I wouldn�t rule out a long distance relationship, but I think it would take someone really special to pull it off. Post Reply
View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 04:12 PM Its possible Long Distance. If you really like the person! For example, my brother (from california in the army) met this girl (from Florida) on a christian dating site. The started talking online, then by phone, then webcam, then he went to meet her and have gone to meet her about 3 times, and they got engaged, she came over to meet our family and now they are happily married 8 years with a baby girl and a son on the way! So yes, it is very practical, if you are willing to give your all for that person and feel it worth it! :) Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 04:51 PM I think Cobbler and Lilo have hit on something. A long distance relationship is more likely to work if both people go into it with marriage in mind as the end result. Casual dating doesn't work very well over a long distance, because it is based on feelings and emotions; "courtship" might work, though, because it is based on a commitment to finding a compatible marriage partner. I know a few couples who managed to have a long distance relationship, and now that I think about it, all of them were VERY serious about finding a spouse. Post Reply
Asher_Aurelius View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 11:11 PM Thanks everybody for your input :) Yes, for myselfcommitment is key. The issue for me isn't so much space as it the time. I'm from New Zealand and its 7 hour time difference, so I can't as easily work it around my studies as I did last time. You can get to know someone online and if it works out then go and see them in person. But this is a discussion to have with the lady. Post Reply
View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 18 Jun, 2011 12:39 PM I agree I've had a couple and I never regretted it even though it didn't work out. The last guy was from Australia and it was fine. I think you limit yourself and close in your potential when you use the word can't without having gone through an experience like this. Some people say no because that is there preference. If you think you can handle it go ahead. Don't we serve a great big wonderful God? Nothing is impossible for Him. It's not an issue for me though... too much of a romantic lol Post Reply
uniquecrystalheart74 View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships? Posted : 22 Jun, 2011 10:24 AM Long distance is indeed hard to keep if both involved would not put their all to it. It takes real love, discipline, abundance of honesty, wholehearted trust & open constant communication to make it last & work.(^_^) Post Reply