Author	Thread: How do you put God first.....
stormcountry33 View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 7 Jun, 2011 09:46 AM How do you put God first without making that special someone feel second? Many of you have heard of my situation over the past couple of years and so many of you also know that I have found an amazing woman on here and our relationship has continued to grow and things more recently have gone to another level BUT...I feel like I'm not doing enough for the Lord..that I"m not focusing enough on Him...I think about this beautiful woman all the time and she is so on fire for God and definitely puts Him first in our relationship which sometimes leaves me feeling like second but I"m okay with it because I know that God needs to be #1 in both of our lives...how can I focus more on God without making her feel second in my life? You know what the wierd part is? I know the answer I just don't know how or what to do or if I want to do it because I'm afraid of loosing her. I've always been told that I didn't move quick enough in a relationship or that I moved to quick...I don't want to back away from her because I'm afraid she'll feel that I"ve lost interest but I definitely need to grow in my walk with God...ladies...truly be honest...how would you feel if a guy that you knew was interested in you all of sudden told you that perhaps he should move back a little to strengthen his walk with God? Would you think that he was hiding what was really going on behind his walk of faith or would you believe him and love him even more for his wanting to strengthen his walk with God? Please help me out brothers and sisters...thanks!! Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 7 Jun, 2011 12:49 PM :waving: Hi Stormy! Spending more time on her (talking to her, writing her, texting her, etc.) than you do on your Bible study? Don't want to cut down the time you spend talking to her? Then increase the time you spend on your Bible study. Spend more time thinking of her rather than praying? Well, that takes discipline, but you have to keep trying to keep your mind on your prayers instead of her. Close your eyes. Get on your knees. Keep a list --- do what it takes. There is a big ramp-up when relationships are new, and during the first couple of years of marriage. Lots of time, energy, emotions, thoughts, feelings...... you get the idea. It evens out in the end. So you are right to think about and be aware of and be careful that you spend as much time with God as you do your lady. As for your question: "how would you feel if a guy that you knew was interested in you all of sudden told you that perhaps he should move back a little to strengthen his walk with God?" I'd feel upset if he sprung it on me with no talking about it ahead of time. I would think, with something that important, he would have mentioned it before to me and talked to me about it before it got to the critical point. I would also want to know what, exactly, "move back a little" meant to him. Phone calls of only 1 hour instead of 2? Every other day contact? I mean -- give a girl some parameters here. :laugh: One more thing --- are you going through a devotion together? Do you pray together? Don't neglect that part of your relationship either. Keep us posted! We are rooting for 'ya! :yay: Post Reply
beautifulheart4Him View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 10:10 PM Hi, I would make sure I was including my significant other in Bible study, devotions, church, fellowship, prayer, etc. BUT you also need your very own time alone with the Lord. A true child of God will have this philosophy: "I want my significant other to be so lost in God that I have to search God to find him/her." I would be completely honest and pray about it together. Since God should be the main focus of the relationship anyway, it shouldn't be a shock if either person needs a little space to focus on God by him/herself. We honor God by keeping Him first in everything we do, and that includes our relationships. If we don't honor Him, how can we expect Him to honor our relationships? If I was in a relationship and the guy said, "You know how much I care about you, but I need a little time and space to focus on our Lord and Saviour. Would you mind giving that to me?" I would absolutely encourage it....it wouldn't mean that he didn't care for me, it would mean that he loves the Lord and wants to honor the Lord, and for me personally, that is crucial in a relationship. May God bless you! Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 07:47 AM thanks you both for you responses....I'm sad to say that right now Abby and I are dealing with something that is very difficult and it will definitely take God's hand to bring us through this....abby if you read this...know that I'm angry or upset I just feel we need prayer support... Abby shared something with me from her past that is still affecting her today...something that complicates our relationship and right now we are having trouble seeing eye to eye on a solution. I don't know what to think or do...I don't want to loose abby but there are so many questions.... Post Reply
beautifulheart4Him View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 08:26 AM Communication with each other.....and most importantly, with God, is the only way to get through trauma in a Christ-based relationship. Do you have a minister that you could go to for counseling? I will be praying for you both. Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 04:45 PM Storm, Good to hear you and Abby are still together. Godslamb and Beautifulheart have given some great advice. As for the recent development, isn't the past best left in the past? Things that happened before you two met should have no place in your relationship moving forward.(my opinion) Keep the Lord first, and He'll work out the kinks:angel: Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 03:12 AM thanks guys but no thanks...Abby just told me tonight that she's had a boyfriend since January...she's been messing with me this whole time...because she "felt" that I made her second option to someone else...when the truth is I realized this "someone" esle wasn't for me and I chose to make Abby a first option...this whole time she's felt bitter I guess about that and so she let me feel what I wanted and even encouraged it and the whole time she had a boyfriend...so while I'm feeling messed up right now.. I know that God is good and that He has something better planned for me...as jesuslovesyouandme told me the other day...this year is going to be a good year!! I hope so because so far its not turning out so good...anyway..don't waste your prayers on me and abby...her boyfriend's name is Joe...pray for them as they wait for God's will in their life...maybe someday I'll know what its like to really be loved...all I can say is that at least for a few months Abby gave me that feeling.... Post Reply
beautifulheart4Him View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 11 Jun, 2011 12:34 PM I am sorry things didn't work out for you, but you are right...God is good....keep Him first in your life and the rest of it will come together. He gives us the desires of our heart according to His will.... Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 20 Jun, 2011 12:31 AM There was a great illustration I once saw of a triangle, with God at the top and the lower corners being the two members of a romantic relationship. As you both move closer to God, you both grow closer to each other. It's so much a matter of them feeling second; if the other is also pursuing God wholeheartedly, they realize a simple truth: with the Holy Spirit in both of you, loving them IS a way of loving God, if you love them with purity and in ways that you know make God smile. It's not a first/second match. God is first, and the best way to love him is to live a holy life developing (and continuing on in) toward marriage, which is in fact an earthly picture God created to show us how he is. The trinity is three interlinked and unified people, but only one person at the same time. Like in marriage; it's two people, one life. With God as the third and critical component, marriage is designed to help us magnify our love for each other through him AND love him through each other. Remember, with the Holy Spirit within us, we allow God to live through us and he is constantly living with us. It won't be a problem if both people are pursuing God wholeheartedly. If not though, it may get a bit cramped in your heart... until you master the physics-breaking overlap principle of killing two birds with one stone (rather, loving God and the other person by loving them both in the Spirit), then things will be a bit tricky. Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you put God first..... Posted : 20 Jun, 2011 04:36 PM I love your attitude in this situation. I can understand that you may be hurting but this too will pass. Though it sounds cliche it is the truth. My advice concerning what you posted was going to be that when you put God first you ultimately put the person first also. You are laying yourself down for Christ to make you and mold you and that is gonna benefit the woman who also lays down her life for Christ. I pray you find peace in your situation and though praying for Abby and Joe is good I'm adding you to my list also. God has the woman in His arms ready to release her in His season and timing as you wait keep working on your relationship with Him. I have all confidence in His love for you that every bad situation will turn around for your good. And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Post Reply