Author	Thread: Here we go again...wise counsel
Admin	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 31 May, 2011 03:13 PM Thanks to GodsGirl1965 I'm able to post without losing the text. Hi guys! My boyfriend and I(sounds weird considering we're both in our 40's lol) parted ways last month. I was kind of expecting it and agreed he should take some time to rethink things and be alone for a while, (we met late Dec, started talking ALOT over phone in Jan and Feb). He feels he betrayed God by breaking his marriage vows. However HE was very good to her(according to his family)He's an all around loyal and faithful Christian with a biblical worldview. The divorce is very amicable, so he wanted to see and give it one more try. SHE was NOT a Christian. He's been calling every so often and I'm fine with that. We had a lot of good discussions during the time we were dating and a lot in common. OUR breakup too was non-dramatic. No cheating, lying, etc--it's not like we don't like/love each other. He says that x contacted him recently and she wanted to come over to 'see him' hmmm. We all know what that means. He told her no. He tells me that all he was thinking about was me and that's when it clicked--he didn't have it for her anymore and that he wanted to give it one last shot. I'd like to do some casual dating now with other men and he knows that. Sometimes I need a change of scenery from the whole rat race and like to take a train into the city and walk around, explore, get some coffee. However, since he lives close to the city I thought about meeting up with him(and he me even before I decided to take the train). PLUS I got the Entertainment book when we were dating and most are valid for 2 people hahahaha! So he'd like to join me and I said I'll think about it. So with much thought, I decided we could meet. I told him I feel that I might be leading him on BUT he said PLEASE don't worry about that! SO was this a good or bad decision???? Help! Savvy Post Reply
stegoodie View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 31 May, 2011 09:18 PM This might not be all that helpful to you considering I'm all of 23 but it sounds to me like you are walking a really fine line between leading him on or not. Before I go on, I want to say that he's not helping matters either by pushing you to spend time with him. If you both have feelings for each other and want to date then do so. If you feel that you'd rather see other guys right now then you need to have a conversation with him to establish boundaries. Then you need to stick to the boundaries until such a time as you both decide to change them. Otherwise the signals get mixed and someone's feelings are bound to get hurt. Post Reply
View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 31 May, 2011 10:40 PM and a very wise 23 at that! :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 31 May, 2011 10:59 PM :applause: Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 1 Jun, 2011 01:53 PM I think if he's giving it another shot at his marriage, you should cut communication with him. It's not fair to her if he has feelings for you and you 2 are seeing each other. He needs to focus 100% on her. sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear. Post Reply
View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 1 Jun, 2011 01:57 PM Ok I guess I didn't clarify something. He ALREADY tied up the lose ends and really wants to get back together with me. Not sure what I should do or how I should feel now! I DID spend the day with him on Sat and had a really nice time. It's clear to me that he wants me back. What would all of you DO? God and others, help me LOL! Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 1 Jun, 2011 02:08 PM well if you love him, you should spend time with him of course. if you just want to date and see whats out there (nothing) then give it a try. Post Reply
View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 1 Jun, 2011 02:15 PM LOL River ur so right! NOTHING is out there...sigh. Thanks again:-) Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 1 Jun, 2011 03:03 PM :waving: yep Post Reply
View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 2 Jun, 2011 07:08 AM Somebody needs to tell that guy to RUN! Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Here we go again...wise counsel Posted : 3 Jun, 2011 10:46 AM oh cut it out Post Reply

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