Something has got to be wrong with me. It just seems like guys never have really liked me. This even counts in high school. Either I didn't look good enough, wasn't into sports, etc,
Now, it seems I don't have a good job, heck i don't have one at all. etc. It is always something. It doesn't seem to matter that I am a good caring person, and they sure don't seem to want a Christian lady.
I had one say no sex before marriage, he was like forget it.
Made me feel like I was so weird. Maybe I am. At least in todays society. Anyways, I have never been one to attract guys all my life. Why does God let this happen when you are praying to meet someone. Is it really all about looks? or how much you have>? it seems even to the men who say they are Christians it is. Even in churches the men act this way. No matter where I go nobody seems to want to get to know me and I think I am worth getting to know. Sometimes I wonder if God is stopping it or men just think I am ugly.
Our brother has an excellent point, it is much more about your view of yourself, than the way others look at you. You will never be the perfect woman for anyone. It is impossible, we all have this fantasy picture in out mind of what the perfect mate would be....no one can live up to that, don't even try.
It is really about what you think of yourself. Don't base your self worth on the opinion of others, that is asking for failure before you start. You have to find what you like about you, and concentrate on that. Also, find what you can't stand about yourself.....and change it! YOU are in control of YOU. No one can hurt you, unless you allow it. Let me tell you a little about myself, so you know I am speaking from experience, and not some book by someone who has no clue.
I am a big guy, 300+ pounds. I wasn't always fat, I got that way later in life, so I can talk from both sides. I was a muscular kid and young adult. Some girls were interested, but not many. Now I have no problem attracting women, and it amazes other men. I am just comfortable with who I am. Being fat is a very small part of who I am. I am very loving and kind....I like that about me. I am romantic to a fault...also like that. I am strong in my faith, honest, thoughtful, intelligent, usually articulate, well read, loyal, focused, and much more...all of which I like. And more importantly God likes. Yes, I have problems....I am fat, I smoke, I need to have some dental work done, I am poor, and much more. So what, I am okay with that. What do I care what you think.....God loves me just like I am, warts and all.
We all establish our own self worth by our actions and attitudes. We are as valuable as we decide we are. People pick up on that quickly, and that is how they respond to us. Don't EVER let someone else dictate your worth. They don't know you. Only you can make that decision, you are the only one that knows the real you.
Now, with all that said, I believe in getting yourself the way you want before offering yourself to another. I think that if we don't, then our happiness is still reliant on someone else. The one thing the Bible really teaches us, is that man will let you down every time. Let God be the one you depend on, He will guide you to where you need to be....and guess what, He will NEVER let you down, never stop loving you, and never tell you something just to hurt you. Can you find a man that can say that?
This world and everyone in it is evil, you have to stop letting evil dictate your self worth. All that does is move you further from God. STOP IT! You know the verses, God wants us to be confident in our place with Him, not man.
If you need to talk more, you know how to get in touch, feel free. I am here off and on all day.
What you said is something we all need to strive for: confidence in Christ. Once we have that confidence, then our own self worth will spring forth and renew us in to the best person we can be.
Sweetie, be yourself and wait on the Lord. He knows the desires of your heart. Have you ever thought that maybe God had a specific need from you as His servant and a relationship with a man would interfere with that? I'm only specualting. But God does everything for a reason and does everything in His time. If Jesus lives in your heart, then His beauty will reflect on your appearance. And the right man, the one God has designed just for you, will see that beauty and love you for it. Hang in there, and know that God loves you better than any man on earth ever will.
