Author	Thread: Lust Vs. Love
Admin	Lust Vs. Love Posted : 2 Dec, 2008 12:38 PM I truly wonder if it isn't LUST that most people use first to consider if a person is worthy of coming to know on a deeper level. After all, one's eyes tends to see before one's heart knows the truth to what lies within. Even upon discovering the inner beauty, there seems to only be a motivation to progress if the external beauty has planted a deep enough root. While LUST will never produce a solid and sustaining relationship, it's disheartening to see how easily people use LUST to begin and define a relationship. For the Christians who say they want to love like Jesus, does that only apply to the people that you won't potentially marry, live with, have intimate relations with, etc, and in regards to those pepole who have double standards, can being "pretty" be a high enough standard for your relationship to produce everlasting love? I think people enjoy LUSTING after a person much more than really taking into consideration the commitment and work it will take to really love someone with the dignity and respect they deserve. From past experience, I know, accept, and understand that it will take honest and hard work to express pure love and to maintain a healthy relationship for the long term. I think single Christians are just as guilty as single non Christians in wanting the temporary and pseudo excitement LUST provides. Also, I'm not limiting LUST to physical attributes alone, but LUSTING after another person's wordly position/career or financial assests. I appreciate sincere compliments when they come my way, but I want to love and be loved for the right and righteous reasons both in the short and long term. Anyone else care to comment? Will Post Reply
View Profile History	Lust Vs. Love Posted : 2 Dec, 2008 06:43 PM For appearance to play no factor in whether or not you care to date/be with someone is, in my opinion, a worthy aspiration. I don't however, think that it is completely attainable. To claim otherwise is, again imo, perhaps a bit self-deceptive? Not trying to be argumentative...I don't think. Personally, looks matter little. Many things are of far greater value, such as character, integrity, Godliness, etc. I'd prefer a man to be somewhat average in appearance. I'm probably not normal, in having looks matter so little...but I won't say that they're of absolutely no importance. If, for example, there was a man whose face had been badly scarred in a fire...I can't say I'd give him much of a chance...if I met him in person. If I met him online, and he posessed those qualities which are of value to me, I think I could learn to care despite his appearance. But, much as I wish otherwise, I can't say it wouldn't matter at all. That's an extreme example perhaps. But I keep reading from men that looks don't matter at all...and I do question how sincere that really is. Post Reply
View Profile History	Lust Vs. Love Posted : 3 Dec, 2008 02:37 AM I think our sister nailed this one. I don't think we will ever take lust completely out of our relationships. If you are married to someone, you lust after them at times. We are just not to let it rule over us. I am attracted to a certain type of woman, but have yet to find one of that type with the heart I seek. I have not let that attraction keep me from finding a woman with a beautiful heart, and that is where the real love comes in. Love, from a pure heart, will always win out in the long run. Just my opinion, Leon Post Reply