Author	Thread: Choice vs. Feeling
Admin	Choice vs. Feeling Posted : 7 Dec, 2010 03:11 AM Which do you think comes first, choosing to love someone, or the feeling of love? Do you feel love because of someone�s actions, or do you choose to show love because you feel like it? Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Choice vs. Feeling Posted : 10 Dec, 2010 04:29 PM It is possible to learn to play the game...just have to find some peace. I really think I had some kind of mild autism or brain thing, because very often it would feel like someone would take a thought/feeling in my head and start playing racquetball in there until my head was ringing. I think it's possible to overcome some things to a degree, maybe not severe cases, but I do think a lot of people blame their problems, or lack of patience/temper on something they can't control and never really try to overcome it. That's not always the case...there are legitimate disabilities...but take a look at Temple Grandin. She overcame a lot. Anyway...I believe it's possible sometimes, and I know I've overcome a lot in my own life/mind. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Choice vs. Feeling Posted : 10 Dec, 2010 07:43 PM Cobbler- I've said it before: you have been given some good pieces of advice over time. I have not read that you have taken any of those suggestions. Yes, there are people who are offering opinions without knowing your personality and what you deal with. I know it may seem heartless and thoughtless, but you have faced that kind of thing before - even from you own family as you shared. Accept what you feel is useful and disregard everything else. People can have their opinions and it is OK for you to disagree or just shake your head at what they say. But what are you doing with the rest of it? Has any suggestion offered (not just in this thread) touched your heart or head in a way that you thought you could try? If you have and something has helped or worked for you in any way (not just in getting a date), then there are folks who have offered advice to you over time who would like to hear it. Not for our sakes, Cobbler -- for yours. We want to know how things are and offer support, encouragement, or a kick in the pants. Or any combination thereof. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Choice vs. Feeling Posted : 10 Dec, 2010 09:20 PM Cobbler, for years I was terrible at throwing a football. Like really, really bad. I was absolutely abysmal. Even as a receiver in high school, I could catch pretty much whatever was thrown at me, but couldn't for the life of me throw it back. I asked a lot of people for help, but none of them could really fix my problem. Everything I tried was just as useless as the last thing. Then I found a Youtube video series that broke it down in a way I could understand (ball to your ear, elbow forward, push with your forearm, and flick your fingers to the outside, in case anybody's curious). As it turns out, my frustration with the "game" came from my misunderstanding of the "rules." I had to relearn what I thought I already knew, and I had to find somebody who could explain it in a way that made sense to me individually. We all want to help you, but perhaps what you need is someone who can "speak your language." Maybe they can explain things in a way that you just "get." Please come back. We really do enjoy what you have to say! Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Choice vs. Feeling Posted : 11 Dec, 2010 09:19 PM I have absorbed a good bit of dating advice, but the most enduring is "Find a girl who gets you." That is key. Post Reply

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