Sorry but I owe all you girls and guys an apology. I'm very sorry. Pray you can find it in ur hearts to forgive me if not I understand.
It was never my friend but myself seeking an anonymous sperm donor. I wanted to see why people are against this so much. Don't feel obligated to try to talk me out of it my mind is made up.
The procedure is affordable I found out only bout 500$. I still will be seeking a Godly husband before during and after pregnancy if the Good Lord has mercy on me and let's me get pregnant.
If a man doesn't want me and my potential baby then it's his loss. I feel pretty strong about after I have my baby I'll find a Godly man to father my baby. There are many men who step to the plate and are more than willing to father babies that aren't biological this kind of man with this kind of character will steal my heart away. I just know it. I feel strongly that if it's God's will I'll get pregnant if not I won't. I won't have any regrets as long as I at least try once.
I feel with every breath in me that I'm making the right choice and it's now or never. I will never allow my baby years to pass me by and be 50 single motherless with regrets. That's not how I operate. I've always went after what I want and don't let anyone or anything stop me outside of God.
Just wanted you all to know the truth.
God bless all you beautiful people who shared ur time regarding my e-mail's on this subject.
Im not sure its the best way......but I will say any baby born is ordained by god!
I do think you will make a wonderful mother,
Im wondering if there isnt a little bit of man hating going on there though.
I raised my only daughter by myself,sacrificed a lot,including major bucks in court battles,child support.....If you want to know How messed up our system is,I was still paying child support a year after I had custody of her!
my daughter was the product of a one night stand.Ive never been married.Her mother saw me as a welfare check.Turns out she had five kids by five different fathers never married any of them!Just made sure she got all the gov. handouts and the childsupport....so she could sleep around some more and do drugs.....she is currently in prison and my daughter is 18 and going to college,and she never wants to see her mother again.
so all men arent bad...I love children and have never ruled out ladies with kids as potential mates,but what kind of wife would you make i wonder?Would you put your husband first?
it sounds like your gonna do what ever you want,you might be kind of a stubborn willfull women who wants her way in a relationship,
are you that way with god too?
Okay I know your gonna rip into me for these comments
LOL,but im just being Honest,and I can take it.
No matter what you do you are my sis in Christ and I will always pray for you and your Child.
just remember,your children are not your property
they are just people like you and me
your child could be like moses or paul.....or jeffry Dahmer
I just joined this site hoping that I might find something different than the pandemic I see every day now in more secular dating sites: That of new age women who have absolutely no concept of the negative consequences of having kids without a father in their lives to mentor them. I've seen far too many of these women believe that they are the SOLE ones in the world that can give their child EVERYTHING they need to become emotionally and spiritually healthy... These women are arrogant enough to believe that their children WON'T be affected in some way later on in life when their children go on to try to have healthy man/woman relationships or marriages. Most times, they're just man haters...with severe daddy issues, who then use their kids as their surrogate mates, never cutting apron strings, and allowing for healthy "leave and cleave" scenarios.
I was hoping that by coming to this site once I found it, I would find a difference. After reading this post and the subsequent others by the poster....it's nice to see that Christian women, who keep saying "praise Jesus"....and "I know God wants this for me...I know it's in GOD'S WILL to be without a father no matter WHAT anybody says...".... are actually MORE arrogant than the women I've seen on secular sites.
I can expect women in secular sites to have a "I can do what I want because it's MY body.." attitude. As I said, it's pandemic. It is what feminism has brought to this world. I find this posters arrogance even worse though..... because she actually would rather use GOD as the scapegoat, instead of just acknowledging her own selfishness.....
I'm not sure what Bible you're reading.... but I didn't see anywhere in Genesis where Eve simply said.... "Hey ADAM....I'm going to have CAIN AND ABEL ALL BY MYSELF.....because THAT''S GOD'S WILL FOR ME..."
Correct me if I'm wrong....but wasn't it Eve's arrogance that got the whole thing started to begin with??
At least I know the Bible is right.... I've just witnessed a living Eve right before my eyes.....
Moms might be mandatory........but DAD'S make the difference....
I agree completely, Piano4T Welcome to the forum, and I hope you will stay as there many wonderful people here that believe in a Walk in Obedience in the Word with our Savior Jesus Christ. I know we all look forward to hearing more from you Brother.
Hey....I saw all the torches and thought you were making a 'Frankstein' movie, but when I got here I had to duck in order to avoid all of the Stones flying around.
I wonder how many of us if we grew up with the same background -- history -- and emotional make up....would not be doing the same thing.
I don't think it's fair to say this person would not make a good mother or suggest that she will be raising a Jeffery Dahmer. I would call that "putting down" instead of "lifting up".
I really don't believe that "slapping" someone in their face is going to help them see your point of view. It might make you feel better....but I don't think they will.
We need more voices with Love in them (I an quilty also) and more compassion in their Hearts.
I will make a better effort to "curb" my tongue and expect all of you to call me out when I don't.
This Sister needs our Prayers....not our punches. She needs our Love....not our lashes. She needs our Hugs....not our...?
I can think of what would go with Hugs....not our Mugs?
Whatever! 4TE there are plenty of Godly women on this site...none perfect ( well...a few are..or close!) and it would behoove you to remain.
I myself, personally have never behooved but I've read books...sorry.
You all really stepped up to the plate for your precious, beautiful sister. I hope she can 'hear' in your fervent prayers and messages how much you respect women and children and how much you care about her personal heartache.
You've said so much and said it well; so I will just pray now that this lovely lady will go back to her loving Father with a mother's tears and have another very intimate chat about all that was shared.
Some of us have already taken the "surely this must be God's will" field trip with heartbreaking and far reaching consequences. I'm one of them; and if there's anything I know that I know it's that we are most likely to miss the mark when we are under pressure to fire. And it could be your beloved child that suffers unimaginably in the end . . .
dear folks, the name calling needs to stop now. pure direct name calling is against the rules here.
i know folks have strong beliefs . i understand that as i have em myself.
but direct name calling and improper materials or threats should never be a part of a christian forum. we need to show more self control. more virtue,more modesty,more love ,more mercy, more forgiveness if someone is so inclined to apologize to us. and we are sposed to forgive em anyways even if they dont apologize to us.
our number one job as a christian is to love the LORD our GOD with all our hearts, minds and souls..
our second job ,is to love our neightbors as ourselves.
our 3rd job is to spread the gospel.
its not our job to make people obey the word of GOD.
its not our job to directly call them names.no its not.
it is our duty as christians to tell others what we believe the word of GOD says about given topics. pray for those that need prayers. some may wanna share some of their lifes experiences ,some may wanna share a good article they read. some may wanna share to you a sermon theyve been given.. some may seek just plain old fashioned fellowship. and some are seeking love.
so remember this if we direct namecall , if we bring up or in improper material , make threats, whether it be me, you or someone new, we will all be held accountable here. and not only will we be held accountable here but we will also be held accountable for it again one day..
My Dear Friends, and Kimberly, I do include you among my Dear Friends as I write this.
As we weave our way through these threads on this topic, I have learned a great deal about myself along the way.
The first lesson was "wise counsel". I am currently going through things that are way bigger than I am, and I can see where the Lord has sent me Wise Counsel, and I need to have patience and wait upon Him and continue on in what I know I should be doing and Trust that He has all the details handled, and very soon I will be blessed to be some place better than I am right now.
The second thing I have been reminded of along the way is "Thy Will Be Done". Do I agree with Kimberly, obviously, I do not, but again it very much reminds me of someone else that went off on their own tangent to fulfill the desires that burned within them, ignoring all counsel put before them. They went through a fierce and intense fire that scarred them and changed them forever, but not in a bad way because they saw the error of their ways and it amplified their faith in a way nothing else ever could have.
That person is me. Or is that person you? How many of us had our days of foolishness where we felt no one understood us or could know what was best for us, and we walked straight into the world to burst into flame, and when we did, we discovered we were not alone. The Lord was with us.
Many of us worry about Kimberly because we feel that this is what she is doing, but here in comes the latest thing I have learned in all this. We could not see past ourselves because we needed to go head on into that fire to find our faith in Him. I believe Kimberly is blind to our words because maybe she DOES need to go through what the Lord knows she needs to go through to bring her faith to where He wants it to be.
She already has a faith in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. This is good for along the way, the road will be difficult and she will need it. She will also need our prayers, for maybe we would not have made it along the way if people we did not even know hadn't said, "Lord, I'm a little worried about that Child" It bothers me that no one else stands on that prayer for her "Thy Will Be Done Lord, Walk with Kimberly".
When the prodigal son left home, his father did not stand in his way, but rejoiced when he returned having learned much along the way.
Mary did not stop Jesus from going forth into the world knowing he would sacrificed . Maybe she didn't know, but I think she did. Mothers that are close to their children have a way of knowing when peril awaits them often times. I think she knew in her heart that the road before her son would be difficult and harsh. As parents, who would want that for your child?
Sometimes we have to go through that fire, battle demons, go to prison, suffer that we might be brought closer unto His Glory. Many among us will still go through many, many trials, harsh trials, trials that we did not foresee being the way they would be, but the Lord will be with us, and the Lord will be with Kimberly.
We have all made HUGE mistakes along the way, I certainly know I have. I have made horrendous mistakes. I am going to continue my prayer for Kimberly because I trust the Lord has this worked out, and the Lord does want what is best for Kimberly and if He has it under control, it is time we let this go and pray for her. We know that if the Lord grants her desire that it is going to be difficult. Do we also know that if the Lord does not grant her way, that it will also be difficult? She wants this child more than life itself, which we cannot understand maybe, but if the Lord's answer is no, it will hurt her.
We have in Faith given her the best of our "wise counsel" and she remains blind to what we see so clear, for the clarity of her focus is on this desire. I see heartbreak for any outcome here, please my brothers and sisters, the time for wise counsel has passed for all has been said and what more could anyone say, yet here she is, still with us, still asking things she knows we cannot condone. Why is she here? I think she is here because the Lord wants us all to stand in prayer for a beloved Sister that IS hurting. We cannot make that better for her.
When we cannot change things, who can? The Lord God Almighty who can do all things, He can, and if we pray for HIS Will in her life, not ours, I Trust in Him, and I Believe He Will Not Forsake a Child of His, not even one.
Thank you Kimberly for the life lessons that I have needed here, and my prayers will continue to be with you knowing the Lord will hold you in the palm of His Hand with every step you take and with every choice you make along the way. And please remember that no matter what direction things take, as you find yourself in the fire, the Lord is right there beside you as you stand in it.
