Author	Thread: premarital counseling poll
Admin	premarital counseling poll Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 08:46 PM Premarital counseling... A. is completely unnecessary w/ a Christian couple. B. should be done in a few sessions in the months before the wedding. C. should be started before the couple is engaged, once they are serious and are contemplating marriage. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	premarital counseling poll Posted : 18 Sep, 2010 06:46 AM Pixy, perhaps that's where a compromise would come in handy! Rather than have formal premarital counseling before the engagement, just try to spend a lot of time together as a couple in the presence of another happily married couple...perhaps even a couple who has done some counseling in the past, such as a trusted pastor and his wife, or an older couple in the church who has raised and married off their own children. I know distance is an issue in your relationship, but if one of you could spend a week or so visiting the other (I'm not suggesting anything inappropriate here), and enlist the observations of the other couple during that time, it might work. My sister is dating a guy very seriously. After they'd been dating for a couple months, he spent the day with my family and with some close family friends. At the end of the day, we ALL had some very serious concerns about that relationship. All of us, that is, except for those two, who were oblivious to the problems. The friends were able to finally get my sister to understand that the relationship was not a healthy one. My sister asked the guy for some time apart, and when they finally started dating again, both had taken a lot of time to pray and seek God's will. The dating relationship is going much more smoothly this time around because a lot of the problems are worked out. Post Reply
View Profile History	premarital counseling poll Posted : 18 Sep, 2010 09:51 PM Good advice, pianogal. That's interesting that other people saw things in your sister's relationship that she didn't see herself. Perhaps we'll compromise (if/when we get that far). But, I'd probably be okay w/ just letting him decide actually. I trust his judgment usually =) Post Reply

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