Author	Thread: Still looking?
Admin	Still looking? Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 01:09 PM Are you serious about meeting your future spouse here? I mean, REALLY serious??? How many people have you winked at or emailed... TODAY? This week? Have you searched through the profiles again this week to see if there's anyone new? Have you tried contacting anybody who's looked at your profile recently? If you CHOOSE not to initiate contact with others, not to meet up with others when the chance arises: don't blame God if you spend the rest of your life single. If you want to walk on the water, you've gotta get out of the boat! Post Reply
View Profile History	Still looking? Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 07:49 AM I'll answer this in two parts. With all due respect the question is somewhat flawed in that the reflex response is yes because who's going to say No? The question is lacking because because it doesn't address the motivation for the seriousness or lack of seriousness. Have I winked or emailed someone today? Nope I don't typically send winks and while I do email on here but I'm not constantly emailing people. I have searched from time to time and yes I have contacted people as a result of those searches more often than not I either get no reply, where I either see that the message was read or see it was read and my profile viewed but no reply or see that the message was not read which could mean a dead or inactive profile. That said I'll say this much. Am I serious on my search to find a spouse, yes I am. I will qualify that with the importance of our motivation for "finding someone" There is nothing wrong with being serious about looking for someone on a site like this but where it strays into sin is when when that seriousness becomes an obsession, in which case it becomes an idol itself. If we put too high of an emphasis on finding someone we should ask ourselves am I looking for a mate to share my life with and grow with, or am I seeking the relationship itself. And be honest with ourselves. So in general my answer is yes but in more detail I am on this sight with the perspective that this can be a tool that God can use to bring someone into my life. If I meet that person on here great if not that is fine as well. I've made many friends on here and will continue to do so. Doesn't mean I don't use the features of this site to see who's out there and see if someone peeks my interest to contact them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Still looking? Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 11:34 AM I like your words, hoosiermike. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Still looking? Posted : 1 May, 2011 08:40 AM @hoosier: Yeah, it was a loaded question wasn't it:laugh: But it was also rhetorical and it seems to have worked. It made people think (enough to even reply in some cases) and serve as a reminder that faith without works is pretty much dead. Post Reply
View Profile History	Still looking? Posted : 2 May, 2011 10:16 PM A friend of mine was stationed in the Phillipines many years ago. My friend and his fellow Marines were approached many, many times by guys who offered to sell them their sisters/daughters for as little as $50. My uncle married a girl from the Phillipines. He and my aunt sent her mother money. Her mother was saving up the money to buy a home. My aunt's brother stole the money and spent it on a car an partying. Her family (8 people) still rent a room from another family. Women over there are treated like chattel. The reason so many Fillipinas view your profile is that they are desperate to get away from there. My aunt was happy to leave the Phillipines, even though my uncle is 46 years older than her. She was 21 when they married and have been married for 17 years. Unlike many American women Ive met, they believe in marriage for life. They dont get divorced because they "dont feel the spark" or "because its Tuesday". Post Reply
View Profile History	Still looking? Posted : 3 May, 2011 10:54 AM That's part of the problem; are they marrying you for love (i.e. do they really want to end their days with you) or as a means to an end? Even if we sympathise, do you want to be taken through a divorce/custody court years down the line? Divorce may not be an option in their own country but if you're not living there then it's still a possibility. Post Reply
View Profile History	Still looking? Posted : 3 May, 2011 08:26 PM Another reason there isn't a lot of divorce in the Philippines is because it cost a lot of money, a lot more money than most of the people there have. I know a lot of Filipino people that are living in China, and a few of them are separated from their spouse but they will never be able to get a divorce because they will never be able to afford it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Still looking? Posted : 22 May, 2011 09:27 PM I have done countless searches and e-mailed DOZENS of females. The struggle is that just becaue you like a person and e-mail them- that does not assure that they are going to fall in love :hearts: with you. It is not easy to want and I do reject scammers, yet for some odd reason I find that the most meaningful relationships are the ones where the girl finds and likes my page FIRST. :glow: Post Reply

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