Author	Thread: Any older virgins here?
Admin	Any older virgins here? Posted : 26 Mar, 2011 10:12 PM DISCLAIMER: This thread is NOT an attack towards those who have committed fornication in the past. If you have had premarital sex in the past but you've since repented from that and are now committing your life to sexual purity, then praise be to God and I tip my hat off to you for turning your life and morals around. With that being said....... Most of the time I feel like I am alone in this world when it comes to this subject matter, but maybe I am wrong. I am 30 years old and never married and I'm still a virgin. I intend to stay that way until my wedding night (if God ever brings me a wife). I know I am doing the right thing, but it is extremely difficult and frustrating to say the least when you're my age and have yet to have sex in a world where the average human being loses their virginity at age 12 and people like me are considered to be "strange". The older I get, the more I find it hard to deal with all the garbage the world throws at me when it comes to sexual immorality, especially since I'm a technician at a local car dealer (a career field that has a high tendency to attract men who are among the biggest perverts in the world and love to fill their toolbox drawers with porn and talk about stuff like how they want to "bang" that hot customer with the nice body or go hang out at strip clubs, etc.). I have heard people say that "The 40 Year Old Virgin" is a funny movie, but to be honest, I don't think I will ever want to put any effort into watching that movie because I have a feeling that it's a slam against people like me. Are there any older virgins like myself that share my frustration or am I alone in this catagory? Post Reply
View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 4 Apr, 2011 10:09 AM Dscott, what you wrote was terrific! Post Reply
View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 4 Apr, 2011 10:39 PM I'm not a virgin (was sexually abused as a child and then raped as an adult), but I have remained pure and have never given myself away willingly. I turned 32 in December. Post Reply
View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 07:00 AM Don't worry your not missing out on much. I was raped at a young age. And my dad was never there for me emotionally. I learned quickly, the way to get attention and my emotional needs filled was to be a man's toy. I stayed that way till now. And am trying to live a pure life. It is very hard. I respect virgins, you don't have to deal with all the pain, when you give yourself to someone, and then either are rejected, or it just doesn't work out. To me finding a man older then 21 that is a virgin, is like finding fairys, or something rare. All the men I have had in my life are disrespecting, pigs. But to be honest only two of them were christians. I guess I was fishing out of the wrong barrel. lol. To be honest though, I think Satan likes to put lies in my head about the whole virginity thing, or waiting till marriage to have sex. I am afraid that when we get married, and have our honeymoon. The sex is going to be very bad, and stay very bad. I have been married before, to a baptist preacher. And he had so many hang ups about sex, thinking it was all sinful. That it lead to no sex life. I guess this post makes me look crazy. But just trying to give you virgins some insight and hope. You waited, you are pure, you don't have to deal with all the hurts of bad choices like I do. :angel: :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 10 Apr, 2011 06:01 AM I'm terribly sorry pixy and soluvable about what happend to the two of you. That is horrible. Post Reply
heart614 View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 07:19 AM Great to hear that there are still men out there who value their virginity before marriage in this modern time. I salute you for your courage. God Bless! Post Reply
valpo99 View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 07:52 AM Hey jahjah, I'm 30 as well and am waiting until I get married. My view is I'm obeying God and those that criticize or think I'm weird probably didn't obey God. Always remember Phil. 4:13 and Prov. 3:5-6. that's what I do. I may not understand why I'm this old and not married but I need to realize God has a plan for my life and it will work out in his time not mine so I need to be patient Post Reply
View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 08:04 AM Your not alone, I turned 34 and still a virgin. The way I look at it is God has given us his blueprint for male/female relationships ant that sex is not to be had outside of the bonds of marriage. Therefore I have no regrets that I'm somehow "missing out" but I will hold on to purity till either 1 of 3 things happens, God blesses me with a wife, I die before finding a wife, or Christ returns before finding a wife. I will not compromise on this. As for what people say or do to belittle and think we're strange for being in our 30's and still pure can be hurtful but I say let them talk. I'm following God's commands that is good enough for me. On that note I haven't experienced the cold shoulder or mocking personally though I know what you mean this world (a society of sinners) seems to think that if a guy is in his 30's or older that hasn't had sex is either gay or something is wrong with him. What does get tough is that being in my 30's and pure I would like to find someone who is also pure but I know the olderI get the harder that is to find. Finding a Christian girl in her 30's or late 20's who has never been married and is keeping herself pure is a rare thing. This is the thing that I struggle with a little because on one hand I would like to find someone who is single/never married, and pure but on the other hand I know that we all have a past and no one is perfect. So I don't want to hold someone's past against them. reality is people have marriages that failed and or may have had a past, but, by the Grace of God has committed following God and maintaining purity. So the thing I wrestle with is how much emphasis should I put on finding someone who is also single/never married, and has remained pure? Does it make me a bad person for desiring someone in that state? I'll say that my current position is that I would like to find someone like that but I won't discount that there are good Christian women out there who have been married before and/or are no longer a virgin but are currently committed to purity. I don't want to disqualify someone by holding their past against them as we are all imperfect but at the same time would prefer a single/never married/pure lady. Post Reply
View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 2 May, 2011 10:55 PM Im 43 and still a virgin. I care little about what other people think of my decision, so their barbs are laughable. In my case, the only problem I have with remaining a virgin and that I will not marry someone who isnt a virgin as well. At my age, it is getting more and more difficult to find such a woman. Post Reply
Tracy89 View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 20 Sep, 2013 11:33 AM I am talking to a guy from this website. He is so confused by my desire to hold off on some chemistry producing things such as cuddling and kissing. He seems to think that he would want to know what it is like to have sex with a woman before he would marry her. I had thought that God wanted me to wait for marriage. I know that 40 year old virgins are odd but are we really that odd. I have thought about watching that movie because I am a 40 year old virgin. I suspect I would find myself offended. So, I would have to rent it so that I can stop it when I want to. The newer translations use the phrase "Immoral sex" or something like that in place of fornication. I can't think what else it could mean since it is used in conjunction with adultery. Paul seems to recommend marriage for those who control his/her desires. (I hate to use Paul's writings to support my position because I don't like that Paul seems to place women below men in some areas.) But, he ask me for Bible verses to support my position. Since I know that he loved his wife and stay true to her and loves his daughter very much, I think he is a good man. Post Reply
View Profile History	Any older virgins here? Posted : 1 Oct, 2013 01:11 PM It's not hard to keep yourself pure before marriage with God's help and active style of life! As a 29-year old virgin I understand how much unused sexual energy everybody of us have! So, as it's impossible to use this energy in a right way in marriage, it's better to distract yourself with something else. It could be a sport or the own business. They both works for me, because they require a lot of energy! May God bless everybody of us stay away from sin and be happy with the right partner! Post Reply

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