Author	Thread: Why is she keeping this from me?
Admin	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 09:28 AM I've been talking to a girl on here forever, like almost a year. We really like each other and I basically told her everything about me. She doesn't want to tell me her last name for some reason. What does this mean? Does she not trust me, is she hiding something, is she playing with me? What is wrong with this picture? I'm sure she's told everyone else she's talked to but she won't tell me. It's like I don't even know who she is. I told her my full name and tons of other stuff. She has no reason to not trust me. And when i say something about dating or whatever she says she doesn't want a relationship right now and yet she has tons of guy friends and talks to I don't know how many guys. She told me some story about a black man attacking her at work and how scared she was. Is she just playing with my emotions? I really have feelings for her and I care so much for her but she keeps distant from me. Should I just forget her or what? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 12:47 PM :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 12:56 PM BlueKnight, you are definitely a winner in my opinion. Based on what you have written, you have been a gentleman and "done everything right." I believe you have figured this out. (I have to write, I am impressed with the amount of grace many guys around here have shown when it comes to ending relationships or changing the direction of the relationship. The world would say you have a right to retaliate, yet all I read is Christ-centered love. Thanks guys!) A relationship such as this should not be as frustrating as it appears. We have so much protection in the anonymity of this site. You have given her enough to quell any concerns. Your gentle pressing has given you your answer. I do not know who you are writing about, and I do not know what she is thinking. However, by now, in my opinion, there should have been some indication about intent on her part. You are a sweetie, and I will pray for you both tonight. Just consider this; this is happening with others, too. You are not alone. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 12:57 PM You had better be with me and not at me or I may need to flipper-slap someone! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 01:26 PM I wonder if this is a good example of a problem with the "friends first" philosophy that has been discussed several times on this forum. Wether it was discussed up front or not about being friends first, if one side takes that stance, how do you get past it? And Ridley! proposing to someone else!?!? The audacity! :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 01:27 PM Uhh ohh! Busted! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 01:30 PM Alright man, there's more to this relationship than just you and your fragile self-esteem. Women have a much harder time with dating than men. The most we have to worry about is hurt feelings. The most they have to worry about are going out with and marrying serial killers or rapists or child molesters or somebody that is mean and abusive as time marches on mercilessly. Su ck it up. Your salvation in this is to not necessarily move on and leave it (HER) at just that, but to be honest and spend more time with her. I'm not saying smother her I mean don't just cut her off. I know it's totally cliche, but like the song says, 'You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you get what you need.' Maybe it won't work out, but don't be sad or bitter. I'd bet my check that is the opposite of what she wants, but she also has a right to her own happiness and her own feelings. And if you really care about what she wants, then you will be true to that. Keep your head up, guy, there's more to this relationship. Another thing to keep in mind is be open and accepting the idea of maybe she's not what exactly who you think she is, and that that isn't a bad thing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 03:07 PM Blue, it's possible she playing with your emotions, but I think the reality is that she is may not be ready to be in a relationship. The thing that seems to have escaped notice is the fact she said she was attacked. Not knowing the nature or severity of the attack, much less when it happened, I'm just going to say that this has probably effected her on an emotional nature. It's possible that she is still dealing with PTSD and is afraid to commit to anyone. But there is a slim chance she is, as you sort of think, she may being just trying to create drama to pull on your heart strings. Either way, you may need to back away from her because: a. it sounds like from something you said earlier that you can't just be friends with her, and b. if she really is just playing games with you, you don't need that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 03:11 PM Rids, I promise, I didn't say a word. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 03:33 PM Be still my heart! Someone else besides me quotes Mick! Do you know that when my kids were all very small, I used to tell them that "A very wise man once sang..." We used to say it back and forth over the ages to each other. They are now, 25, 23, & 17. Now they just roll their eyes at me and say, "We know, Mom!" Just a swim down memory lane with the Turtle. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 04:08 PM I was truly impressed by your always thinking the best and looking for the good in others post and addressing them with loving humor.....that was until now.... .....Hahaha! Post Reply

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