Author	Thread: Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping
NicoleMarieG View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 02:16 PM I wasn't sure where else to put this. Because I figured everyone would have an opinion and I was curious to see what thoughts were! I'm not shooting for arguments or anything. I hope this doesn't somehow turn into a fight. Anyway. I have a lot of friends on their way to marriage. And my sister and her husband have been married for almost three years. So I've been to my fair share of weddings. Big ones, small ones, and I've been the witness for one couple as they eloped. I'm curious. What are your thoughts? Or what do you think would be the ideal situation for you? Something big and grand? A huge celebration for all to end? Something small and intimate for close friends and family? Or just an escape with the one you love? My mama is probably the most influential person in my life. And during the prep for my sisters wedding she turned to me and said, Nicole? When you get hitched, do me a favor...elope. Go to Vegas or the Bahamas or Scotland and just elope. Get yourself an amazing dress, grab Katherine (my best friend), and get your partner to grab their best mate. And just do it. And then send me a postcard. A pretty postcard with a photo from the ceremony on the front. Lol. Now. Part of me thinks she was kidding. The other? I'm not so sure. Haha. I guess when you're little, you have this idea in your head for what a wedding ceremony is supposed to look like. Or a fantasy of it. What are yours? Has it changed over the years? Do you think its become more of a show for the family? And is it totally bride centered? I imagine men have thought about their wedding day! Again, I don't want to start a heated argument. I just want to get all "girly" and read some thoughts on the subject. I want to hear from first timers as well as those preparing for another marriage. Its silly, I know. But I'm a curious person. And recent events have made me wonder...What do others think about this whole wedding business. =] Nik Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 06:28 PM @Shawn: Question for you: What if you get engaged to a lady whose father will pay all expenses, so that his daughter can have whatever kind of wedding she likes. What would you do then? Would you still insist on very little money being spent? Or trust her to pick out everything with a frugal eye, being aware of how you feel about the subject? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 12:09 AM I know far too many people to have a small wedding. I like the idea of a simple ceremony in a church with friends doing the music, followed by a big reception. When the time comes, I'm sure I'll just want to skip right off to the honeymoon, but I've always enjoyed big receptions because it felt like a true celebration of the marriage of that couple. I mean, if I'm going to throw a party for the new year, why wouldn't I throw a party to celebrate marriage to my wife? Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 05:04 PM Here are my thoughts...I have been married once and we had a small ceremony-about 75 guests total. Nice church," so so" reception hall but everything was paid for before the big day. We paid for sandwiches & all the fxings, one case of champagne for the toast and then there was an open bar. I made the cake w/ my mother in law, my mom & I made silk flowers,we rented the tuxedos and the brides maids dresses (who will wear them again anyway), and we rented a limo for an hour to take the wedding party from the church to the reception hall. That is a relief to not go into a marriage being in debt. Next time for me, God willing, will be a trip to Vegas, staying a 5 star hotel, going to the little white chapel and then becoming one on our first night together. Then once we arrive back home, we have a modest reception announcing the news to our family and closest friends. It will all be paid for prior to that day as well, no debt to deal with later. Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 05:06 PM my first wedding only costs 2, 000 and that included my dress. However this was in 1990 too. Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 05:29 PM godslamb: to anwer your question, yeah I would still have trouble with that much money being spent, even if her dad was paying for it. I really would rather her dad spend the money toward a house, or something that is going to make our life together better off. Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 05:49 PM godslamb: maybe I should elaborate a little more. it's more than just wedding ceremonies. I have a problem with spending excessive amounts of money on lavishness. If we have that kind of money available for descretionary spending, then there are far better ways to spend it. I really don't think we should spend money on 5,000 foot houses, huge ceremonies, etc, etc, when we have debt, or when those around us are in need. I find it a far better idea for that money to be spent helping others. Post Reply

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