Author	Thread: Insta Rejection
BeautyFromAshes View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 09:09 AM I had a question.. is this common. This is my first time being on any dating website. and since joining I've only spoken to 2 people. Not a bad thing.. but I have private messaged tons of others and either got the generic Instant I'm not interested button even tho i was not looking anything more than a conversational friend. or my Private Message was read but never replied too. And this has been about 30/40 People who have done this :party: if I hit 50 I wanna through a party /joke :dancingp: But anyway is this common? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 04:57 PM Don't worry Pixy, I don't. I've only messaged 5 girls on here, and only 2 didn't respond. One was to a dead profile and the other was never replied to. I don't think she liked my sense of humor. The rest just kind of fizzled after a couple messages. Interestingly enough, the first girl I ever messaged popped up at the top of my screen the other day. Turns out she lives in California now. My record on PlentyofFish isn't nearly as good, but you're taking a gamble there that they're a nominal Christian when you message somebody there. All the stuff about Jesus in my profile is pretty much guaranteed to scare off CINOs (Christians in name only). Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 05:44 PM How can some one say they love the lord but then will not even show any compassion. This is a huge part of being a christian and with out it your using religion as a status. Don't worry BeautyFromAshes those that are too conceded to give up a bit of there time even for a quick hello are not worthy of yours. Sweet ladies like Pixy are not going to treat you like that. Blessings and may you meet kind and thoughtfull people in the future. Post Reply
BeautyFromAshes View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 05:56 PM @rainbowian: I understand...most of my messages never get responses.. about a good 8/10 messages never get sent a response.. 1 would reply not interested and the ones that do send me messages are would send one once saying How are you etc... but never reply back after that.. @Tulip: Thanks for the Message. I don't send messages that are short usually I read a profile and usually discuss something on there profile to get started with a conversation.. but even that lands me no response or the i'm not interested response. @twosparrows: same here.. i've gotten 3 winks on this website and all 3 never responded.. not many winks I know but most of the time on this website I spend is me not getting responses haha. even from people who clearly label themselves as looking for a friend or online email friend.. @SilverFire: EXACTLY Bro! @I_live_in_canada: Thank You :) I also agree with what you said :D @Everyone: Thanks for the responses ^^ I feel better knowing I'm not the only one haha Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 21 Nov, 2010 09:29 AM Tulip I consider it very disrespectful for her to completely ignore the message. I'd much rather get a quick "sorry, not interested" response than getting no response. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 21 Nov, 2010 12:39 PM I gave up sending people messages unless I was contacted first in some way, but I was getting at least 2-5 messages/winks from new people a week. I don't know what to tell you guys. I must not be giving myself enough credit or something. Just make your profile unique and humorous, maybe a few factual things about yourself, but I really do think that people don't want/need it all at once. With all that information, they form an opinion of you before they even know you vs. being intrigued to find out more. :peace::peace: Post Reply
cajunkonection View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 21 Nov, 2010 07:26 PM Don't know man, I have gotten plenty of responses and winks, but I will say this, as far as the IM goes only two people have resonded at all to my IM requests. Maybe girls want you to actually take the time to write an original email before trying to IM??? But on the side not concerning those two IM responses, one was last night and she and I really hit it off and ended up chatting for three hours!! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 21 Nov, 2010 10:07 PM The IM doesn't work for a lot of people, so that could be one reason they don't respond. You're right that a lot of women want a message first. Congratulations on hitting it off with a girl though. Remember not to be overly available and accommodating in the beginning though. Leave a little mystery about yourself! Post Reply
View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 22 Nov, 2010 10:58 AM IM doesn't work for me. I am on a droidx phone and never am notified of a IM until after when it shows up as a missed IM in my message box. Post Reply
View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 22 Nov, 2010 04:08 PM I know how you feel, bro. At least 2/3's of the messages I send, get read and then ignored. The sad part is, I'm only looking for friends, and I'm messaging other people looking for friends. The only real "success" I've had is trying to formulate friendships with asian girls across the ocean. Even in a few of those cases, the conversations usually end because she stops responding (although this happens with the rare response from an American girl as well) after one or two messages. And yeah, I also agree that it is disrespectful to not give some sort of response, even if its just to say they're not interested. Don't let it bother you, though. Just keep trying, maybe consider the approach you've been taking, and maybe make an adjustment. Who knows, you might get more responses. Post Reply
sounddoctorin View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 05:52 PM My theory is there are phony profiles on here. People either want attention and they are overtly lying about their intentions, *or* they are phony profiles designed by the administration to make us think there are more attractive women on here. (which, given some of the lesbo ads they've allowed on here etc. it wouldn't surprise me) One way or the other, look at the ratio of really nice looking people on here. while it's not the overt fraud of christianmingle when I was on it a few years ago (sister site ldsmingle btw, in orem, ut) where thousands of stock model photos are looking for 'god fearing men'. LOL!.... it's still not right I believe. The solution would be to have a questionnaire that checks if people at least know the fundamentals of the gospel before they are just set loose to run free in here. eh. I just get on these things to witness to people mostly. I have so little hope there's anyone with enough depth to look past my minor physical handicap (blind in left eye) to any attributes after all the repeated rejection experiences I've had for the past 35 years or whatever... if there's somebody different, they'll let me know I'm sure and want to at least have a normal friendship in Christ. The golden rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Ok so if you saw a person who has absolutely ZERO fellowship in Christ with people of the opposite sex, you'd understand this is a grave imbalance and you'd seek to correct that situation,right? Uhh...no. People couldn't care less in general. Because they have a totally different agenda than the golden rule. So that's why I mostly just try to encourage people in their walks as I can because people really are that lost overall. They think they know Jesus but in reality it's usually a Jesus that they made up. They *like* the part where he died for their sins. To save them from hell. That all flies just fine. But the part that calls them to trust him with tomorrow? In practice not so much. Most people cling very tightly to their plans. They save up for tomorrow rather than trusting him. etc. etc. Post Reply

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