Author	Thread: Doing something wrong?
Admin	Doing something wrong? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 06:53 AM What is the best way to introduce yourself to the women on this site. I must be doing something wrong, because it just doesn't seem to be working. I think my profile is sufficient in telling a little about myself. Although, I admit that I am a big guy and maybe that's my problem with getting replies. When I message a woman, I say hello and give them my first name, and then a few words about why I messaged them, usually because I thought their profile was nice. whatever it is, could someone give me some tips? Post Reply
View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 11:42 AM @Cobbler. Aka Gobbled Sorry ; didn't mean to do that to you my phone somtimes picks its own words with predictive text.:goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 12:28 PM Proverbs 27:6 (NASB) 6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 02:16 PM Cobbler, I think you've touched on something important. I think psychology and human behavior is fascinating, so I read a lot about it. It's fairly well established that social behavior is learned. There is still this stigma that if you try to learn how to better relate to women ("dating skills"), that you aren't "being yourself," and that there are simply guys who are good with women and those who aren't. Until we can get rid of this stigma, men who aren't naturally good with women are going to be locked in a vicious circle, and if they get married, it's going to have a negative effect on their marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 02:32 PM Everyone can benefit from advice and help. I find it ironic that there is so much information about how to be a good husband or wife, but very little on dating besides �just being yourself�. Do people get dumber when they get married? Do they start out with good relationship skills and then lose it all when they get married? Like you said, Tulip, it is a learned skill. If people need help after they are married, then they certainly will need help before. And you are right, there is a stigma against guys who ask for help. I made the mistake of asking several people in my church for help and they all ended up accusing me of a whole list of sins. The fact that I don�t know what I am doing was completely ignored. It basically ruined my reputation and I have since left the church. What I find most ironic is that my non-Christian friends freely give me advice (not always so great advice) on dating, many times unsolicited. Many have even tried to set me up with non-Christian women. But when it comes to the church, I have been told that if I can�t figure it out on my own, then I don�t deserve to be a husband. I can�t even get my friends to introduce me to women, or even simply point them out to me. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 09:46 PM Why is it that non-christians seem to give the best dating advice? I learned the basics of what I know from non-Christians, and was able to use that to adapt it to Christian principles, but without the help of non-Christian guys, I'd be just as clueless as I was before. Actually, I think I can answer my own question. Non-Christians have actually dated a good bit, whereas most Christians I know seemed to fall backwards into whatever relationship turned into a marriage. Non-Christians have tried what works and what doesn't, while the vast majority of Christians just managed to "get lucky." Post Reply
NamelessMe View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 31 Oct, 2010 05:33 PM I think sometimes as we forget that new Christians don't always know as much as mature Christians (didn't want to say OLD) Some people are raised in Church where others find it later in life. Many times we forget to think about this when we are talking to others. Post Reply
View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 2 Nov, 2010 05:51 PM Talk about doing something wrong. At a Christmas party a guy I worked with called his wife by the name of his lover by accident. The wife had no idea we all knew. The girl was sitting at the table too. It was very uncomfortable for me. I valued my job so I shut my mouth. Post Reply
View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 04:40 AM To: Rainbowain & namelessme,no offence to you but it would great if you both put a picture on your main profile.That way you will get responses.If some people are still respondning to you,then ignore my above advice.I got to agree with Twosparrows here on your main pic on your profile.When i saw your pic,i see two things happening here : 1: Your surrounded with soft drinks.A definate no no.It makes you looks like you are a party person/drinker. I know that possibly this pic might have been taken at a party. I know that this may have been taken at a socially event but it still makes look like a "party person". no christian minded girl wants to be with a guy like & also who might "have no choice to be with guys" when they wants to hang out with them. 2: you have cigarettes around you.Defininate no no. It makes you look like a smoker & even though you you say that you're a nonsmoker it still makes you look dishonest. I hope you will see this since this had been posted this a long time ago. Post Reply
View Profile History	Doing something wrong? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 09:39 AM Better profile pic? Post Reply

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