Author	Thread: Interpreting what a guys says
Tulip89 View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 11 Sep, 2010 10:25 PM Ladies, please stop trying to read things into what a guys says. We say what we mean. My roommate's fiancee got incredibly mad at him today because she tried to interpret a text he sent. Interpret your female friends all you want since you likely need to, but just take guys at what we say, ok? It will cause you far less stress. Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 09:28 PM Lol personally, it's kinda hard to read or hear what's not there for me since that's my real job. On the weekdays from 8 to 5 I am trained for hear or read what's now there. And that's why I said that it is not easy :prayingf: Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 05:02 AM thanks guys :) I'm still here, just not quite as active :P the forums are great though! I'm 100% with Christine, women are made to interpret! that's just one big difference between us and you men. Tulip, don't you ever use metaphores or other ways of saying things that might be perceived as ambiguous? I mean, 'let's meet at 5' does not mean anything more or less than it says, but there are more complex sentences/opinions/statements which can have other meanings, too. Unless you know the person uttering the expression very well, how can you say what they mean? mmmm... PS Pixy, what did you do to your gorgeous curly hair? you still look great but I hope it's a wig :P Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 07:24 AM Not really. I don't have a reason to cloak what I mean. It's easier just to mean what I say. Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 08:06 AM ok, I see, but you know - there are different personalities - some people are blunt and direct while others may tend to put their thoughts in complicated structures which often (seem to) have a double meaning. Add the body language - you receive quite a mixture of various messages from which you have to filter the real (intended) meaning. And to make it clear - believe me, it has nothing to do with honesty, being a Christian or whatever. It's just the way people talk. Communication is not as easy as one may be thinking. Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 09:02 AM Yeah, I just watched Desperate Housewives and some men characters there (and some I met in real world) are not really true with they're saying. Agree with Marianna, I think it depends on the men and situation. Some men would say whatever they need to say to get what they want, aka lying. But, a true reliable man of God would be defined as what you said to say/write what they mean, Tulip =) Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 09:13 AM Marianna, the picture is from last fall... It's a costume wig! My curls are still here, though they're 4-1/2 inches shorter now! Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 02:08 AM You are a rare breed..You tell a woman the truth..Alot if not most men do not wnat to hurt a woman's feelings and even more importantly would rather have surgery than have a confrontation with her.... I wish men would understand how much a woman (even the ones who are confident) get a little insecure at times. I think your friend the male should have a conversation with her. Hey I noticed this (misunderstanding) has been coming up lately. When I say this I mean this. I am with you and I want to be with you.... In some instances an excuse is polite rejection...Women cannot stop being who we are....we are always gaging the temperature of the relationship.... As one christian writer wrote many christian women think they are just 3 or 4 arguments away from their man leaving them Post Reply
T4gsds View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 08:32 AM Taking a guy's word at face value is very difficult when they are confused. At the beginning of the year I dated a man for 4.5 months. We had a wonderful time together, but his marriage separation and divorce was very recent (lesson learned for me). HE ended our relationship, but with very mixed signals.... he cares about me very much, has a great time with me, misses me, misses my smile, misses my laugh, thinks I'm awesome, beautiful, etc... but he's just not sure about us long term. Yet, can't say WHY. When I asked him if it was just too soon after ending his marriage, he insisted that wasn't it (I asked him this at the beginning of us dating if he was really ready for this). BUT, my personal experience and the experience of others is that nobody is really ready after being recently separated/divorced. His confusion simply confused me. I almost wish I did something "wrong"... it would have made the break up easier for me and the lesson to learn obvious. Even today, I don't know what the real problem was. So, I don't know... I think it really depends on the man if you can truly take their word at face value. I'm not so convinced that this applies to every man. So if you can convince me... go for it! Post Reply
clong56 View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 15 Sep, 2010 11:01 AM As a surprise to everyone men and women communicate differently. Most guys any day would rather do something active to relieve stress rather than talk about it. Talking is a means to an end. With that said some men are direct in what they say to get that desired outcome or manipulate what they say to get the desired outcome. This is why most men will say "yes dear" even when they do not agree. (because the activity they will lose if they don't agree far outweighs the personal gain of winning an arguement). For those men who can't stand losing an argument it is the activity of arguing that gives them the rush, not the actual talking. Women are much more adept in communicating and can read: tone of voice, body language, hidden meanings in words, and any other way of communicating much more effectively than men, because talking has an emotion attached to it and have a larger range in feeling emotion than men do. This is why most couples when dating the guy likes the activity and stays silent while the girl talks to him constantly and says "call me" after spending 3 hours with her doing nothing but talking... It is just the way we are wired and how we get endorphins to make us feel good. Are there exceptions to this rule, absolutely! However, more often then not this applies. With all this being said, a lot can be "lost in translation". With keeping both sides in mind it is important to have that communication set up while getting to know each other. In a Christian relationship this is very important in growing and understanding each other in Christ. I hope this helped a little bit even though I am so late replying :bunny: Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 17 Sep, 2010 11:33 AM Tulip, I understand what you mean about wanting to be trusted, that's completely understandable. But next time a woman doesn't want to believe what you say straight away, take it with a grain of salt. It is not an insult; there are a lot of crummy, dishonest men out there that tarnish our views of the accountability of men in general. For instance, I've heard "I love you" from so many different men, and I can now say that most of them absolutely did not mean it. They either loved my body or the idea of getting a little something, if you know what I mean. It's good advice, definitely, and I agree with you. Just don't be upset with the woman, be upset with the men in her life that made her suspicious. Post Reply

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