You said: "I'm patiently waiting for Jesus to send the man that he's reserved for me. I hope it's soon cuz the waiting part is always the hardest."
WALTER: Could you show me in scripture where it says that God reserves someone to be your mate?
I do not believe that God has anyone reserved for anyone to be anyone's mate. God gives us total Free Will to choose our mate. There are so many Christians that are just sitting around growing old waiting because they think that God has someone picked out just for them. That is simply not Biblical IMO.
1Cor 7:39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married TO WHOM SHE WISHES, only in the Lord. NKJV
It is up to you and you alone to choose your mate. The only requirement God lists is that person must be a Christian and of course is able to get remarried.
God will give us the discernment and wisdom in choosing, but it is our choice. God does not make it for us.
In fact God recommends that we abstain from relations, but if we cannot, THEN we should marry.
So here is a thought.
If you knew for fact somehow that your walk for Christ would be richer and more rewarding without a spouse and family, would you be willing to put that away and go forward with the Mission the Lord designed for you?
I have actually given this a great deal of thought, especially these last few years. There are so many counterfeit Christians out there that believe in a buffet style Christianity that neither hold Truth, nor does it hold Obedience in the Word.
If I found myself married to a man that put himself out there as a Christian, and walked the walk till he found his wife, then suddenly he no longer wants to go to church or participate in Christian activities that bond us as Christians or nurture others in their walk, what then?
How many of us have been involved with people that "changed" into someone we barely recognized? You can say that evidently a person has rushed into things when this happens, but I don't really know that is the case. When you look at all the domestic violence out there, and frankly if you really knew how much of it was going on, you would be very shocked, those people obviously didn't get involved with someone believing they would get hit.
I think there are a lot of counterfeit hearts out there, both for Christianity and for those who just want to pretend they are "good people", but the truth is that without the Lord in our lives it is impossible to be "good" in any way really. Even with the Lord in our lives, we become better, but we all fall very short of what good really is. We don't even have a concept of it.
So many of today's relationships in the world do not have God in them and there is a vile self centered selfishness that seems to prevail and when you have two people that have that quality, it is probably a wonder there isn't a whole lot more domestic violence than there is already.
This have become a truly difficult world to bring children into as well. I am beginning to think more and more, our focus should be on helping each other, and praising God and not such a focus on our own self for we all know the days ahead are only going to get much worse, before He comes, and they get better.
Men usually find it easier staying single. Why would any man in his right mind get married? Obviously, Love makes men loose any common sense they may of had. "A virtuous woman who can find one? ...Her price is far above rubies."
You can check and find out what Ruby's price is. But a man should count the cost before building his house. A high maintenance woman can turn you away from God. :excited:
Sorry for the confusion on this topic. I enjoyed reading all ur points of view and thankx for sharing.
The question I was asking and many did understand what I was asking.
I was asking if people feel it's easier to marry and settle for any poor soul as opposed to waiting on what God has stored away for you? Again as I said before anybody can marry if they really wanted too. The Devil makes sure there are plenty of wrong ones crossing ur path. Like one of the replies we have to use discernment and be quick to kick them to the curb before they get our heart pounding. Once our heart starts pounding fast we become blind and fall for the wrong one. Always guard ur heart and pray that God protects ur heart and that you only give ur heart to the man God intended you too.
I really yearn to fall in love with the man Jesus has for me and just wanted everyone know it's hard......the waiting part not knowing who he is. So ask for prayers that God gives me strength and patience cuz I know he'll be worth the wait.
I know with 100% certainty that I will not settle for less than God's best for I've already passed this test. I've been tempted but the devil didn't succeed.
I've never had a problem with keeping pure sexually since committing to Jesus. Jesus has made that a cinch for me. He's taken away all those desires.
