Author	Thread: Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 2 Jan, 2025 10:31 PM I've unfortunately been feeling pretty down about not being able to find someone to date and settle down with. Some days, I don't mind at all like it completely slips my mind. It is very hard though when you see everyone getting engaged around you but you. One of my best friends has been married for about 9 years. I just learned that my other best friend got engaged this past year. I don't know what it is about me but no one seems to want to even embark on anything with me. I don't understand why. I find myself very positive, nice to be around, adventurous, and down-to-earth. I like a lot of different activities and such if they would just give me the chance. I've gone on dates where men just want physical, they are silent, or they just don't want to put any effort in. I do want to get married but can't achieve that if everyone hates me. Should I just give up or put myself more out there or what? Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 7 Jan, 2025 04:48 AM Sorry HezelEyesSparkle but I was only burned once and that was after a 99% great 28 year marriage. What it did was to light a fire under me to find out why a good marriage could be so easily destroyed by my Ex. By educating myself the result was the scales were removed from my eyes. I learned much about male and female nature and that female nature is far more easily perverted by Satan and is the main reason why society is in the poor shape it's in. While Satan has convinced women they were kept in bondage by the patriarchy and needed to be set free. This freedom they believe they now have is actually put them into true bondage. Unfortunately most don't even realize it. You, my Ex and every woman I have encountered here are following female nature. The problem with that is God is trying to teach us that most aspects of our own God given nature is evil and needs to be countered by what the Bible has laid down as examples. Are you doing that? Or are you following examples of feminism and other people? I keep hoping that you will wake up to what you're doing wrong, but you keep coming back with the same old complaints about not meeting the man of your dreams. Well that comes as no surprise to me because you keep doing the same things hoping for a different result and freetobe's so called advice won't change the underlying problems you're having. You want to attract men? Then you need to ask men and not other women especially the old bitter ones that destroyed their own marriages and are now seeking a non existent knight in shinning armor for them. You're still young and have a chance to meet a decent guy and have children, but I feel you're going to continue to flitter it away with poor judgement. All I can say is I've tried my best. Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 7 Jan, 2025 03:51 PM HazeEyesSparkle, glad I lightened your day with a little goofy humor. 😃🤣 But seriously, I understand your frustration. Having never married, I get it. Like you, I had opportunities but to this day I’m glad i refused most of them. Then there were those ladies I wanted but they didn’t want me. There’s maybe only 4 woman I should have given more thought to in moving forward with a relationship. (That didn’t sound right—I mean—I only need one woman but these “possibilities” came along at different stages in my life). But like momma always told me, “don’t give me any of that woulda coulda shoulda stuff.” Keep movin’ forward. Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 7 Jan, 2025 04:16 PM I’m neither sad nor glad I’m still single. But one thing is certain, I escaped the tragedy of multiple marriages like my long time friend. This person went in and out of marriage like l go in and outa consciousness 🤣🫣 Just wait and be patient. Not everyone who waits, waits so long. Be glad you’re not married to someone who “came out” AFTER you married him‼️ The best advice: pray often to God. EARNESTLY seek him. After all, he created you and the very air you breathe. He is more aware of you than the day and night that surrounds you. I’m not trying to be preachy but I’ve come along ways learning just that. (Shoulda known that when I was younger) Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 7 Jan, 2025 04:28 PM LD are you agreeing with freetobe that HazelEyesSparkel has to wait on God for her her mate? If so does that mean you believe that Gods picks who we marry and that we miraculously run across them when the time is right? Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 7 Jan, 2025 04:46 PM That’s a good question HM, because a lot of people think that way and I didn’t mean to imply it. I believe a person should seek God in everything with total commitment to what he requires in his Word. As for a mate, choose anyone you wish. Who is a person sold out to God going to choose? Of course, someone like themselves—one who is sold out to God!! HM, you appear to be one who is also seeking God and I appreciate that Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 7 Jan, 2025 04:50 PM But yes, an added note. Sometimes the timing of such an encounter with a like minded person just doesn’t always happen quickly enough Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 8 Jan, 2025 06:24 AM LD thanks for the clarification. I wasn't exactly sure what you were meant. For those who may think I'm angry at women or even hate women. That's just not the case. What angers me is how simple it is to see the cause and effect of what's going on and so many (especially women) just don't see it. I desperately want to help but my words to most are just flatulence in the wind. Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 8 Jan, 2025 08:12 AM Thanks HM, some women actually agree with you on some issues. I'm not sure where you stand here but Ann Coulter and some other women, for example, believe that women should never have been granted the right to vote. (I assume that’s still her belief). The reason for this couldn’t have been made more clear than in this last national election cycle. Men from nearly every ethnic group voted for Trump because they could see where our country was headed if the Marxist/Democrats won again. BUT, if I remember right, 👉every👈 ethnic group of women voted Democrat‼️ Many women were afraid they might loose the right to kill their babies by abortion ‼️😡 That’s sad‼️ Of course there were other issues but none of which were a justification for voting stupid. Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 8 Jan, 2025 10:53 AM I agree that women should not have the right to vote nor should they have ever been given that right. In fact when it was given to them the majority of women didn't want it and the only reason it passed was because they changed the law that would have forced women to be drafted into military service the same as men have to. Women aren't stupid but most lack enough logic to make the important decisions necessary for things to run true and proper. That's why God put men over women. But women are now running things that God didn't equip them for like marriage for one. That's why 70% of divorces are brought about by women. And the other 30% brought about by men are likely because the wives are insufferable and the husband has to leave to save his sanity. Post Reply
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 9 Jan, 2025 11:32 PM I agree that I have to wait for the right man and yes, God will grant that to me because He has spoken to me in two different times. So we'll see and no I am not a feminist at all. Post Reply

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