I have a lot I want to say but I guess I'll start here:
Ever since I was like 16 I have prayed for a wife but God hasn't sent one to me. I am beginning to think He either doesn't care or doesn't want me in a relationship.
For the longest time I have always met the wrong girls, and I can never seem to find anyone who is truly sold out for Jesus. To be honest, it's hard for me to relate to anyone who is not a Christian, that's why I can't conceive of ever being with someone who isn't.
Long story short, I have been going into long bouts of depression lately thinking maybe that it's just me. Maybe I am just too "different" for most people anyway.
My last church had tons of people my age there, but surprisingly enough I never fit in there. My peers seemed to only care about dressing up like movie stars or looking hip, cool, and relevant. Of course the girls my age there looked very intimidating, and they seemed to think they were God's gift to all guys. I wish they would realize that true beauty comes from the inside, not out.
I just wish there was something REAL out there. It seems everyone only cares about how they appear to others. I'm tired of all the fake facade and "worship me" mentality. My modern church-going experiences have turned into a feudal hierarchy system for the most part.
As for my depression, it's a real pride-killer to admit this on here but I could care less anymore. It's just that if I don't get this fixed now my relationship with Christ is going to suffer. Being on this site has made me feel like I'm a piece of merchandise that can't be sold. It's really sad, and I wish God would just take me into Heaven already so I don't have to deal with this.
I have already tried to psyche myself into thinking that I only need Jesus, and that did work for a long time; but it's almost as if I'm snapping now and can't hold back this flood of emotions.
LOL, I'm reading what I wrote just now and it really looks pathetic. I know, right? Again, I could care less what people think anymore. If I don't fit the stereotype of a confident, strong man I'm sorry.
"For the longest time I have always met the wrong girls"
you've met girls. you are looking for specific girls, so toughen up. at 22 you are going insane, wait until you are in your 30s like the other guy that commented, and you'll really know what a wait is.
Courtesy 101: Assuming for others never ends well.
You don't know the context in which I speak. I'm referring to those who aren't seemingly sold-out Christians in love with Jesus. If you want me to lose that requirement, then your admonition is not Biblical.
hmm, no, shouldn't lose that requirement, but that is a specific type of girl you are looking for, that is in fact on endangered species list. So at your young age, you have to understand to meet that requirement, you may be single for many years.
2) You are only 22. The fact that you haven't found a wife yet doesn't mean God won't bring you one. Read the story of Abraham and Sarah and their desire to have a son, God's promise that they would, and their mistake in trying to do it their way instead of God's way. Seriously, read it. It is so applicable to where you are right now in your life. They put their desire for a son (like your desire for a wife) before God. They rushed things, and instead of waiting for God's timing, they were afraid because of their age and thought they were running out of time. They didn't have faith that God could and would overcome their age to fulfill His PROMISE to them. So what did they do? Abraham had sex with Sarah's maidservant Hagar, who then begot Ishmael, the father of the Muslims. Isaac is the father of the Jews. And now the Muslims and Jews have been warring ever since. This entire disaster in the Middle East all goes back to Abraham and him not waiting for God to fulfill His promise and instead taking it into his own hands. So the point is, God's timing is almost never our timing, and if you try to take it into your own hands, only bad will come of it. Wait on God, and in HIS timing, He will bring you the joy that you seek.
3) You live in a bad area to try to find someone who is sold-out for Christ. I'm NOT saying you should move, because that may not be God's plan. But I do HIGHLY recommend praying and asking God if He wants you to move. Consider doing a missions school somewhere. IOnlyDateCheerleader's suggestion of staying active is a good one, and what better way to stay active than go into missions and spread the Word of God to those who are lost?
4) Self-diagnosis is a VERY dangerous thing. To do your own research and decide you have something like social anxiety disorder can cause serious issues as you may not be right. If you believe that there is something wrong, then seek professional help from a Christian psychiatrist or psychologist. They do exist, I promise :glow: But again, self-diagnosis can be a very very dangerous thing. For one thing, you may not have any disorder at all. It could be some feeling within you caused by external influences that the enemy is using against you. Or it could be a disorder, but a completely different one. It could be nothing, or it could be a serious problem. But if you believe you have something, then definitely go to a professional and hear what they have to say.
i think you need to set aside those negative thoughts. God knows it will only devour you. just need to take time and wait...go somewhere out there, eat ice cream with children and blow bubbles with them. LOL
and we all know that girls these days are pretty on the outside and that's one thing that makes the guys scared. let me tell you something we ladies aren't perfect too. we make mistakes just like men do.
---the only thing that makes me sad these days is that there are a lot of ladies who had a bad mouth. and when they are mad they attack men with such ugly words.poor men!----
i know you believe in love. you don't have to find love, you have to wait for it. believe me it's the best thing you can do.
about the "waiting" part, you don't have to choose a girl that has all parts of your check list. like i said before, we ladies are not perfect.
also get to know different girls, thru schools, work, workshops, church, parties etc and etc.
but don't forget to choose a certain girl.
-- if i were a guy i would go for girls that has more brains and not much of a beauty --
when i first met my bf i thought he was really all that weird,creepy and scary. but after months of knowing him he isn't really that bad at all. he did messed up on his life before and now his trying to fix it slowly. that thing that amazes me is that it was the time i got into a car accident and i was in hospital for two weeks. i was surprised to see that he was there helping me to stand up and walk again, although he knows that i was a bit heavy .
my point in this short story is that you should choose a girl that will take care of you in the future.
