Author	Thread: Guilt.
Admin	Guilt. Posted : 11 May, 2011 03:53 PM My primary problem is that I have trouble putting time into online contact, I get e-mails and have trouble answering them or just put them off altogether. I don't really mean to ignore people or come across as uncaring or rude, I just have a dim outlook on dating sites and relationships in general. I feel pretty guilty as I know someone put time into writing me, and I just didn't give them the effort I should have, or at least return the effort. I just sometimes get slightly depressed sitting in one place writing people who half the time end up not being who I thought. Does anyone also feel this way, or know how I can be better about this, maybe pray about it? Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 13 May, 2011 10:54 AM Rachel, I am that creep you wrote about earlier.:ROFL: So, are you going to send me a, I don't think we are a good match message?:dancingp: I hope so:dancingp::dancingp: Crazy ohio guy. Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 13 May, 2011 01:43 PM You're not a creep Dennis, we should have coffee. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 13 May, 2011 05:59 PM My primary problem is that I have trouble putting time into online contact, I get e-mails and have trouble answering them or just put them off altogether. I don't really mean to ignore people or come across as uncaring or rude, I just have a dim outlook on dating sites and relationships in general. I feel pretty guilty as I know someone put time into writing me, and I just didn't give them the effort I should have, or at least return the effort. I just sometimes get slightly depressed sitting in one place writing people who half the time end up not being who I thought. My thoughts, Instead of focusing on "online dating", I've considered how to best serve the Lord on sites such as these. Example - How would the Apostle Paul have used this site to spread the good news of Christ ;) As I'm sure we're all aware of, many people on Christian dating sites are in greater need of Christ than they are of a relationship with another person. Many broken people visit sites such as these as a safe way of exploring their own self worth - sometimes after being badly hurt. In short, If we place God first and keep ourselves open to the leading of the Holy Spirit in our contact with others, the Lord really is able to lead us in our contact with others, and that by His Power and not our own. On the other hand, If we unknowingly place our own desires before those of the Lord's, things can get heavy, tiring and grueling rather quickly :( Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 13 May, 2011 06:34 PM Something else that I've done that I'm going to have to do again, List some of your life, in my case - being a single parent, cooking, cleaning, dishes, laundry, classes, activities and running a small zoo :goofball: and then explain that those are the reasons people may not hear back from you. If that is stated up front in your profile, then people may not take you not responding to them so personally. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 13 May, 2011 09:33 PM Thank you, mr. dreamtime, for everything. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 14 May, 2011 05:46 AM You're very welcome MsMarvel. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 14 May, 2011 03:49 PM Meeting someone online is probably just about the same chances as in real life due to the heavy influx of people of dating sites. But there are certain handicaps for me that have been obstacles. Distance being a big one or age. The other one is eye contact, body language and just one on one communication. That is very difficult, even after webcamming with someone for months and he came across state to meet me. I saw red flags and had to sever it ,which upset us both a lot. Tough, but I probably needed to listen to that still, small voice much closer and would not have gotten that involved. Having said that, I met a couple of guys in real life, got to know them (individually) and found out they really did not have a personal relationship with the Lord, so I am doing like mydream said. Coming on here for friendship, fellowship and maybe offer prayer and encouragement. It's about Jesus, not me, pretty much anymore and how long it took me to arrive there. :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 14 May, 2011 03:54 PM What I was going to say and forgot: I usually thank guys for the winks and let them know I am not looking for a long distance relationship. Even though it is on my profile? Most guys do NOT read your whole profile, from my experience, they see the pics, read two sentences and make the move. Some add me to their favs, I thank them and they never respond. lol~ I had two creepy guys and one is blocked, so you do need to use wisdom and not care a whole lot about offending after you were polite the first time. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 14 May, 2011 10:54 PM Joey will you unblock me if I promise not to flirt with MsMarvel anymore? Post Reply
View Profile History	Guilt. Posted : 15 May, 2011 03:59 AM Rachel, maybe you should invest ten grand and get Tulip's sure-fire formula on how to be married within a year. If you invest today, it wouldn't be long till you could pull a 'Princekermit' and write "no longer on the market" on your profile. Guys would stop sending messages and you could stop feeling guilty cause you woudn't have any to reply to. LOL Post Reply

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