Author	Thread: Why is she keeping this from me?
Admin	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 09:28 AM I've been talking to a girl on here forever, like almost a year. We really like each other and I basically told her everything about me. She doesn't want to tell me her last name for some reason. What does this mean? Does she not trust me, is she hiding something, is she playing with me? What is wrong with this picture? I'm sure she's told everyone else she's talked to but she won't tell me. It's like I don't even know who she is. I told her my full name and tons of other stuff. She has no reason to not trust me. And when i say something about dating or whatever she says she doesn't want a relationship right now and yet she has tons of guy friends and talks to I don't know how many guys. She told me some story about a black man attacking her at work and how scared she was. Is she just playing with my emotions? I really have feelings for her and I care so much for her but she keeps distant from me. Should I just forget her or what? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 09:48 AM It either means she doesn't trust you, or is not interested in you. I would move on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 10:23 AM BlueKnight, You asked, "Should I forget her or what?" Depends on what you are capable of. Like Clint Eastwood said in some western movie; "A man has to know his limitations" This woman clearly wants to be "just friends" If you are capable of that, then be her friend, if you are not, then forget her. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 10:36 AM Gues you're right Sparrow. I should drop her like a bad habit. LOL. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 10:58 AM Just so you don't feel like the Lone Ranger instead of the BlueKnight, I have a similar situation as we speak. I have been talking with a great gal on this site on a daily basis. She has my full name, full address and even the name,address and web link of the church I attend. I have zero, squat, nadda. I think she 'might' be considering sharing a P.O. box # at her work, cause I mentioned I would like to send her a book I think she would like. To say it doesn't bother me alittle bit would be a lie, but it is only "alittle". It would be quite naive of me to think a person on a dating site doesn't have more than one pole in the water at the same time, and entertaining nibbles on a few of them. Women get scared or nervous for all kind of reasons, some legitimate and some not, but it doesn't matter if it is legit or not, if they are scared they are scared and it probably has little or nothing to do with you, and even if it did, what differece would that make?...Do you think you can change her mind?...No, the more you tried the worse it would get. Opps, I was supposed to be sharing my situation ...hahaha. Anyway, I am just going with the flow, letting this gal go at the pace she is comfortable with. That is one of only three choices a guy has. The other is to charge in, sometimes that works but usually only if they are desperate to get caught, and those are the kind you eventually throw back. Which leaves only one other choice; 'move on'. Be honest, sincere, complimentary and flirtatious, give it some time, if she comes around, great, if not, 'move on' or put her in the "friend category" (but even for the friend category certain criteria must be met) Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 11:04 AM Yea, I'm thinking about just leaving it there, us as friends. I mean I'm crazy about her but at the same time we don't always get along even though I feel a connection. But the more I press her the more she backs away. And she says stuff like she wishes I was there to hold her and it makes me wonder because she's saying she wants me there holding her but she doesn't even want to be in a relationship with me. It's like she just needs me and maybe likes the thought of me but she doesn't want to be with me. I guess nice guys really do come in last. Everyone tells me I'm a nice guy but girls always just want to be friends if that. I want to be there man, not just their friend. Man it's frustrating. I care and I don't want to be a jerk but I deserve to be just as happy as everyone else. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 11:59 AM BlueKnight, You shared: "the more I press her the more she backs away. And she says stuff like she wishes I was there to hold her and it makes me wonder because she's saying she wants me there holding her but she doesn't even want to be in a relationship with me." *Two things about women BlueKnight: 1) Most women (and men) want to feel wanted, in some it is so strong they will say or do anything...that doesn't mean they want you, just they want to feel wanted. 2) Many women do not wake up the same person everyday. What they honestly say from the heart one day will not be heartfelt two weeks later, many times it will be the polar opposite. I may catch flack for this, but I have been around enough women and ridden enough mares to know the truth. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 12:26 PM Whoaaaa there Buckaroo! You know I am a fan of yours, and I love you oodles and oodles! You are a gentleman. I believe YOU believe what you wrote about gals and mares...heck I am one of those two (a gal, wiseguy!) and I have to admit I "change my mind" about certain things. I have had two serious relationships since my divorce: both were professing Christians; both asked me to marry them; both met family, friends, church family; and both terminated the relationship abruptly and without any advance notice! My point is this: sin is sin, evil is evil and we all fall short...that's girls AND boys! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 12:34 PM Men are perfect. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 12:37 PM Marry Me! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why is she keeping this from me? Posted : 10 Jan, 2011 12:41 PM But don't tell Shawn67! (giggle) Post Reply

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