Author	Thread: How to meet a specific person at church
Admin	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 09:57 AM So how do you meet a specific person at church? Say you seem them sitting across the other side of the congregation? You don't see a ring on her finger and she is never sitting with a guy. You think is about the right age, but she still may be too young for you (too much of age difference). One obvious answer is to sit near them every week, presuming they always attend the same service and sit in the same place. But that takes so long, months have to go by before they really recognize you and you feel comfortable enough trying to ask them out. How would you ask someone out from church? Maybe ask them after service if they want to get coffee? I'd like to hear from the ladies how they would like a guy to approach them and from the guys how they would approach a woman. Thanks Post Reply
View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 11:03 AM Pay attention to what kind of car she drives. Then next Sunday park next to her car, and let the air out of one of your tires. Make sure that after service you get to the parking lot first. When she comes to her car, ask her if she would give you and your spare tire a ride to a gas station to air it up. After you get back offer to buy her lunch in appreciation for her help. If you are not willing to do that, then you don't want to meet her bad enough!..hehehe Post Reply
View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 11:05 AM PS... if she refuses to help, then next Sunday let the air out of one of her tires.....lol! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 11:08 AM Well, the last girl I wanted to meet got invited to community group by a girl who who already goes, and she introduced me. I think that's the ideal way, but it requires a significant amount of luck. Instead, just be bold. Just walk up to her and say, "Hi, I'm [insert name here]. I saw you were someone I hadn't met, so I thought I'd come introduce myself." Have a very brief conversation about involvement, how long you two have attended, etc., and then after 5 minutes, find an excuse to leave. Find her the next week and have another conversation with each other, which can be a little bit longer this time. When you do, make sure you find out something about her. Maybe she likes coffee. Maybe she likes books. Maybe she likes barbecue. Whatever she likes, tell her you know the best place for whatever it is she likes, and tell her to give you her number so the two of you can go there. Whether you know where it is or not, when she asks, just smile, look her in the eyes, and say it's a surprise. What you're doing here is creating a reason to meet her outside of church. You two share a common interest, and you're going to show her your favorite [whatever]. It's far less awkward and puts less pressure on her than if you say, "Hi girl I just met. I'd like to take you on a date." Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 12:11 PM I was going to go into great detail about how to go about it, but Tulip did it for me. Any guy who approached me in that way would certainly get my attention, and would most likely get a date too. :hearts: Post Reply
View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 12:26 PM Watch any random episode of How I Met Your Mother and go with that idea. Seriously though, I think it's best to just walk up stick out your hand, facing her directly, lean forward slightly, smile slightly, look her in the eyes but not laser lock, and say "Hi, I'm _____ (and then say why you're introducing yourself but lie a little bit. Don't just come out and say you like her obvoiusly, just say you're just saying hello or meeting new people or something like that)". In not so many words just friendly and directly/confidently introduce yourself. It might be a little trickier if she's in a group though. Not sure what I'd do there. I guess just stalk her till she's not in her group? Well not stalk, just keep an eye out for it. That's not the same thing right? Post Reply
View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 12:35 PM Apparently people are worried I might be serious...hahaha! Post Reply
View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 12:51 PM It was great, but it's just not as cool if we dwell on it. lol. I'd do it, except I'm lazy. lol Post Reply
shepherdess View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 01:25 PM I'm with bcp.... Tulip got this one right! Post Reply
View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 03:47 PM I like the idea of meeting her first one week, then having a bit of a longer conversation the next. You can also ask people if they know who she is, and if they know anything about her you can know a bit of her interests ahead of time. Post Reply
View Profile History	How to meet a specific person at church Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 03:48 PM Ok -- here is one for the ladies. Would you do this with a man? HAVE you done this and are willing to share your story? Post Reply

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