Author	Thread: Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping
NicoleMarieG View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 02:16 PM I wasn't sure where else to put this. Because I figured everyone would have an opinion and I was curious to see what thoughts were! I'm not shooting for arguments or anything. I hope this doesn't somehow turn into a fight. Anyway. I have a lot of friends on their way to marriage. And my sister and her husband have been married for almost three years. So I've been to my fair share of weddings. Big ones, small ones, and I've been the witness for one couple as they eloped. I'm curious. What are your thoughts? Or what do you think would be the ideal situation for you? Something big and grand? A huge celebration for all to end? Something small and intimate for close friends and family? Or just an escape with the one you love? My mama is probably the most influential person in my life. And during the prep for my sisters wedding she turned to me and said, Nicole? When you get hitched, do me a favor...elope. Go to Vegas or the Bahamas or Scotland and just elope. Get yourself an amazing dress, grab Katherine (my best friend), and get your partner to grab their best mate. And just do it. And then send me a postcard. A pretty postcard with a photo from the ceremony on the front. Lol. Now. Part of me thinks she was kidding. The other? I'm not so sure. Haha. I guess when you're little, you have this idea in your head for what a wedding ceremony is supposed to look like. Or a fantasy of it. What are yours? Has it changed over the years? Do you think its become more of a show for the family? And is it totally bride centered? I imagine men have thought about their wedding day! Again, I don't want to start a heated argument. I just want to get all "girly" and read some thoughts on the subject. I want to hear from first timers as well as those preparing for another marriage. Its silly, I know. But I'm a curious person. And recent events have made me wonder...What do others think about this whole wedding business. =] Nik Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 03:15 PM Yeah, I don't know what is up with weddings. Ironically, sometimes weddings seem to be a huge obstacle to getting married..which seems backwards. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 04:36 PM I want to elope. Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 06:34 PM I already had the big church wedding with the long white dress, reception, etc. etc. I don't need another one. My plan (God willing) for the next time is to have the smallest number of people attend (I have a big family) a small service in a chapel with stained glass windows. Afterwards, everyone goes out to lunch. Then, the bride and groom take off for the honeymoon. Cruise? Nice hotel somewhere? Disneyland? Bahamas? Mexico? I don't know and I don't care. :laugh: The important part is the ceremony. If my family/friends so choose, we can have a big reception/party when we return from the honeymoon. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 06:55 PM I'd like a small ceremony. Something simple yet charming, beautiful but not ornate, something where the vows don't get lost in gaudy materialism. Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 07:45 PM Reason number #37 why I will probably never get married. The wedding has to come in under a $1,000. Hey what can I say, I'm poor and cheap. lol Ok, seriously (well kind of), I really can not fathom spending $25k or $50k on a wedding. First of all, I don't have that, but second, why? just for a ceremony? How far would that go to a down payment on a house? to pay off all of ones debts? to secure themselves for the future? Besides I think the value is in the commitment to each other not the ceremony. So, either elope or really cheap local ceremony. Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 08:08 PM Something small, just my kids and his if he has any. A few friends. Laid-back, casual, outdoors. A barbecue and party afterward. Not stressed out about dresses and flowers and caterers and whether everyone's having fun. Just relaxing and celebrating the start of this new life. Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 30 Dec, 2010 04:25 AM A Very Small Ceremony. Post Reply
MargoSolo View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 30 Dec, 2010 07:43 PM Shawn, "Ok, seriously (well kind of), I really can not fathom spending $25k or $50k on a wedding. First of all, I don't have that, but second, why? just for a ceremony? How far would that go to a down payment on a house? to pay off all of ones debts? to secure themselves for the future? Besides I think the value is in the commitment to each other not the ceremony." :applause: I totally agree. No offense to anyone but I am mortified at some of these brial shows on TV where the girl spends $10,000 just for a dress...or even $5,000, or even less than that. How much better could that money be used? I don't believe in uber lavish but at the same time I am a bit miffed when I hear that older brides are "too old" to have a nice wedding, like they've outgrown it or something, especially if it is their first one! Post Reply
View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 01:36 AM I have gone back and forth on this in my mind many times, between wanting a small ceremony or a big ceremony. I am pretty sure I want to have a big ceremony. My reason is this: there are alot of people that have poured into my life, encouraging me, challenging me, influencing me and I would not be where I am without any of them. When I think about getting married and not being able to share it with them because I didn't invite them it kills me. If I have a small wedding because the people can't make it I am OK with that, and I know many people probably will not be able to come because all of the people are almost evenly split between Michigan and Nebraska. I know a few people that can make the dresses for very cheap as long as the fabric is provided. When my best friend got married she had a potluck reception and I think it worked out well for her. I don't know what her wedding budget looked like, but she had a huge wedding under $1000! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Big ceremony vs Small ceremony vs Just eloping Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 09:22 AM I want a simple ceremony and reception, but I want as many people to come as want to. It'll be an open invitation to my church, his church (if we go to different churches), and I'll send out individual invitations to friends, family, etc. For the reception, I just want to have cake, nuts, mints, punch, and maybe a fruit tray or veggie tray depending on how the budget is holding out. I'm a simple and uncomplicated person, and I want my wedding to reflect that. As for a budget, I'm thinking that I should be able to EASILY do a wedding for well under $2500. I would like to stay under $1000, but I don't know what sorts of prices to expect. Believe it or not, I already have about $4000 saved up to put toward a wedding and honeymoon...and I don't even have the guy lined up yet! Post Reply

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