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loveliestlady

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I have to talk before I burst!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 09:10 PM

I met a guy and we seemed to hit it off. I approach everything and everyone as a friend. So after a little while we admired what appeared to be good character traits in each other. Only to get to the point to when I visited him he gave me his room and in the middle of the night came in and asked to stay in there. After a sleepless night of staying way on the side of the bed I had he woke up and started showing me Leviticus and stating how sex out of wedlock is not fornication and was quoting the scriptures to back his point of view up????? Unbelievable who does that!!!! So that was his purpose to have sex not to get to know someone. That is the reason why I am soooo cautious and will continue to be. He was supposed to be a man of God. I am losing confidence in people. No one is chalking up to be what they say. I find people who are just looking for sex and that is out of the question. If that is the case they can save a lot of time I tell them that upfront so why do they continue? It is sad. That is why I have a serious friend rule. If you can't be my friend you can be nothing else. I keep getting these guys that want to rush everything. I am going to make that apparent upfront as well.

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Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 11:37 PM

Think of it as a favor from God, sorting the wheat and tares, sheep and goats ahead of time for you....or in this case sorting the sheep and wolves!

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Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 12:49 AM

Amen to that! And he tried to make it like I was not spiritual because I did not want to hear what he said about fornication not being a sin???? That is why you test everything with the Holy Spirit!

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Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 01:08 AM

Too bad you did not have 2 Timothy 3:6-7 handy....you could of drawn your sword.....

" They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over weak-willed women, who are loaded down with sins and swayed by all kinds of evil desires, always learning but never able to acknowledge the truth."

And then said "This is a case of mistaken identity; you got the wrong girl; you wormed your way into the wrong house... cause this girl ain't no weak-willed woman" ...hehehe

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Posted : 14 Dec, 2010 04:38 AM

I'm sorry to hear about your experience,I cant imagine how uncomfortable and uneasy you must have felt. My advice to you is definitely DO NOT meet up with this guy again under any circumstance. You can pray for him of course.....and don't get discouraged, good people are out there who want a relationship with you the person!

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Posted : 14 Dec, 2010 05:34 PM

Thank you all for your positive comments. I have met some nice guys. This was a reminder to me why I am very cautious. Why I insist on friendship and getting to know someone for a certain amount of time. I think getting to know someone is really cool! I don't know what the problem is. And I really don't know what the rush is about. It takes time to learn about someone and even more time to build on mutual attraction. Who wants to deal with an unsuccessful relationship. If there is a true relationship there to begin with and everyone maintains a Christian stance with maturity even after the romance dies down the friendship is still there. To me it is a win-win situation.

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Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 07:08 PM

The guy definitely sounds like a fraud. If he was legitimate with his beliefs he wouldn't have tried to pull that stunt.



Re: starting out as friends

The thing about starting out as friends is that there are some women that are unwilling/unable to transition from friends -> relationship. Once you're her friend, you're stuck.

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Posted : 17 Dec, 2010 02:21 PM

This verse is good too, Thess 4:3-8, Christians should not act as pagans with sex.

"this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. 7 For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness. 8 Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who has also given[a] us His Holy Spirit."



Technically a jewish wedding/marriage was not considered valid unless it was consumated first. Untill then it was an arrangement/bethothal or an exclusive time to get to know each other where emotional intercourse is cultivated, not sex. :rocknroll:

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Posted : 24 Dec, 2010 08:55 AM

You could avoid this in the future by not putting the STALLION and MARE in the same barn. HELLO

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Posted : 24 Dec, 2010 09:31 AM

LOL!!!!..PJ...so true!

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Posted : 25 Dec, 2010 02:52 AM

I want you to realise that there are good guys out there.You just found out one who is not.It will be wrong to classify or put all men into that mold because of that incident.There are christians out there who are worth their salt.Our place is to keep on searching.Our biggest problem is that we are too lazy to keep seeking.I strongly believe that if we diligently search,rather than give in to despire,God would definitely bring us to that partner who is compartible with us.

Take the case of our Lord Jesus.If He could have had a traitor among His disciples,how much more in a world where the majority of men are untrustworthy.Let us turn the case of the Lord Jesus' situation around to fit the situation in the world.It means out of every 12people or disciples,11 are traitors.Only one is trustworthy.It is our place to discover that one individual.And it takes hard work,as many of us are doing on this site.

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