Author	Thread: Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles
Admin	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 06:34 PM Ok, so yesterday I posted asking what people do on Friday nights. Well I learned I might need to go to the grocery store on Fridays since that is one of the things a lot of people do. lol So lets hear some ideas on ways to meet single Christians of the opposite gender. I mean we are not exactly going to get un-single if we keep sittin around the house. Someone mentioned they look for singles activities at other churches on Fridays. I still haven't figured out how to approach a single woman at church (if I could even find any), but that is an option. What other ideas can people think of? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 06:57 PM Why the Christian book store of course! After all, what reason could a non-Christian possibly have for going into a specifically Christian bookstore? Sure you'll probably run into some ChINOs (Christians In Name Only), but you run the same risk of both at church. Browse the aisles until you come across an interesting-looking woman and just start talking to her. "Hey, can you help me out real quick? I'm looking for a new Christian book to read, and there's just so many of them. Do you have any suggestions?" She's almost guaranteed to bite, and from that point you can just continue conversation wherever it goes. Before you go, get her number, and viola! You can call or text her in a day or two for a date! Alternatively, try recommending a book to her, pretending she works there, or just start talking to her about anything else you want. After all, you're in a Christian bookstore. It's pretty safe to assume you're a Christian, right? Post Reply
View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 07:05 PM Good one Tulip! Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 07:14 PM you know...he's right, I've been approached at the christian bookstore before, haha- when men try to start up conversation at the grocery store, well, Im pretty shy so I usually just answer they're question and it ends there and I try to avoid them in the aisles. cuz I know the market is a "meat" market/pick up place and I'm not there for that...it was even on the christian radio station! Shawn- most of us women just want a man to approach us and say "hey, I think your a beautiful woman and would like to get to know you":rocknroll: what is so hard about that? Hahaha...sweaty hands, lips trembling, fumbling with words, ugh, rejection is horrible. I'm glad I'm not a man, but if I was I think I would try to meet someone at church. At least we know we believe the same way, right? Honestly, you guys got it rough, I feel for you! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 07:26 PM I guess now the question is, as long as the guy isn't creepy/nervous/awkward and is actually friendly and engaging, would you have a problem meeting a guy at a Christian bookstore? Post Reply
View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 10:27 PM I'm pretty impressed with Tulip's idea, a Christian bookstore would be a great place. Any shopping area (WalMart, grocery stores, and I've come across men in clothing stores who come up pretending they need help picking something out) is kind of a given and a lot of people go that route, but having the "Christian" word in the title will probably a) finding a Christian woman easier and b) make women more receptive to you. I know I'd feel a lot more comfortable with a guy approaching me in a Christian bookstore than the guy who comes over telling me how beautiful he thinks I am. I don't think I can top that, but something you have probably already tried is "networking", whether you've put effort into it or not. If your mom knows you're single she will probably tell a friend, who will tell a friend who has a single daughter, or whatever. Big churches are probably good for that, you know, the kind of church where you only know 5% of the attendees by name. I mention it just because an awful lot of people (the ones who didn't meet in high school or college, basically) say they met through a mutual friend/acquaintance. Post Reply
View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 03:03 AM "I guess now the question is, as long as the guy isn't creepy/nervous/awkward and is actually friendly and engaging, would you have a problem meeting a guy at a Christian bookstore?" It really is all about the delivery, it really is. My friend showed me this at the mall and grocery store on different occasions. Just straight up ask (on my behalf. haha)something like "Excuse me, would you go out with this guy?" or "How old are you? Can I get your number?" Focus on how you say it, rather than what you say. It really is that simple and it sounds way more catastrophic than it really is and it just gets easier next time. So there's that... Post Reply
View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 03:08 AM Make sure she has a friend or is behind the counter. If she's just by herself she'll probably get spooked. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 07:32 AM I don't think it's a problem if she's alone, especially if you're in the book store setting. Just don't hang around too long. In a short conversation, you can quickly figure out if both of you are having fun, usually by whether there's laughter and solid eye contact. Finish things up with, "Well I've gotta go check out. It was really nice meeting you (her name). Why don't you give me your number so we can continue this later?" That way you're not standing around awkwardly and creeping her out. If you have a hard time starting conversations like this, just start asking people in the store for recommendations on books, even old men. Think of it like a warm up. You're not trying to hit on them, so what's there to be afraid of? Post Reply
View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 01:12 PM Christian book stores are few and far between around here. Small, and focused on --- ah -- I don't want to say the denomination specifically because it might start it up again between -- um -- two men on this site. :laugh: Suffice to say I don't go to those stores. I have no idea where Christians meet around. Been here 2 years and haven't figured it out. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Lets hear some ideas on how to meet other Christian singles Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 01:21 PM Where do Christians meet in Pacifica, California? My guess would be San Francisco. Post Reply

First

Page : 1 2 3

Next  10 >>

Last