Author	Thread: Insta Rejection
BeautyFromAshes View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 09:09 AM I had a question.. is this common. This is my first time being on any dating website. and since joining I've only spoken to 2 people. Not a bad thing.. but I have private messaged tons of others and either got the generic Instant I'm not interested button even tho i was not looking anything more than a conversational friend. or my Private Message was read but never replied too. And this has been about 30/40 People who have done this :party: if I hit 50 I wanna through a party /joke :dancingp: But anyway is this common? Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 09:14 AM It's very common. But at least you got a few "not interested" responses. I can't even get that. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 10:13 AM Other than checking to make sure the account is still active, one of the most important things to remember here is that not everybody is looking for a long distance relationship. This is a dating site, so if a girl already knows she doesn't want to date you, there isn't much incentive for her to invest a lot of time in building a friendship with some guy a thousand miles away. Also try to make sure that your messages are more original than, "Hi I like your profile. Message me if you're interested." Girls get lots of messages on here, and that makes it hard to stand out. Hopefully some of this helps! Ian, I've said it before, but I really believe your biggest problem is that you don't have a picture of yourself up. I've seen numbers saying that profiles without pictures are 10x less likely to get a reply, which means you could go from 1 reply in 100 messages to 1 reply in 10 just by adding a picture or two of yourself. Post Reply
View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 11:15 AM Common?...I'll get a" wink", so naturally I read her profile check out the pics and reply with a nice message...never to hear from her again. What's up with that ??? Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 11:37 AM The big thing that bothers me is that she won't use the "sorry, not interested" button. If she's not interested, that's fine, but it's frustrating to not get any response at all. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 12:16 PM What's the big difference between an automated rejection message and not responding though? I mean really. You know she's not interested either way. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 02:14 PM The cruel self-wounding hope that you have until you give up hope that she will ever answer. That's the difference between the two. :laugh: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 02:38 PM Do girls often read your message and then wait a couple days to message you? "I just got busy and forgot for a couple days" has always meant she isn't really interested to me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 04:07 PM Well, I almost always respond to my messages. I try not to use the form letter response, but it happens if I get really inundated. Lately, with all of the stuff going on in my life, I've slacked off with responding to things in a timely fashion. I've barely been on here the past few days, so stuff has either sat there for a few days unresponded to or has gotten a very quick response. One factor that is really important here is to read the girl's profile in its entirety. I would say that about 80% of the time, it is blatantly obvious from the guy's message that he hasn't read my profile. I'm less than eager to respond to those. I'm also less than eager to respond to messages that are full of questions. I don't mind a few questions, but sometimes it's just too much, especially if I glance at the guy's profile and am not even remotely interested. How this generally has worked for me is that I glance at the guy's profile before even reading the message. If I don't like his profile, then the message gets skimmed. What I'm doing there is determining if he just has a question for me (regarding something I said on the forums, etc.) or if he's trying to start up a relationship. If he just has a question, then I politely and briefly answer it in such a way that wouldn't naturally lead to further conversation. If he wants to start up something romantic, then I let him know that I'm not interested. If I like his profile but am not available (such as is the case right now), I let him know that specifically so that he doesn't go away feeling completely rejected. Anyway, that's just me. All of the women on here have different procedures for responding to messages. Post Reply
View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 04:09 PM @Tulip: Sometimes, even if I REALLY like a guy, his message doesn't get responded to promptly. That's happened a couple time for me in the past week or so because life over here has been crazy. So, I wouldn't necessarily take that personally. Post Reply
View Profile History	Insta Rejection Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 04:42 PM Being on the forums helped me.It takes several months to fit in. people who are not on the forums hardly respond. I become friends with more people on the forums. Dennis Post Reply

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