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Admin	If Love is Blind... Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 04:14 AM Why do we put so much emphasis on physical attraction when seeking relationships? I am not saying that physical attraction isn't important, but people tend to focus more on the external than the internal when looking for a relationship. If we only focus on the physical characteristics of a person, then our relationships will be shaky at best (just my opinion based on what I have researched and given counsel on). For me...I need more than just a pretty face and nice body, that part of a person WILL change as we go through life. The spirit and character of a person however, won't vary that much and when it does change it usually changes for the better....when living for Christ. What are your thoughts? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 08:27 AM It would seem that love isn't completely blind then. Post Reply
View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 09:49 AM That expression was not made by a Christian. And, not everyone puts great emphasis on physical characteristics. I am reminded of a lady I knew years ago who was talking to a group of us about her late husband. She said she didn't know he had a bald spot at the top and back of his head until she saw their wedding pictures! She said she was so in love with him that she never even noticed. That is the kind of "blind" love we are capable of, if we just let God work. Post Reply
View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 09:51 AM Love takes time to build, you don't love someone from the begining. When you are searching, there is no love involved, it is mearly a matter of trying to find someone that will please you. That is why we focus on the appearance and not on the spiritual side. Love comes later. Post Reply
View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 10:30 AM it would be nice if love were blind but sadly it is not. I know I try very hard to know a person not how they look. I also know that my plain looks keeps men from looking twice at me, however I figure if they do not then they were not to be in my life.. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 11:55 AM I always understood it to be more metaphorical, but I must have been wrong? For example, I thought it meant that the person you're in love with can actually have some very bad habits or flaws, like literally stealing candy from babies or shoving kids out of a swing so they can use it or sitting on the aisle wherever you are so they can stick their leg out and trip people who walk by for a good laugh, but you don't see any of that because you're blind to it, and even when people tell you, you don't believe them because you have tunnel vision. I mean, those are extreme examples of course, but I just always that's what it was about. That you were blind to someone's flaws, flaws that go deeper than the physical. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 11:56 AM Or, not even necessarily character flaws. But you could fall in love and then the person ends up being dumb as a brick, but you don't notice because you're in love. Things like that. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 01:50 PM Attraction should be mind, body, and soul. If you have all three then you will have a very good chance of having a lasting relationship. There will be no huge conflicts because you would agree on most things, there would be no huge splitting differences in your religious beliefs because you believe similarly, and there would be no huge temptations to lust after someone else because you're attracted to them in every way. And there is a lot more to physical attraction than just a body and a face. It can be the way someone smiles, or moves, or speaks. Many things tie into it, and I know it can exist because I'm pretty sure I found it. I think that anyone that settles for just a couple of those three things is doing just that. Settling. I'm a believer in the "whole package":laugh:. :peace::peace: Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 17 Oct, 2010 04:29 AM I think everyone needs more than just a pretty face, but physical attraction is important. Let's face it, here, we are seeking mates, not people to hang out with. If you're seeking a mate, you're looking forward to holding hands, making out, and everything that comes after. Why wouldn't physical attraction be part of that? Put another way, relying exclusively on physical attraction is unGodly; ignoring all physical attraction is unGodly. You should be attracted to your wife/husband -- mind, body, and soul. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 17 Oct, 2010 08:48 AM Silver hit the nail on the head with the part about relying on or denying physical attraction being ungodly. If you want proof that physical attraction is Biblical, just read the Song of Solomon! If it was ungodly to have physical attraction be part of your focus, the Song of Solomon, a book all about being enamored with the particular woman's beauty, never would have made it into the Bible! There are other mentions throughout of the men thinking their wives-to-be are very beautiful. But on the other hand, focusing entirely on physical attraction is also ungodly. A perfect example of that is David. He saw Bathsheba, and based entirely on her looks he had her brought to him , even knowing she was married. He committed adultery, and then to cover it he murdered Uriah. And if murdering Uriah wasn't already bad enough, he did it in cowardly fashion. Post Reply
Petriebird View Profile History	If Love is Blind... Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 08:53 PM Personaly if someone catches my eye it usually tells me that they are in my age range and probably single. First glance at least. I know that there are far more important things then physical attraction but to be honest I want to love everything about the person I'm going to spend the rest of existance with. And yes physical attraction is part of that. Physical beauty should get your attention, it's everything else that keeps it. Post Reply

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