Author	Thread: Interpreting what a guys says
Tulip89 View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 11 Sep, 2010 10:25 PM Ladies, please stop trying to read things into what a guys says. We say what we mean. My roommate's fiancee got incredibly mad at him today because she tried to interpret a text he sent. Interpret your female friends all you want since you likely need to, but just take guys at what we say, ok? It will cause you far less stress. Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 12:17 AM Gud advice, Tulip. From now on dealing with guys, I will only read what is written and hear what is spoken and none other! :prayingm: God helps me with this lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 01:26 AM It goes both ways. Also don't feel like you have to hijack other peoples problems everytime one comes up. If you think about it, it's kinda insulting to think they aren't capable of handling it on their own. Again, both sides. You know what they say about as(s)(out of)u(and)m(e)ptions. :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 04:20 AM One question, if a guy says "I love you" would that really means that he really loves, or he just want that person he told he loved to stick around? Rethinking of this, I think many men aren't really true with what they say aloud, e.g. actions are not synchronized with words? Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 09:23 AM Wow -- I really needed to "hear" these words, Tulip. This is something I really struggle with and part of it for me is a trust issue. My honey will say something to me and sometimes I'm thinking, "Is he just saying what I want to hear?" or, "Is he just trying to be nice?" And I know that's not true because I do trust him and intellectually know that he does mean what he say. But then, silly me starts tying to interpret what he actually might mean and starts to question him... And, ya, this makes him upset. And it really would just be so much easier on me if I would just accept what he says! Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 10:20 AM hey guys, that's a good piece of advice!!!!! really, I once met this awesome guy on here, and sadly our friendship ended because of some misunderstandings (occurring repeatedly). We actually decided not to talk any more as it was a clear sign that we didn't trust each other enough as to believe what the other person was saying (without reading into it and jumping to conclusions). On the other hand, one cannot be careful enough while dating online. Once beaten twice shy. Considering all scammers spammers and deceitful people - maybe it isn't that bad to remain a little suspicious about the intentions of the other person? at least until you actually meet them huh? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 11:09 AM Yeah, there are exceptions, especially if the person you are dealing with has proven themselves to be untrustworthy. I wrote in absolutes out of frustration. Sure the problem was between the two of them, but their problems turn into my problems in one way or another. To answer your question more specifically Jesusloves, I've never told a woman I loved her because I never meant it, and I don't think any other strong Christian man would either. Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 11:52 AM Marianna! It's so good to see you on here again!! =) Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 05:49 PM Marianna! Gud to see u here :applause: I gotta be honest it's a really big deal for women not to interprete thingsssss Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 08:26 PM Well stop it! If you really trusted us, you would take us at our word. Reading, "My roommate wants to hang out, and he is more important to me than you" into "I'm sorry, but I can't get motivated to study tonight. Can we do it tomorrow?" or whatever just screams, "I say I love you, but I don't really trust you" to us. Also, it makes us think you're crazy. Post Reply
View Profile History	Interpreting what a guys says Posted : 12 Sep, 2010 08:37 PM Crazy isn't good. Unless it's crazy sexy... haha... Post Reply

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